Punishment

[eastern sun]

Well see the last time I successfully managed not to cum...I also found that I couldn't when I was allowed to and I'm wondering if anyone knows how I can get around that?

Practice. It's a matter of conditioning your body to behave in certain ways, and it doesn't happen all at once as soon as you decide you want to be able to do it.

I'm assuming you were masturbating. Were you talking to your Master on the phone?

 

[monique_minx]

Practice. It's a matter of conditioning your body to behave in certain ways, and it doesn't happen all at once as soon as you decide you want to be able to do it.

I'm assuming you were masturbating. Were you talking to your Master on the phone?

Unfortunately not, we live in two different countries so phone calls are out for us (expensive) but we both do msn calling which is much the same thing except you need a microphone and earphones for it - ends up cheaper.

And yeah I was, it was a task he set for me a little while back to keep myself on edge all day and to some extent it worked but then when he told me that I could cum later in the evening...well let's say it didn't quite work out, it felt like my body was afraid to...like it was stuck in that same mode or something?

If that makes sense...

 

[eastern sun]

Unfortunately not, we live in two different countries so phone calls are out for us (expensive) but we both do msn calling which is much the same thing except you need a microphone and earphones for it - ends up cheaper.

And yeah I was, it was a task he set for me a little while back to keep myself on edge all day and to some extent it worked but then when he told me that I could cum later in the evening...well let's say it didn't quite work out, it felt like my body was afraid to...like it was stuck in that same mode or something?

If that makes sense...

It's actually difficult to cum on command. Especially when it's primarily a mental exercise. This may sound a little strange, but you probably need to develop mental flexibility, and it takes practice.

If you were restraining yourself all day, it's seems rather simple to just let go and have a totally intense orgasm, but if your mind gets stuck your body won't respond.

 

[monique_minx]

It's actually difficult to cum on command. Especially when it's primarily a mental exercise. This may sound a little strange, but you probably need to develop mental flexibility, and it takes practice.

If you were restraining yourself all day, it's seems rather simple to just let go and have a totally intense orgasm, but if your mind gets stuck your body won't respond.

Ok I think I understand now so I just have to keep trying, thank you

I'm going to speak to my Master tomorrow and see what he wants to do, I'll keep you posted on how it all works out!

Still interested in hearing some interesting techniques and so forth from people. I joined Fetlife to learn more but it's so vast...I sort of felt like I fell into a black hole and didn't know which way to go!

I took a peek at the library here but again I don't even know where to start so I've just been reading a lot! (Including some of your Marks of a slave thread eastern sun - very interesting and enjoyable so far!)

 

[Primalex]

And your point is?

To express that you are wrong with your assumption.

Sorry...where was the constructive anything in that statement?

Great. You have internalized that god gave you your head just for a very specific purpose - and it's not thinking.

(I'm submissive only to the one I give myself over to. Otherwise I'm like any other normal 20 year old female and I like to have fun!)

fun
Function: noun
1 : what provides amusement or enjoyment; specifically : playful often boisterous action or speech <full of fun

It's next to impossible to not like fun, because then it wouldn't be fun by definition.

And you are wrong with your assumption that the normal 20 year old female is an attention whore.

 

[Small_one]

i am new here although i have been lurking for months way to scared to post. I saw your other thread Monique_Minx

The Chamber

oh wow is this is how it is supposed to be? it was so well beautiful to behold and you seemed to delight in it.

is this what i should be looking for in a Master and for punishment?

i am finding the other links helpful but so confusing.

i am almost 20 and need help like Monique_Minx does i guess *blushes*

 

[monique_minx]

i am new here although i have been lurking for months way to scared to post. I saw your other thread Monique_Minx

The Chamber

oh wow is this is how it is supposed to be? it was so well beautiful to behold and you seemed to delight in it.

is this what i should be looking for in a Master and for punishment?

i am finding the other links helpful but so confusing.

i am almost 20 and need help like Monique_Minx does i guess *blushes*

Wasn't actually expecting anyone to find that
And in fact I didn't delight in it, my Master and I met in the SRP section doing a roleplay together; he chose to include our section of Lit in the punishment due to the fact the monique_minx is a very public persona in that section.

It was well thought out and very humiliating for me given that our section generally sticks to complete roleplay or discussion. No one ever addresses those that might be lurking and he did so to unnerve me.

I don't know what you should be looking for in a Master but don't base it off punishment. Everyone is unique and I chose a Master I already trusted, who loved me and was willing to journey through this with me, learning new things and teaching me new things.

He hasn't disappointed me yet...and as you can see in the final few posts of the Chamber; not a lot of people understood it or were very happy. We are online only at the moment so some imagination is often required as is my honesty which I give unquestioningly.

My idea of a thread creation in this area was to start out small cause I was really nervous too but gradually you just stop letting certain people worry you Good luck Small_one!

