Prostitution kink and BDSM

[Primalex]

If you have ever fantasized about a prostitution scene, how did this intertwine with your BDSM kink? Do you feel it is an extension of your BDSM kink, like...in BDSM you are submissive and as prostitute you are submissive. Or do you enjoy humiliation in a BDSM context and your prostitution fantasy grabs into this, by being required to have sex with people below your standards or... or....

Or do you feel these two things are separate entities in your world of sexual bliss? Is your prostitution scene the moment where you find true love with an older gentleman?

Last but not least, how far did you go to entertain this fantasy (or maybe even "not fantasy anymore") and where is your soft and/or hard limit?

 

[seela]

Interesting topic.

To me it has nothing to do with BDSM, although now that I think of it, it could tie into the service aspect of BDSM that I enjoy. I suppose it could also go down the humiliation path somehow, could be hot. But mostly it's just a separate thing altogether. And definitely no older gentlemen that I fall in love with.

 

[IrisAlthea]

If you have ever fantasized about a prostitution scene, how did this intertwine with your BDSM kink? Do you feel it is an extension of your BDSM kink, like...in BDSM you are submissive and as prostitute you are submissive. Or do you enjoy humiliation in a BDSM context and your prostitution fantasy grabs into this, by being required to have sex with people below your standards or... or....

Or do you feel these two things are separate entities in your world of sexual bliss? Is your prostitution scene the moment where you find true love with an older gentleman?

Last but not least, how far did you go to entertain this fantasy (or maybe even "not fantasy anymore") and where is your soft and/or hard limit?

There have been a few such fantasies.
The first I remember was, like many other fantasies at the time, more or less directly stolen from Once up on a time in America.
I don’t think it had much to do with BDSM. More about the decadence perhaps.

Later fantasies have been more about objectification, I think but not at all about a realistic version of actual prostitution. Not as romanticised as Pretty woman either though.
More about doing it as a role play kind of thing, now that I think of it actually.
Perhaps that was the attraction in that first fantasy too, come think of it.

Actual propositions I have had or ideas of making it a reality beyond roleplay with a partner, rate on a scale from to :fuckoff:.

 

[Lady2020]

FWIW, these are two different issues. Although both deal with women being subservient. Every man's fantasy.

 

[ultramarineblue]

I’ve role played it a couple of times. It was fun but not something I requested. He was more into it than I was but I still really enjoyed pleasing him.

 

[seela]

Oh, also. Back in the day, I had a one night stand, and when he left my place, he gave me money. It was so weird and funny. He was already sort of half way out of the door when he gave me the dough. I legit didn’t know now to react, probably stood there a while with my mouth open staring at the door after he left.

It didn’t make me feel bad in any way though, just puzzled. I bought a pair of cheap sandals and some yummy cheese with the money. I was a student, I couldn’t buy yummy cheese whenever I wanted. Good times.

 

[Acktion]

Oh, also. Back in the day, I had a one night stand, and when he left my place, he gave me money. It was so weird and funny. He was already sort of half way out of the door when he gave me the dough. I legit didn’t know now to react, probably stood there a while with my mouth open staring at the door after he left.

It didn’t make me feel bad in any way though, just puzzled. I bought a pair of cheap sandals and some yummy cheese with the money. I was a student, I couldn’t buy yummy cheese whenever I wanted. Good times.

On my girl's first trip to visit, as she was leaving I slipped a hundred dollars in her bra.

It was legit to help pay for the gas burned on the three-hundred-mile trip. But, yeah, I admit that 9 1/2 Weeks was on my mind, making me smile when I did it.

She just stood there, looking down at her chest and then up at me with her brow furrowed.

On her last trip, I slipped her five hundred. When I went online to pay my rent, Sugah Mama had put seven hundred toward my rent.

I don't remember when I laughed so hard.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Oh, also. Back in the day, I had a one night stand, and when he left my place, he gave me money. It was so weird and funny. He was already sort of half way out of the door when he gave me the dough. I legit didn’t know now to react, probably stood there a while with my mouth open staring at the door after he left.

It didn’t make me feel bad in any way though, just puzzled. I bought a pair of cheap sandals and some yummy cheese with the money. I was a student, I couldn’t buy yummy cheese whenever I wanted. Good times.

I could so totally see myself in the position of standing there with the money, going ”Wait, what?”, that I laughed out loud when reading this.

 

[ultramarineblue]

On my girl's first trip to visit, as she was leaving I slipped a hundred dollars in her bra.

It was legit to help pay for the gas burned on the three-hundred-mile trip. But, yeah, I admit that 9 1/2 Weeks was on my mind, making me smile when I did it.

She just stood there, looking down at her chest and then up at me with her brow furrowed.

On her last trip, I slipped her five hundred. When I went online to pay my rent, Sugah Mama had put seven hundred toward my rent.

