Psychological Subspace

[Tf1111]

Some subs fall into subspace around a dom. A conversation or even online communication can trigger it. Has anyone experienced it?

 

[seela]

I wouldn’t say it happens very often just when a sub is around a dom. Usually it takes a deep connection between the two and something to trigger the subspace response. But yes, subspace is definitely a thing.

I’ve experienced wanting to submit to someone just by being around them without any specific or established connection between me and the other person. I’ve also started to submit to someone without it ever having been discussed - talking about non-sexual things here. It hasn’t always been unproblematic.

I don’t think either of those things are subspace, but can brought on by being around a dom or a conversation so I wanted to include them in my answer. Actual subspace in my experience and from what I’ve talked with others requires something more.

 

[SissySalina]

Been there with Her several times. The experience is like being in a dream cloud.
It is a place that She can put sissy with actions and words, it just happens, there is no planning or special preparations.

 

[Tf1111]

I wouldn’t say it happens very often just when a sub is around a dom. Usually it takes a deep connection between the two and something to trigger the subspace response. But yes, subspace is definitely a thing.

I’ve experienced wanting to submit to someone just by being around them without any specific or established connection between me and the other person. I’ve also started to submit to someone without it ever having been discussed - talking about non-sexual things here. It hasn’t always been unproblematic.

I don’t think either of those things are subspace, but can brought on by being around a dom or a conversation so I wanted to include them in my answer. Actual subspace in my experience and from what I’ve talked with others requires something more.

Agree, the subspace everybody talks about is induced through sustained pain play or intense sexual arousal. The psychological space I’ve mentioned is an actual altered state just by being in their presence. It’s sort of warm spacey serene feeling. It makes them floatey & can’t even form words. Something like hypnosis?

 

[Ginlover]

Hypnosis is a great descriptor.

For me it’s the moment my thoughts stop racing and my senses become heightened. It has never been brought on by sustained pain play or intense sexual arousal — those things become ‘doable’ once subspace has been reached. My triggers to reach subspace vary dramatically, but it’s a moment; a look, a sound, a hand pressing on my shoulder pushing me into a kneeling position. The one consistent factor is who it’s with. I don’t reach subspace because of an action, it has to be from a person I’m in an agreed dynamic with or it’s meaningless.

To me it feels like being drunk or high while still being fully aware. It’s addictive!

I’ve had it once from online, directed play and didn’t involve any sexual contact. Powerful and surprising when it happened.

 

[Tf1111]

Hypnosis is a great descriptor.

For me it’s the moment my thoughts stop racing and my senses become heightened. It has never been brought on by sustained pain play or intense sexual arousal — those things become ‘doable’ once subspace has been reached. My triggers to reach subspace vary dramatically, but it’s a moment; a look, a sound, a hand pressing on my shoulder pushing me into a kneeling position. The one consistent factor is who it’s with. I don’t reach subspace because of an action, it has to be from a person I’m in an agreed dynamic with or it’s meaningless.

To me it feels like being drunk or high while still being fully aware. It’s addictive!

I’ve had it once from online, directed play and didn’t involve any sexual contact. Powerful and surprising when it happened.

This! Thanks for the detailed description.

 

[PaxNurgle]

Yes, and when it happens, it was the most powerful sexual feeling I had ever had. It was after being pegged, and I literally just melted in front of Her, just wanted to lie at Her feet. It was indescribable, really, but sadly such a fleeting thing.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Yes, and when it happens, it was the most powerful sexual feeling I had ever had. It was after being pegged, and I literally just melted in front of Her, just wanted to lie at Her feet. It was indescribable, really, but sadly such a fleeting thing.

I haven't experienced it in many years (I'll just blame that today on being old and decrepit). But I definitely remember the warm, fuzzy, floating feeling as my mental processes slowly shut down, one after another, until all that remained was a hollow ringing in my ears and the feeling I was now totally open to suggestion.

"Stupifying" might be one way to describe it. I still wince at the thought of several particularly lame remarks I made while under its influence. At the time, it seemed as though I was sitting on my shoulder, totally aware of what I was about to say, totally aware that it was idiotic but also totally aware that I was powerless to prevent it. I just felt so damn blissful, hearing sounds slowly drift down a long, dark hall and basking beneath the glow of a benign, accepting smile. Maybe this time, I thought, this will never end.

I recognize it was triggered by someone who played a dominate role in my life, probably beginning with a particularly loved teacher. I can't say it was always sexual, but maybe I was just too young to recognize it.

 

[BluegrassBelle]

I've experienced that wonderful, warm, floaty feeling you described just by being around Him. We don't have to be doing anything even remotely sexual, in fact most times we aren't.
For me it's like all my systems start to slowly power down until there's just Him. Everything goes soft, and quiet and I can almost physically feel myself opening up for Him and it's so blissfully soothing.

 

[Justplatonic]

I remember subspace happening to me many times. Funny, as I didn't know I was the submissive type at the time, and it was always with ex's who were dominant and kinky.

Best way I can describe it; it was like floating a foot off the ground, even though I was walking on it. Not quite being in the moment, almost outside of it. And I was always in a suggestible state, thus agreeing to all sorts of things... Not that I complained...

 

[supercollider00]

I only get into subspace with a Dom/me that I completely trust. So to this day I think only 2 so far maybe? It's an incredibly powerful feeling though. Goddess can easily send me into subspace to the point that it's magical.

I also second the descriptions of floating and utter freedom. It's understanding complete surrender and giving your submission fully. It's a delicious feeling really. I often start to shake when in subspace.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I only get into subspace with a Dom/me that I completely trust. So to this day I think only 2 so far maybe? It's an incredibly powerful feeling though. Goddess can easily send me into subspace to the point that it's magical.

I also second the descriptions of floating and utter freedom. It's understanding complete surrender and giving your submission fully. It's a delicious feeling really. I often start to shake when in subspace.

Very beautifully put, supercollider