Prostate Massage / Enema questions

[va_slim]

I finally ventured into the World of Kink and ordered my husband a prostate stimulator -- an Aneros Progasm. This meant i also had to order special lubricant, and a lube shooter. Then I read its best tried if everything's clean in there, shall we say, so now I am venturing into the World of Enemas. I am very nervous about this, I have never given one or received one. i have no idea if my husband will buy into it. After a lot of research (that was fun!), I ordered a simple syringe enema bulb that holds 10 oz. of liquid, along with some packets of Castile soap, and a set of impressive-looking rectal dilators.

I've never done anything like this before, so would appreciate any tips or advice.

Do these things (prostate stimulators) really work??

 

[SweetErika]

Why would you need a special lube or a "lube shooter" (whatever the hell that is)? Wouldn't any good water-based or silicone lube do, since the Aneros is plastic? Why couldn't one just lube it up prior to insertion, like any other toy?

A bowel movement the same day and shower are generally perfectly sufficient for anal play. However, if you must do an enema, ditch the idea of using any kind of soap (which can irritate the bowels) and stick with warm (like body-temp) water. Have your guy lie comfortably on his left side or get in the shower, fill the syringe with water, shoot it up there, hold it as long as possible, and expel it. Repeat as necessary, until the water that comes out is relatively clean.

Yes, prostate stimulation works for most men, but it can take some experimentation. Like any other toy, some men swear by the Aneros products, and others think they're junk. Most guys seem to enjoy cock stimulation along with their prostate stimulation.

Here are threads on prostate stimulation.
And here are some on enemas.

 

[va_slim]

thanks for the quick feedback. in answer to your questions re/lube, i read that the stimulator should be resting in fluid, which seemed to mean more than just lubricated. the lube shooter is just an applicator that gets it up in there, i guess. don't know how much it holds, but on amazon it said that people who bought the prostate stimulator also got a lube applicator, which is also what i read on the aneros web site.

anyway... i'm sure you are right and its not entirely necessary, but i'm very intriqued by the idea of doing it. injecting lube, that is. so i probably will try it.

thanks for the links to previous threads on that and enemas. trying it out in the shower sounds good, with just plain water.

 

[oldkinky]

I finally ventured into the World of Kink and ordered my husband a prostate stimulator -- an Aneros Progasm. This meant i also had to order special lubricant, and a lube shooter. Then I read its best tried if everything's clean in there, shall we say, so now I am venturing into the World of Enemas. I am very nervous about this, I have never given one or received one. i have no idea if my husband will buy into it. After a lot of research (that was fun!), I ordered a simple syringe enema bulb that holds 10 oz. of liquid, along with some packets of Castile soap, and a set of impressive-looking rectal dilators.

I've never done anything like this before, so would appreciate any tips or advice.

Do these things (prostate stimulators) really work??

I use a Fleet Enema before anything anal. I empty the laxative that it comes filled with and refill with warm water. Use the enema-expel and shower.

DW always uses a vibrating anal toy to stimulate my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. Really intensifies my orgasms.

After we had done prostate massage for a while DW expressed a desire to fuck me with a strap on. We purchased one and now we enjoy strap on sex. She loves fucking me.

Many years ago I had a hangup about anthing anal on me, but as I understood my prostate better I tried it and WOW I was hooked.

He will love it and his intense orgasms. PM me for details of our prostate and strap on fucking.

 

[va_slim]

thank you for the encouragement, now i don't feel so weird. my husband is out of town until tonight, so this morning, i "practiced" administering an enema on myself. i used a fleet, and at first i couldn't really get much liquid to go in, so i laid on the floor with my ass up against our tub and put my feet on the rim of the tub and pushed up so that i was more vertical. then i managed to get 3 4.5 oz. bottles to go in, expelling some along the way. it got a little gross by the time i managed to get some liquid pretty far in, i guess, so i would say i didn't really like that part, and would definitely need some privacy, as would my husband i imagine, if i can talk him into letting me do this to him. i'm a little shy/nervous about it, i never considered myself kinky or a butt freak, but maybe i am!

it's funny you would mention strap-ons, that's what got this whole thing started, i think my husband bought me a strap-on, but he hasn't given it to me yet (this will be another new adventure). i do not want to just plow right in with it, so got the idea of prostate massage, then enema, and here we are!!

i would be glad to "PM" you but am not sure what that means. i'm new to this website, well, really, websites like this in general, so can you spell that out for me??

thanks again!

 

[NomadLady]

The normal daily bowel movement then a good shower before play should be enough unless there some stomach upsets going on. However, he might enjoy being controlled by you and made to take the enema as a prelude to what will follow later in the evening.

 

[Ohiorob]

PM=private message

Go to the top of this page and click private messages over on the right side.
It's similar to email except is for "onsite" people only. You'll need the screen name of whoever you wish to communicate with.

I will send you a PM re this thread subject.

 

[SubNebGuy]

Being on the receiving end of a variety of prostate toys, usually once a week, I much prefer to start with a thicker lube. Ky-jelly or a similar thick lube to start.
Then we keep it slick with a liquid lube (water based as well since this just enhances the jelly's slipperyness)

Everyone prefers it different, but for a first time, I'd read the stuff Erika posted, and go with external lube.