I don't remember when I laughed so hard.

This is just so sweet to me. There is a part of me that really wants someone to give me thoughtful little gifts randomly but I also have never experienced that so I would really struggle with that.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I was driving today and howling along with
Vaya con Dios ”Don’t cry for Louie”: ”When you walk the streets for Louie, you better do what Louie tells you to”.
Then Spotify decided to follow with Ardis ”Ain’t nobody’s business”: ”I swear, I won’t call no copper, if I’m beat up, beat up, beat up, beat up by my papa”.

My mind went to this thread and an old thread from here that I remembered.
I wondered if the new similar thread feature would catch it, but it didn’t seem so.
Search found the thread and now I’m confused because Lit lists this thread as similar.
Anyway, here is the old thread if anyone is interested: http://forum.literotica.com/threads/pimps-the-original-doms.224120/

I think it illustrates, among other things, the reasons why there can be a lot of different ”flavours” of this fantasy that mesh or don’t with different ”flavours” of BDSM.

And here is the music:

 

[Looselucy28]

If you have ever fantasized about a prostitution scene, how did this intertwine with your BDSM kink? Do you feel it is an extension of your BDSM kink, like...in BDSM you are submissive and as prostitute you are submissive. Or do you enjoy humiliation in a BDSM context and your prostitution fantasy grabs into this, by being required to have sex with people below your standards or... or....

Or do you feel these two things are separate entities in your world of sexual bliss? Is your prostitution scene the moment where you find true love with an older gentleman?

Last but not least, how far did you go to entertain this fantasy (or maybe even "not fantasy anymore") and where is your soft and/or hard limit?

Absolutely I’m dying to be used in the worst ways and the idea of selling myself for it? Perfection

 

[davion2308]

Not for me, no, but seeing my wife playing a prostitute, where she's completely at the use of the john turns me on. He can use her how he wants and she has to submit to his desires while I watch? Yes please.

 

[slutindianwife]

I have fantasized about being a street whore in New York.

Two big brutes with big dicks pick me up.

Tie me and spank me and fuck me insanely.

 

[LourdMorpheus]

FWIW, these are two different issues. Although both deal with women being subservient. Every man's fantasy.

Hmm 2020.. So then what’s every woman’s fantasy???

 

[Lady2020]

Hmm 2020.. So then what’s every woman’s fantasy???

Relieving men of their control issues.

 

[LourdMorpheus]

Relieving men of their control issues.

Very well then, I’d let you lead me into relief….

 

[petes478]

Absolutely I’m dying to be used in the worst ways and the idea of selling myself for it? Perfection

Looselucy28 I like you honey. Love to fuck your brains out all night while I’m sucking your nipples good. I give you some sore nipps an sore pussy

 

[IrisAlthea]

People, may I remind you that this is BDSM Talk.
From the sticky:
http://forum.literotica.com/threads/welcome-to-the-bdsm-talk-forum.306646/

We do not encourage off topic material (excessive flirting or personal conversation that interrupts serious topics) in BDSM Talk threads. Light conversation, flirting, off topic type threads, and funtimes are appreciated and to be had in the BDSM Cafe.

 

[cookiecat]

This is my boyfriends hottest fantasy. Being in love with and being the dominant of a prostitute.

It seems to be tied up in having the nastiest slut hole of a girlfriend who loves her man even more for allowing her to be so dirty. I dunno. Is it bdsm or just dirty sex?

There's an element of D/s. Initially he forces girlfriend to be shared, used, etc. She complies because she serves him, wants him to be happy. Eventually she sees how much he loves her because of her descent into prostitution, she wants it all the time.

As I type this, somehow this must be tied into the swinging thread I just started.

 

[Islander55]

This is my boyfriends hottest fantasy. Being in love with and being the dominant of a prostitute.

It seems to be tied up in having the nastiest slut hole of a girlfriend who loves her man even more for allowing her to be so dirty. I dunno. Is it bdsm or just dirty sex?

There's an element of D/s. Initially he forces girlfriend to be shared, used, etc. She complies because she serves him, wants him to be happy. Eventually she sees how much he loves her because of her descent into prostitution, she wants it all the time.

As I type this, somehow this must be tied into the swinging thread I just started.

Personally I think those are three separate elements. The prostitution could be interesting and even fun though there certainly would be some risk involved. Certainly it could be combined with BDSM or the BDSM and swinging could be combined.

 

[seela]

This is my boyfriends hottest fantasy. Being in love with and being the dominant of a prostitute.

It seems to be tied up in having the nastiest slut hole of a girlfriend who loves her man even more for allowing her to be so dirty. I dunno. Is it bdsm or just dirty sex?

