Punishment Help.

[SimonBrooke]

I love things that make me think. Like, I really do. So thank you. I do have an answer to one of those, though.

He is the reason I started to love myself and be comfortable with my body. Before I was with Him, I could not even sleep without a bra, nor change in front of my sister or best friend. Now, I can and I have started to accept myself and become more responsible with myself. I am in no way even close to being completely comfortable or respectful to myself, though, otherwise i wouldn't have smoked, but because of everything He has done to help me, that is why I know He is a good and right decision.

While I respect Cattypuss's right to be scared (and do know what she's talking about), I do think that a good dominant can do tremendous things for someone's self confidence, particularly if she comes to him with self-esteem issues. Mind you, a bad dominant can be enormously destructive.

 

[slavebitch]

While I respect Cattypuss's right to be scared (and do know what she's talking about), I do think that a good dominant can do tremendous things for someone's self confidence, particularly if she comes to him with self-esteem issues. Mind you, a bad dominant can be enormously destructive.

He has done a lot for me and He has helped me through some of the roughest times of my life.

 

[Braschi]

I am on medication for severe major depression and anxiety, thanks. I just don't tend to discuss my history of depression and suicide attempts and being baker acted.

Baker acted? Anyway, far be it from me to judge your mental state; I'm sure your psychiatrist has a much better handle on it. The only thing I would suggest is you discuss your lifestyle with him. Though I suppose you should be commended for keeping your sexual appetite while on SSRI

 

[Cattypuss]

He has done a lot for me and He has helped me through some of the roughest times of my life.

Does he...


~smile~

... a lot?

 

[slavebitch]

Baker acted? Anyway, far be it from me to judge your mental state; I'm sure your psychiatrist has a much better handle on it. The only thing I would suggest is you discuss your lifestyle with him. Though I suppose you should be commended for keeping your sexual appetite while on SSRI

Baker Acting is when someone who is a danger to themself or others is committed to a mental institution. Thats what its called in Florida.

Does he...


~smile~

... a lot?

I feel stupid, but if you're making a sexual reference or something I don't get it...

 

[Cattypuss]

I feel stupid, but if you're making a sexual reference or something I don't get it...

Just a reference to a soi-disant "good Dom" who trolled around here a few months ago. The sort who preyed on innocent young girls with no self-esteem.

 

[slavebitch]

Just a reference to a soi-disant "good Dom" who trolled around here a few months ago. The sort who preyed on innocent young girls with no self-esteem.

I know my Master, though so He isn't "preying" on me. We used to go to school together, then He moved away to college, and He was my boyfriend for a while before becoming my Master.

 

[Cattypuss]

Simon, I get what you're saying and from everything I've read from you over the years I believe you to be a decent, honest, moral man who is also a Dom.

Would YOU take on a sub with severe depression and zero self-belief and do all her thinking for her?

I suspect not. I suspect that if you encountered such a girl you would if anything help her to find her own feet.

 

[Braschi]

Baker Acting is when someone who is a danger to themself or others is committed to a mental institution. Thats what its called in Florida.

Oh, good to know. Thank you. Well, if your guy is helping you out so much, kudos.

 

[slavebitch]

Oh, good to know. Thank you. Well, if your guy is helping you out so much, kudos.

Thanks. He really is. Like, it might seem weird that He accepted to be my Master, but He is helping me to learn to be more responsible through it especially since He is not in town to control me, and I must control myself.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

While I respect Cattypuss's right to be scared (and do know what she's talking about), I do think that a good dominant can do tremendous things for someone's self confidence, particularly if she comes to him with self-esteem issues. Mind you, a bad dominant can be enormously destructive.

True and true.

But it also depends on the submissive. If the man is honorable but she's using the relationship as a cop out, and deliberately antagonising him to feel like he's dominating her and loving her and being so good for her, then that's pretty shit.

 

[Adakgirl]

So you give ideas and make suggestions to your Master about how to punish you? You do things that anger him, when you know darn well it will anger him and then you dictate to him what your own punishment will be for doing it? You say he "must" punish you. Is that because you think he must or because he decides he must?

Be honest with yourself. What you are doing is manipulating your Master by misbehaving on purpose in order to get him to punish you and then telling him how to go about it. This is not a very intelligent way to go about getting attention from your Master. I suggest you earn how to grow the fuck up before you do anything else.

 

[SimonBrooke]

Baker Acting is when someone who is a danger to themself or others is committed to a mental institution. Thats what its called in Florida.

