Question about masturbation...

[vengefulvixen]

Somebody mentioned something in another thread that got me thinking about this, so I figured I would ask for a little advice.
My b/f has masturbated in front of me several times. I find it totally erotic and a major turn-on. Problem is, now he wants me to do it for him. I'm not really shy about my body or anything it's just, I'm scared of looking stupid! I don't want him to think I'm wierd or anything because of the way I do it. So, any advice on what to do or how to get over this fear? Have you done it? If so, what was it like?
Much appreciation...

 

[MrBates]

Being Fearful

Vengeful,
Masturbating in front of my partner, and especially WITH my partner, is a MAJOR turnon for me.

I've done it on a few occasions. I know what you mean about how you can be a little nervous the first time, but if you do it in a non-rushed manner, and especially if you do it together, it can be a lot of fun.

Relax. Start with your normal foreplay. You might want to just wait for him to bring it up, and then tell him that it might be easier for you if you both did it together.

You could close your eyes and imagine yourself totally alone if you want. (To me though, part of the turnon is watching how excited my partner gets while watching me)

Trust me, your b/f is not going to think you're doing anything wrong. Not only is it a major turnon for most of us guys, it's also very educational....what better way to show your partner just exactly how you like being touched, than to show him how you bring yourself to orgasm?

MrB

 

[SexyChele]

I agree with Mr Bates.

Besides, I would think very few women masturbate in the exact same way - much like the guys!

I've not met a man yet who didn't think the sight of a woman pleasuring herself - no matter how she did it - was something totally erotic. I'll bet you could stand on your head and get yourself off, and your S/O would be in total awe. I always get a charge out of a man watching me. The hungry eyes, slack jaw, shifting his growing cock - it's all good. So sit back (or lay back or stand or whatever) and enjoy it. He will.

 

[millieteases]

Let me get in this line, too. The first few times I did it for my lovers I did close my eyes. But then I just did it, and watched them.

My guess is he doesn't know a lot about how women masturbate beyond what you see in porn movies. Just do what you do normally and I bet it's a tremendous turn-on for him.

Now, if you want to experiment with different ways to masturbate, it might be fun to check out some web sites or Betty Dodson books and experiment for your lover...

 

[lovetoread]

It was heavenly when I did it.

The problem I have is that I rarely get to cum when I do it,as he has a habit of just taking me right then,because it turns him on so.

Once you get into it,the thought of him watching will be a turn on.

 

[Guest]

Just act naturally !!!

 

[Lust Engine]

From this lustful male here, there's very few things more sensual than watching a beautiful woman fan herself to the edge of ecstasy. Watching you grind, writhe & twist as the tension builds up between your thighs is a major turn-on for us guys. Be thankful that we have the restraint to hold back as much as we do! Something about watching you use that toy or just your hands on just the right places and at that perfect rhythm is absolutely wonderful to behold. Please feel free & unhibited in front of us. We adore you worshipping your body; we only hope by watching you that we can come close to duplicating that same level of arousal.

 

[vengefulvixen]

Thank you a lot. I am going to try, though I think I might have to keep my eyes closed at first. But at least it's a start!

 

[peachykeen]

just do it. forget about how you look because I guarantee you whatever you like like, whatever you do, he will love it.

 

[lilpriss]

now about masturbating in front of your partner...
It's a kick! keep the sheet over yourself at first if you're
nervous and tell him that the more worked up you get the farther he can pull the sheet down. ;-)

Just a suggestion

 

[vengefulvixen]

wow lilpriss, best suggestion yet! (no offense to all of the other wonderful and most helpful tips I've been getting) Now I think I'm definitely ready to do it. After all, he did it for me. I think the sheet thing may really help with this one, can't wait to try it now...

 

[james4you]

The first time that I had a woman masturbate in front of me, she was a bit nervous.

Here’s the little role playing that we did to get over it! She pretended that I wasn’t home, went to my bed, leaving the bedroom door open. She lifted up her skirt, removed her panties, got a little lubrication, as started to play with herself! I gave her sometime, to get into the mood, then I peak into the bedroom to see her totally into it! Eyes closed, soft moans, arching her back, knowing that at anytime I would be watching her! I was totally turned on at the sight!! I softly said, “wow”, and entered the room. With a huge smile on her face, she continued. I told her that I was totally erect, and in a matter of seconds she had a huge ORGASM, while she gazed into my eyes …

 

[Guest]

You could always try mastrubating with your panties on. Just put your hand(s) underneath a sexy string bibkini. You may feel more comforable, leaving him to use his imagination until you are fully ready! --Jen

 

[Lust Engine]

I told her that I was totally erect, and in a matter of seconds she had a huge organism, while she stared into my eyes … [/B]

I sincerly hope you meant ORGASM and not an organism!

 

[Lust Engine]

wow lilpriss, best suggestion yet! (no offense to all of the other wonderful and most helpful tips I've been getting) Now I think I'm definitely ready to do it. After all, he did it for me. I think the sheet thing may really help with this one, can't wait to try it now...

Okay, seeing as how you're taking suggestions from here, I think a few of us would like to hear the report back? We want to know how it went now!

Again, I doubt if there's anything you can do that'll turn him away. Just enjoy your body to its fullest & I'm sure he'll appreciate you for it

 

[vengefulvixen]

My results...

Well, I fianlly did it. I told him that I was going to do it, and asked him to not laugh. So I just laid down on the bed and started right into it. At first I was really nervous, (mostly because he was staring!) but then as I got into it, it was so amazing. It felt so good, and that combined with him watching me, just sent me over the edge. Huge orgasm. Then the sex that followed was so amazing. I'm definitely doing it again.

Thanks everybody for your help in getting me over this little fear of mine. It's totally appreciated. And sorry it took a while to post back but I kept putting off actually doing it. I'm glad now though that I took the plunge. Amazing!

 

[lilpriss]

I just have one thing to say...

Y.G.G. <- YOU GO GIRL.

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: My results...

Well, I fianlly did it. I told him that I was going to do it, and asked him to not laugh. So I just laid down on the bed and started right into it. At first I was really nervous, (mostly because he was staring!) but then as I got into it, it was so amazing. It felt so good, and that combined with him watching me, just sent me over the edge. Huge orgasm. Then the sex that followed was so amazing. I'm definitely doing it again.

Thanks everybody for your help in getting me over this little fear of mine. It's totally appreciated. And sorry it took a while to post back but I kept putting off actually doing it. I'm glad now though that I took the plunge. Amazing!

Well awwwright then!

I'm glad this isn't your last time and you found the first time so enjoyable. I'm sure your BF loved every moment of it too! And no need to apologize about reporting back here- it's not like we're the Sex Police or anything!

Again, I'm glad you enjoyed yourself.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

good try...

The best thing to do is simply have him play with himself while watching you.

I bet you willg et so into watching him that you won't care. You'll already be touching yourself and putting yourself over the edge, so it should be a good time had by all

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