question about after a relationship ends...

[casuallysweet]

I was recently with a guy who meant alot to me, we were not together for a very long time. but everything felt right when we were together, I am not the kind that has ever felt like getting married or having kids, but when I layed next to him, I felt like I needed nothing more out of the world, except him and a family that we could have had together. well he decided to go back to his ex girlfriend, because they had more history, and knew everything about eachother. we got into an arguement and he told me that he can't have me in his life at all, it would be best for him. then he asked me if I had ever heard the expression 'meeting the right person at the right time' so he was telling me that we were right for eachother, it just wasn't the right time. and that's very upsetting...becuz couldn't you make it the right time. and also, the expression there is a right person out there for everyone...does this mean I'm screwed, that he was my right person, but I can't have him? I also kissed another guy last night, and all I could do was compare him with my old guy, and think about my old guy....is this normal? I think about him constantly...how do I stop this, and move on?

 

[JazzManJim]

Just give it time.

It sounods form what you've said, like he meant more to you than you did to him.

Just live your life and enjoy every moment. You'll still think of him from time to time. That's normal. But the questions and pain will fade as it always does. And you'll find someone entirely wonderful and the old guy won't matter one bit anymore.

That or one day he'll be going down a hill in his car and find out he has no brakes, thanks to a sharp knife.

One way or the other, you'll be right.

 

[FallenSeraph]

He's either uncertain about your relaionship and is trying to comfort you, or he's bullshitting you with all the crap to make you feel better. Either way, you gotta go out cuz there's more than one fish in the sea, there's like nine or ten of them...

...either way, wanna sit on my lap so I can make you feel better?

 

[slowfingers1]

/hugs Casuallysweet

You wont stop thinking about him for a while.. Jazz is right, give it time :/ Now.. my advice would be to spend time with your friends, stay busy doing things that you like doing.. you might be suprised at what you find.. I got a lot of support from people who I didnt know were very good friends when a similar thing happened to me, helped me a lot to find people to talk to, not really vent, but maybe just to help me realize that it wasnt all my fault, that the blame I had dropped squarly on my own shoulders wasnt just mine.. I'm rambling

Above all, take care of yourself, try to eat right, try to get enough sleep, try to do things that make YOU happy

Slowfingers
*Tease me!*

 

[casuallysweet]

Jazz - I thought I meant alot to him, he'd always told me that he thought I was hot, and wonderful...he even told me I gave him the most amazing physical experience of his life...he talked about our future, I just can't help but believe that he's going to want me back someday

fallen - sure, I'd love to sit on your lap...cuddling is the best...especially skin to skin

slow - I am going to try to spend time with friends, I have recently had a falling out with my (ex) best friends...so I'm trying to make new friends...it's also hard to get away from guys in general cuz there are a few guys who want to get with me, kiss me, blah blah blah...you know guys...but sometimes I feel so not ready, cuz my heart is in pieces...

thank you all for your advice, hopefully I'll find some support in real life, and here...love you all

 

[onewingedangel]

I am going through something sorta similar. I wish I had the answers, but I can say just be happy with what you had together.