Prowritingaid

[Bramblethorn]

It depends a lot on the character doing the talking. Not to rely too heavily on stereotypes, but here in the South, I've heard, "Me and her" and "She and I" in about equal proportions. It depends a lot on education level and social status. If I'm writing about the socialite at a cocktail party, I'll use "She and I". If I'm writing about two guys in a run-down bar, I'll use "Me and her". The language characters use in dialogue can go a long way in developing a character.

I'm not suggesting that the "me and her" usage doesn't exist, just pushing back against the assertion that "almost any normal guy" talks that way. There are plenty of places where it would be weird.

 

[XerXesXu]

In that context, where I grew up, 'Her and me' would probably have been the default for a young person; we were schooled into 'She and I'. In that they're still inflected, pronouns are anomalous. English isn't an inflected language. In my rustic excursions I came across 'Look at I', and 'Look at she', but I've only encountered 'methinks..' in English class.