 

[Bsquad]

Two things...just an FYI...

Primalex, come on dude, relax. We're here on Lit for fun, to get some info, and have a good time. There's no reason to go trolling for fights in people's threads.

And Small_one,
The moment in the chamber was a very developed punishment that inculded Lit for a reason. I won't go into details, but my actions there, and offfline with my sub were tailored to fit what happened. I am a young dom in my personal life, and with my sub monique_minx, but I do understand that a punishment must be tailored to two things;

One, the failure/disobidence/rule breaking.

Two, to the sub themself. A punishment must be something that will reach them, something that they will find unplesant, something that will convey a message to the submissive and that will correct the situation. That post in the Chamber was not for fun or for public enjoyment, it was tailored and written out for a reason, and in a place that was as my submissive said, a public arena.

I will not be arrogant and say that thread is exactly what a sub and dom should look like becasue there ISN'T any template or mould for a sub/dom relationship. Each is as unique as the people in it, every one has it's own rules, understandings and dynamic. What you saw was something importnat for my submissive and myself...what works for you might be incredibly different.

 

[Primalex]

Primalex, come on dude, relax. We're here on Lit for fun, to get some info, and have a good time.

Andy, dude, I AM having fun and a good time.

 

[Trixabell]

EXTENDED PENETRATION


What this does is makes it impossible for the submissive to ignore the fact of her penetration, even violation, whatever she may be doing. This in turn can keep the submissive constantly thinking about and constantly craving sexual stimulation.

I have even made my subs keep a dildo inserted as they sleep--which tends to make the night filled with nonstop erotic dreams...And then spanked or otherwise redressed them the next morning as they confess the contents of these half-awake erotic dreams to me in detail.

This is one of our favorite activities! It definitely keeps my mind on him all day and has me begging by the end. This works well at home and at work and is great for long distant relationships. We have used 'Smartballs' for this activity and they work great! This is definitely a reward for me.

For me, punishment should be so unpleasant as to be effective in correcting the offensive behavior.
Discipline is what we call activities where limits are tested and pushed or requested by subbie.

 

[jane_said]

For me, punishment should be so unpleasant as to be effective in correcting the offensive behavior.
Discipline is what we call activities where limits are tested and pushed or requested by subbie.

First, i don't see what C130Loadguy suggested as punishment. more training.


OP says:

Two types of misbehaviour for me - playful and serious (playful is doing something I know he probably won't like, maybe something annoying but it shakes loose some bordem for me and the punishment is usually not such a big deal. Serious is something I know is major and comes under our agreed upon rules - punishment is huge and awful.)
We've only just recently had the serious one which was pretty horrible so I'm not about to do that again.

i don't see the "playful" misbehaviour and the consequences as punishment. it's more the dynamic the op and her "Master" have created. Fun and games.

i don't tend to get too hung up on labels/terminology but labels are a good starting point and the teriminology we use here gives us all a common place to have a conversation.

monique_minx: hopefully, you'll see this as a conversation and not an attack. Just different points of view.

Lke Trixabell, i don't use the term "punishment" for anything other than what it is. I's not discipline, it's not training, it's not a fun spanking. It's something used to correct something i did wrong. i don't want to be disobedient simply to stir things up. my kink is obedience.

If i feel a need to have some kind of impact play, have a more intense scene, need something to shake me out of my boredom, i'll just ask.

 

[Trixabell]

First, i don't see what C130Loadguy suggested as punishment. more training.

I completely agree, maybe I wasn't clear about that fact. It is training and more of a form of discipline, but a fun one!

 

[jane_said]

I completely agree, maybe I wasn't clear about that fact. It is training and more of a form of discipline, but a fun one!

I do have to disagree with having the dildo in all night. That has never provided me with anything but an awful night's sleep and being super cranky the next morning...

 

[Trixabell]

A dildo is a no for me in the extended wear category but the balls are super fun and if you are not moving you dont really feel them too much and thus would be better for an all night exercise. Unless of course uncomfortable was the point of the exercise.

 

[C130Loadguy]

I see your point and it is acknowledged...I was perhapslax in not letting all know that when TRUE PUNISHMENT (for a willfull act of disobedience. insolence, or blatant disrespect is called for, I can and have used up to what may be considered BRUTAL physical force with certain subs in the past...but thankfully, these occasions are rare, and though there is certainly a power surge (and hopefully a cooresponding submissive re-dedication) that comes from those minutes or hours of pain that I completely choose to inflict (and the reminders that such marks upon the body bear witness to over the following days and weeks), I still value the gift of a submissive's feminine psyche above all and it is there; through techniques of physical humiliation, over-stimulation, perhaps a bit of enforced exhibitionism and anything to push her beyond her "comfort zone" with our dynamic (and within her own sexual "mind") that I find most effective for day to day altercations, missteps, and mindlessness....