Hello everybody, I am javier, from Spain, this is my first post on this board.
I got a female friend, she was married to a guy. When they met, she was 13, and the guy was 21. So they married when she was 16, and had two children( boy and girl). Obviously, from the outside this seems the classic case of pregnant teen with an older guy, with no future whatsoever. But they managed to stay together for 12 years.
A few years ago, when he was 33 he abandoned her (not that shocking), and married a 18 years old girl. (a younger model, as to speak). A few months later the new one delivered a baby girl, and 3 months later she was pregnant again (another baby girl). So she's barely 20 and mother of two baby girls with the guy.
Now, do you think one of the causes of she getting pregnant again is because she wanted to have a boy? These people is from Ecuador, so there having a male heir is important.
Second, during the time the guy was with my friend he managed to make some good investments, and had a bit of money. When he abandoned my friend, he made some bad moves and is almost bankrupt.
So I guess the new one thought she had got the jackpot, but now things are less rosy. Two baby girls in a macho culture country, and husband who has lost his money, and perhaps blames his bad luck on her, the fact that she started as a lover, or "family breaker", so she can´t blame anyone else for her misfortune, etc.
By the way, notice how the guy always seem to pick up much younger girls, so we can see he's got a predatory mindset.
So how would you read the whole situation, and what prediction for the future would you forecast?
PS, if you are wondering "why do you care about all this", the answer is that I had strong feelings for my friend, and it's interesting to see other people's opinion in an anonymous way , and understand better how can I cope with my feelings.
I got a female friend, she was married to a guy. When they met, she was 13, and the guy was 21. So they married when she was 16, and had two children( boy and girl). Obviously, from the outside this seems the classic case of pregnant teen with an older guy, with no future whatsoever. But they managed to stay together for 12 years.
A few years ago, when he was 33 he abandoned her (not that shocking), and married a 18 years old girl. (a younger model, as to speak). A few months later the new one delivered a baby girl, and 3 months later she was pregnant again (another baby girl). So she's barely 20 and mother of two baby girls with the guy.
Now, do you think one of the causes of she getting pregnant again is because she wanted to have a boy? These people is from Ecuador, so there having a male heir is important.
Second, during the time the guy was with my friend he managed to make some good investments, and had a bit of money. When he abandoned my friend, he made some bad moves and is almost bankrupt.
So I guess the new one thought she had got the jackpot, but now things are less rosy. Two baby girls in a macho culture country, and husband who has lost his money, and perhaps blames his bad luck on her, the fact that she started as a lover, or "family breaker", so she can´t blame anyone else for her misfortune, etc.
By the way, notice how the guy always seem to pick up much younger girls, so we can see he's got a predatory mindset.
So how would you read the whole situation, and what prediction for the future would you forecast?
PS, if you are wondering "why do you care about all this", the answer is that I had strong feelings for my friend, and it's interesting to see other people's opinion in an anonymous way , and understand better how can I cope with my feelings.
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