Punishment for sub/slaves while Dom/Master is not there

[every_mothers_lover]

if your sub/slave has been bad in anyway but you are not there to be able to punish her or watch her punish herself, what is/are the best ways to make sure that she does the punishment?
(the reasons for not being there could be due to long distances eg: online, work etc... or she has been bad while you have been at work during the day)

 

[the captians wench]

if your sub/slave has been bad in anyway but you are not there to be able to punish her or watch her punish herself, what is/are the best ways to make sure that she does the punishment?
(the reasons for not being there could be due to long distances eg: online, work etc... or she has been bad while you have been at work during the day)

Honestly, unless you have her video record it or take pics, you wouldn't know for sure if she did it or not. I've had sub friends tell me that they flat out lie to their online or ldr PYL.

Me I tend to snitch on myself, so he knows when I do what I'm not suposed to.

But I don't think I've heard of a case where a sub was to punish themselves with out it being directed by the PYL. I mean, there are a lot of times when I feel guilty about something or feel like I've done something wrong, and he blows it off like it's no big deal. So if I were to punish myself every time I thought I did wrong then I'd be punishing myself a lot more than he would intend...and if I were doing that, why would I need him in the first place?

 

[Softouch911]

I suppose it would depend on the issue involved, wouldn't it.

Getting her to pinch/slap herself seems at best silly. I mean, REally.

And punishment should be corrective and instructive -- i.e., a more acceptable form of behavior is created.

Hard to be terribly creative here -- perhaps the s could journal why it was wrong and what should have been done differently, then send some sort of evidence that it is being done according to spec at this time.

LDRs suck, I know.

Respectfully, ST

 

[myinnerslut]

bottom line, you cant know. you have to trust that they do it. myself, i am LDR during the school year do to college. all instructions that A gives me, and yes, sometimes even punishments, he trusts that i complete. and i do. but if some random guy i had just met online told me to cane myself becuase i had been a bad bad girl, i would laugh it off. the difference is an established relationship. we prize honesty in our relationship.

some things you can do if you dont want to be as trusting is requirw video or picture proof, but in the age of special effects, digital media, and photoshop, even that isnt going to give you absolute proof. once again, it comes down to trust.

 

[HottieMama]

And punishment should be corrective and instructive -- i.e., a more acceptable form of behavior is created.

Hard to be terribly creative here -- perhaps the s could journal why it was wrong and what should have been done differently, then send some sort of evidence that it is being done according to spec at this time.

LDRs suck, I know.

Respectfully, ST

You and LC think a lot alike about the purpose of "punishment."

i have been punished once so far. Without going into details, it involved a period of quiet thought/meditation and then a very specific journal entry about the issue. Now, is there any proof that i actually did the "quiet thought time" beforehand? Well, yes, and no. No, because no one was in the room with me and i didn't videotape myself, but yes, because i would not have been able to write an appropriate journal entry without taking that time in thought. it would have been obvious that i was "blowing it off."

LDRs certainly require a bit of creativity, and a lot of trust. Then again, "punishment" requires a bit of creativity for me anyway, because physical pain is not punishment.

 

[His_pita]

Hard to be terribly creative here -- perhaps the s could journal why it was wrong and what should have been done differently, then send some sort of evidence that it is being done according to spec at this time.

Respectfully, ST

Crap! That reminds me that I haven't journaled this weekend like you told me to. Are you going to spank me now????

*Ohhh OK, I'll make a note to do it. NO spankings for this naughty gurl! *

 

[BiBunny]

This is why, even though B. and I are in a semi-LDR, we do NOT do our D/s online. It's boring, it's impossible to enforce, and it seems pointless to try. Besides, he doesn't believe in giving me a bunch of bullshit "orders" to follow when he's not around. (Well, he doesn't do it when he is around, either.) We just don't get into the online thing at all. IMs are for talking. Real-life is for playing in our world.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Well for me and MyD we live about 45 mins apart and both have other "nilla" lives but I think I agree with everyone else on this subject that first and foremost T R U S T ... For us he tells me my daily instructions and then for some punishments he expects that I am honest and then that I take some pics... They have a time/date stamp so pretty much he knows. He also knows from journal entries what has been said my wording cause he knows me and KNOWS I am not a liar.. it is more about trust than anything.. IMO

 

[shy slave]

This is why, even though B. and I are in a semi-LDR, we do NOT do our D/s online. It's boring, it's impossible to enforce, and it seems pointless to try. Besides, he doesn't believe in giving me a bunch of bullshit "orders" to follow when he's not around. (Well, he doesn't do it when he is around, either.) We just don't get into the online thing at all. IMs are for talking. Real-life is for playing in our world.

I agree with this completely.

Have been in two LDR's and never got into the concept of punishing myself.

In the last relationship I was punished twice in 2.5 years.
To me, punishment is serious, not a minor transgression issue that I could do to myself. It can also be a harsh mentally as physically.

Despite the fact we lived in different countries he never resorted to online orders, as the never worked for us.

I am at the brink of tentatively looking at new relationship, again LDR but at least in the same country. If he suggests online D/s I will know how further along this line of tentative I need to walk.

So far, my back and ass attest to the fact he prefers real life.

 

[saw_man1]

My friend

I sincerely hope that you find more kink and happiness than you can stand.

I agree with this completely.

Have been in two LDR's and never got into the concept of punishing myself.

In the last relationship I was punished twice in 2.5 years.
To me, punishment is serious, not a minor transgression issue that I could do to myself. It can also be a harsh mentally as physically.

Despite the fact we lived in different countries he never resorted to online orders, as the never worked for us.

I am at the brink of tentatively looking at new relationship, again LDR but at least in the same country. If he suggests online D/s I will know how further along this line of tentative I need to walk.

So far, my back and ass attest to the fact he prefers real life.