ScrappyPaperDoodler
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WARNING — This is a ramble! 
So, today I wrote what’s probably the most 'pornographic' scene I’ve ever written. After writing it, I wondered if I’d gone too far with the sex…
When I started writing, it was straight to brother-sister stuff (easy, since I don’t have a sister). Then, readers wanted a mom-son/daughter thing and I eventually did it (less easy, since I have a mother). As that’s been happening, the sex has also gotten more explicit. My early stuff was a tad sterile and I was scared to even say the word 'sweat'. That was mainly because I was shy/worried about offending readers.
In a way, writing erotica has been a good experience for expanding my horizons. On the same note, it has also made me question some of my fetishes/turn-ons. As a (relatively) heterosexual man, writing mainly for other heterosexual men, every women that appears in a story is presumed bisexual. Sometimes I try too hard to get to grips with that; where characters have paragraphs of exposition about their sexuality. (Not sexy and readers complain.)
So, writing becomes very introspective. I’m sure I’m not alone on this one, so how do y’all deal with the complexities of putting your deepest desires in black and white? Do you feel that you’ve done some self-discovery? Have you worried yourself at any stage?

So, today I wrote what’s probably the most 'pornographic' scene I’ve ever written. After writing it, I wondered if I’d gone too far with the sex…
When I started writing, it was straight to brother-sister stuff (easy, since I don’t have a sister). Then, readers wanted a mom-son/daughter thing and I eventually did it (less easy, since I have a mother). As that’s been happening, the sex has also gotten more explicit. My early stuff was a tad sterile and I was scared to even say the word 'sweat'. That was mainly because I was shy/worried about offending readers.
In a way, writing erotica has been a good experience for expanding my horizons. On the same note, it has also made me question some of my fetishes/turn-ons. As a (relatively) heterosexual man, writing mainly for other heterosexual men, every women that appears in a story is presumed bisexual. Sometimes I try too hard to get to grips with that; where characters have paragraphs of exposition about their sexuality. (Not sexy and readers complain.)
So, writing becomes very introspective. I’m sure I’m not alone on this one, so how do y’all deal with the complexities of putting your deepest desires in black and white? Do you feel that you’ve done some self-discovery? Have you worried yourself at any stage?