Question about Daddy/littles

[Kitten20057]

Hi, my name is kitten. And I'm a little. *waits for crowd to say hello, kitten* I have been a little for a very long time. I'm almost 35 now if that gives you an idea of how long. My husband is aware of my littleness, and yes, I know that's not a word. Anyway, he is aware and he indulges it both in and out the bedroom. But I have been thinking lately, am I too old for ddlg? And if I am, how do I change? Will I change? I know this isn't therapy but it's all I've got so I was wondering if anyone else feels this way? Or have an advice in general. Thanks!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I think we all have a wide variety of experiences and whatever works for us, well, it works for us. I'm a bit older than you, in a Daddy/babygirl relationship, and I see no reason to redefine our relationship because of my age. It works for us.

Are you uncomfortable with anything? Is that causing you to question your situation? If you have reservations, then you should explore them. But, if you feel good, then allow yourself that.

 

[Primalex]

People change over time or they don't, this is hard to say. It doesn't happen with a bang though where you wake up one day and go like:"Fuck this shit". Let's face it, in reality it is society that troubles us, not the way we are.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Kitten20057]

I think we all have a wide variety of experiences and whatever works for us, well, it works for us. I'm a bit older than you, in a Daddy/babygirl relationship, and I see no reason to redefine our relationship because of my age. It works for us.

Are you uncomfortable with anything? Is that causing you to question your situation? If you have reservations, then you should explore them. But, if you feel good, then allow yourself that.

I think I am uncomfortable, but I'm not really sure what I'm comfortable with. I don't know if its the getting old or the idea that I still like stuffed animals or what is bothering me. I guess a lot has to do with the idea that I'm getting older and I wonder if he might trade me in for someone who is younger. And I don't know why I feel that way. He's never made any kind of hint that he thinks I'm getting old.

People change over time or they don't, this is hard to say. It doesn't happen with a bang though where you wake up one day and go like:"Fuck this shit". Let's face it, in reality it is society that troubles us, not the way we are.

You are exactly right. I keep thinking, ok you are too big for this, you are too big for that. And a lot of times I say that not only based on my age but also because of my size. It is definitely not something he has put in my mind because he loves me no matter what but I think it has a lot to do with the way society is.

Its working for both of you OP? Then its good. While we shouldn't restrict ourselves from growth for another, its also worth considering that it might suit your partner to 'Daddy' you as much as it suits you to 'little'. Before embracing this side of me I used to feel intense guilt and flight ones over the nurturing I accepted in my relationship with G, something I had not accepted before. I am accepting now that while this is something I feel benefit from its also something HE likes! and that to nurture and care is something that answers HIS call, and so its mutually beneficial.

I think Primalex is right that it can be a societal issue, but only if the situation is mutual. If not then sure, its a problem, and its probably as well we ask our selves this, and also check in that's its not hampering our growth. I think I am finding otherwise. And still I find this a little scary and 'wrong'. ( showing I suppose how strong the society message Primalex raised is, even when its accowledged and intellectually dealt with)

I am someone who definitely questions if something is right or wrong or scary or whatever. I am the biggest scaredy cat ever. And society has definitely made me that way. Or I should say I have allowed society to make me this way. I wish I could get to the point where I say eff it and ignore everything around me. Does that come when you stop being little, I wonder?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I think I am uncomfortable, but I'm not really sure what I'm comfortable with. I don't know if its the getting old or the idea that I still like stuffed animals or what is bothering me. I guess a lot has to do with the idea that I'm getting older and I wonder if he might trade me in for someone who is younger. And I don't know why I feel that way. He's never made any kind of hint that he thinks I'm getting old.


I am someone who definitely questions if something is right or wrong or scary or whatever. I am the biggest scaredy cat ever. And society has definitely made me that way. Or I should say I have allowed society to make me this way. I wish I could get to the point where I say eff it and ignore everything around me. Does that come when you stop being little, I wonder?

If it makes you happy and it's hurting no one, then why force a change? That said, you indicate you are uncomfortable. Have you talked to him about this?

You do realize you can change aspects of your relationship if you want to. Not all Daddy Dom relationships include age play. Mine doesn't. It's more of a nuturing and caring dominant mindset for him. I don't act like a little girl, but I am definitely his babygirl. Maybe some redefining would help you feel more comfortable?

We, here, can offer you our perspective and our experiences, and hope that it helps. You really are going to need to talk to him. Can you?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]