There's an element of D/s. Initially he forces girlfriend to be shared, used, etc. She complies because she serves him, wants him to be happy. Eventually she sees how much he loves her because of her descent into prostitution, she wants it all the time.

As I type this, somehow this must be tied into the swinging thread I just started.

I've thought about this thread and cookie's post lately. I can get the fascination behind this train of thought and in some ways I think I share it. Besides the service aspect I mentioned above, a part of what I find appealing in the thought of "descenting into prostitution" is that it's so completely against what I project outwards. The contrast of what is generally thought of about prostitution and what I currently do and am is appealing. It's about letting complete stranger in on something secret I suppose. And having a loving, emotionally invested partner not only tolerate but encourage and orchestrate the descent is another appealing contrast.

Perhaps my descent into prostitution, once somewhat complete, would close some doors for me and make me more dependent on my partner who has aided in said descent. I think that's one aspect that I always find interesting an appealing - being dependent on someone. It both scares me and elates me. And in reality it totally doesn't have to be a prostitution related dependence, just any dependence at all.

Even though realistically I know sex work can be, and at least for those who have actively chosen it often is, incredibly mundane and unscandalous, the general society doesn't necessarily agree with my assessment. There's still stigma attached to sex work and that stigma plays into the prostitution kink scenario in my head as well. It allows for the juxtaposition to hit harder.

I'm still not sure if I view any of this as humiliation, though, which is a little surprising for me, because usually I jump to the humiliation angle at the slightest chance. I'll keep ruminating.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Even though realistically I know sex work can be, and at least for those who have actively chosen it often is, incredibly mundane and unscandalous, the general society doesn't necessarily agree with my assessment. There's still stigma attached to sex work and that stigma plays into the prostitution kink scenario in my head as well. It allows for the juxtaposition to hit harder.

I'm still not sure if I view any of this as humiliation, though, which is a little surprising for me, because usually I jump to the humiliation angle at the slightest chance. I'll keep ruminating.

I don’t really see it as humiliating either and was thinking that it might be cultural somehow.
Then I realized I have no idea whatsoever what the law says about prostitution and what the societal view is where you are.

 

[petes478]

I've thought about this thread and cookie's post lately. I can get the fascination behind this train of thought and in some ways I think I share it. Besides the service aspect I mentioned above, a part of what I find appealing in the thought of "descenting into prostitution" is that it's so completely against what I project outwards. The contrast of what is generally thought of about prostitution and what I currently do and am is appealing. It's about letting complete stranger in on something secret I suppose. And having a loving, emotionally invested partner not only tolerate but encourage and orchestrate the descent is another appealing contrast.

Perhaps my descent into prostitution, once somewhat complete, would close some doors for me and make me more dependent on my partner who has aided in said descent. I think that's one aspect that I always find interesting an appealing - being dependent on someone. It both scares me and elates me. And in reality it totally doesn't have to be a prostitution related dependence, just any dependence at all.

Even though realistically I know sex work can be, and at least for those who have actively chosen it often is, incredibly mundane and unscandalous, the general society doesn't necessarily agree with my assessment. There's still stigma attached to sex work and that stigma plays into the prostitution kink scenario in my head as well. It allows for the juxtaposition to hit harder.

I'm still not sure if I view any of this as humiliation, though, which is a little surprising for me, because usually I jump to the humiliation angle at the slightest chance. I'll keep ruminating.

Yes the one you are dependent on becomes the one who can control you. And therein lies the rub. The dominant controlling aspect.

 

[Islander55]

Interesting topic.

To me it has nothing to do with BDSM, although now that I think of it, it could tie into the service aspect of BDSM that I enjoy. I suppose it could also go down the humiliation path somehow, could be hot. But mostly it's just a separate thing altogether. And definitely no older gentlemen that I fall in love with.

 

[Primalex]

There's an element of D/s. Initially he forces girlfriend to be shared, used, etc. She complies because she serves him, wants him to be happy. Eventually she sees how much he loves her because of her descent into prostitution, she wants it all the time.

It's somehow the opposite for me. I don't love her, (ab)use her submissiveness or love, for my profit and then...well, maybe not fall in love, but become so intrigued or entangled by her submissiveness that the result is hardly distinguishable from romantic love.
Hm.
Maybe it's not the opposite; but my version has more despair. Not the "I get to be so dirty, he is so awesome", but more the nymphomanic-like addiction of:"Why can I not stop doing this?"

And in reality it totally doesn't have to be a prostitution related dependence, just any dependence at all.

Locking your glasses away?

I'm still not sure if I view any of this as humiliation, though, which is a little surprising for me, because usually I jump to the humiliation angle at the slightest chance. I'll keep ruminating.

I guess it's too abstract at this point; but the orchestrated descent into prostitution and dependence (like...the way he is going to make you lose your job) might be fairly humiliating.