'Sectioned', or 'Section 13' in the UK, referring to that section of the Mental Health Act 1983 as amended by the Mental Health Act 2007.

 

[rosco rathbone]

"whorelando" lol.

 

[KoPilot]

So you give ideas and make suggestions to your Master about how to punish you? You do things that anger him, when you know darn well it will anger him and then you dictate to him what your own punishment will be for doing it? You say he "must" punish you. Is that because you think he must or because he decides he must?

Be honest with yourself. What you are doing is manipulating your Master by misbehaving on purpose in order to get him to punish you and then telling him how to go about it. This is not a very intelligent way to go about getting attention from your Master. I suggest you earn how to grow the fuck up before you do anything else.

This is what I was thinking when she brought up the smokes. If she knew it would piss him off, and if she doesn't have any kind of addiction... why the fuck do it other than to just make him mad and get a "punishment" out of him?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

This is what I was thinking when she brought up the smokes. If she knew it would piss him off, and if she doesn't have any kind of addiction... why the fuck do it other than to just make him mad and get a "punishment" out of him?

That was my thought at the dry humping another guy.

 

[Stella_Omega]

That was my thought at the dry humping another guy.

This person needs a Master that can give her more one-on-one time than she's getting, and she's doing things for the thrill.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

This person needs a Master that can give her more one-on-one time than she's getting, and she's doing things for the thrill.

I think you're right.

Acting out for thrills and attention seeking? I know I'm tending towards thinking they're being manipulative, but that's a rough call if they don't actually know any better.

 

[NomadLady]

While I respect Cattypuss's right to be scared (and do know what she's talking about), I do think that a good dominant can do tremendous things for someone's self confidence, particularly if she comes to him with self-esteem issues. Mind you, a bad dominant can be enormously destructive.

It's even more destructive when the Dom is good with building the self-esteem issues, confidence and trust.....then kicks a sub to the curb. All that progress the sub has made is then destroyed and she is left to question her abilities to serve.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's even more destructive when the Dom is good with building the self-esteem issues, confidence and trust.....then kicks a sub to the curb. All that progress the sub has made is then destroyed and she is left to question her abilities to serve.

This is (as always) why I question this dynamic. I know I have often stumbled in my motion forward, and I have often asked for help... but I just do not see how anyone else can do your growing up/emotional healing/mental health repair for you.

You are giving someone else all the responsibility and all the authority for YOUR personal journey. You'd better be sure they can handle that.

 

[NomadLady]

This is (as always) why I question this dynamic. I know I have often stumbled in my motion forward, and I have often asked for help... but I just do not see how anyone else can do your growing up/emotional healing/mental health repair for you.

You are giving someone else all the responsibility and all the authority for YOUR personal journey. You'd better be sure they can handle that.

Will always make sure they can handle it in the future....lesson learned. And it's not that they make the repairs for you...they provide a nurturing supportive environment and make you feel/know that you can make the repairs yourself. Damage done but better off for the experience and learning to move on...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Will always make sure they can handle it in the future....lesson learned. And it's not that they make the repairs for you...they provide a nurturing supportive environment and make you feel/know that you can make the repairs yourself. Damage done but better off for the experience and learning to move on...

 

[Bandit58]

Will always make sure they can handle it in the future....lesson learned. And it's not that they make the repairs for you...they provide a nurturing supportive environment and make you feel/know that you can make the repairs yourself. Damage done but better off for the experience and learning to move on...

This. I was in an over 20 year emotionally abusive marriage which left my self esteem in tatters and probably as low as anyone could go. Seven years with Sir has taught me that I'm stronger than I thought I ever was, and I can survive anything. Yes there are still times when something will "flash" me back to the bad place, but they are becoming further and further apart and hopefully will disappear altogether.

 

[vintage63]

I am just wondering. I completely understand humiliation in that some people want it and get off on it. Having said that if someone is suffering from anxiety and depression to the point that they need meds and at times need to be committed for suicide attempts, would a good Master engage in humiliation at this time. Especially when they are out of town a lot.

 

[NomadLady]

I am just wondering. I completely understand humiliation in that some people want it and get off on it. Having said that if someone is suffering from anxiety and depression to the point that they need meds and at times need to be committed for suicide attempts, would a good Master engage in humiliation at this time. Especially when they are out of town a lot.

If a sub is having those sort of mental health issues a Dom needs to exercise caution and extreme care with dishing out "anything" especially if they aren't physically present for aftercare, etc.