We don't do enemas either, and won't have a 'session' if I'm not feeling up for it.

 

[va_slim]

thanks all for your suggestions. i do find the notion of control my husband (or him controlling me) through the use of enemas intriguing. also i experimented some with enemas the other night and gave a long one to myself to learn the best positions for receiving it. my husband and i had a long talk about the enema portion of this adventure, and he is agreeable to trying one, and to me administering it (although we both agree that expulsion should be done in private until the fluids come out clean). after i gave myself one the other night, my husband came home from a business trip and we had anal sex that night, and he was able to go in deeper than he ever has been. it felt amazing. we've only have anal sex occasionally, but that may change now....

 

[Mr.G]

Here's another good thread

on PROSTATE massage.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=98657

Like anything else new and especially internal, take it slow and gauge their reaction to what you're doing. Because the sensations are new he may not react as he normally does. Don't let that turn you off or think he is either. Build up slowly. THE best combo is a nice firm BJ and a prostate massage at the same time. It feels like your spine is going to be expelled when you ejaculate. Incredibly intense.

 

[orlandot94]

It's important that you take it slow, especially if he hasn't used anything up that area before. The Prograsm is a farily large model, but as long as you take it slow, it should be alright.

You just need to apply the proper amount of lube, have him push out, like he is using the bathroom, and slowly insert the toy. Each "hump" of the Program will be a challenge. The key is too take it slow and have him push out for easier insertion. The same thing applies for removel except you relax as much as possible.

Good luck!

 

[schaeff]

Please let me know if this post doesn't belong on this thread. But I like all your posts so here goes.
My wife has no interest in sex anymore and she is away for a few days. Not having an enema in many decades, I accidentally came across a bulb type irrigator in a bathroom cabinet drawer. My first lookup had a recipe for a warm saline and I used it after lubing the long tip with a silicone lube. I found it best to squat down for penetration. It felt great when the thin tip rubbed my prostate. My suddenly swollen erection was larger than I've seen it in a long time. I moved the nozzle in figure eights so that my prostate got very stimulated. After emptying, my bowel felt clean. I then got out a small anal toy we abandoned after unsuccessful attempts to hopefully get her shrinking vagina interested again, but without success. After lubing it up, I fucked my ass for a long time enjoying the sensations, slow then fast then slow strokes again, and watching my clear precum flow. I climaxed with only a few light strokes, gushing more cum than I'd seen in years. There's something to be said for self love especially now that I've found a new way to enjoy myself.

 

[Sjen451]

1. I enjoy an enema with simply my shower head hose (head removed). Water on low and warm, but stick in, clentch tight, and fill until my tummy swells. Then give an hour for my body to expel all the water along with everything else. No special tools or lubes. Pretty straight forward. Did same steps with my wife and she enjoyed this step as much as anything else.
2. Strapons are WONDERFUL! When you take charge, he will love it.
3. Prostate massage is taken care of during strapon sex. Get a 6 to 8 inch dong, bend him over, and angle yourself like your trying to f*** him through to his belly button. He will cum.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Please let me know if this post doesn't belong on this thread. But I like all your posts so here goes.

Schaeff, you've actually responded to an eight year old thread, so good luck getting an answer from the OP...

Having said that, I occasionally use a Nexus prostate massager which can be mind blowing. All the fuss about enemas is overkill though - a good bowel movement earlier in the day is all that's needed, and a simple wash of your ass before you play; oh, and lots of lube .

 

[schaeff]

Schaeff, you've actually responded to an eight year old thread, so good luck getting an answer from the OP...

Having said that, I occasionally use a Nexus prostate massager which can be mind blowing. All the fuss about enemas is overkill though - a good bowel movement earlier in the day is all that's needed, and a simple wash of your ass before you play; oh, and lots of lube .

Thanks for the advice. Is your Nexus the one that moves by itself?

 

[ElectricBlue]

Thanks for the advice. Is your Nexus the one that moves by itself?

Yes, I have the Glide, which is a little small, and the Excel, which is bigger. I'll often ease in (a deliberate choice of words) with the Glide (which is about the same size but slightly different geometry to the Aneros), and then migrate to the Excel, which has more movement and always stays in. The trick is a fair amount of lube but not excessive (a coating on the gadget is all I need, thick water based is best).

My erection stops immediately, but the trick is relaxing and waiting. If I try to stimulate (by using porn or reading, say) I don't actually relax enough; so I let myself almost fall asleep. Then, when the automatic reflex movement comes, whoa! It's hang on for the ride - you can go an hour or two, spasming and thrashing around on the bed, calling out, vocalising. Not to be done in a crowded house... Fucking intense. I usually finish by masturbating with the device still in, if I can - but if not, as soon as I take it out, I've got a monster erection and, even at my age, cum on my chest.

Worth a play, but patience and relaxation, no direct stimulation of your cock; that's the key. It sounds contra-intuitive, but coming without an erection... Yes.

 

[schaeff]

Yes, I have the Glide, which is a little small, and the Excel, which is bigger. I'll often ease in (a deliberate choice of words) with the Glide (which is about the same size but slightly different geometry to the Aneros), and then migrate to the Excel, which has more movement and always stays in. The trick is a fair amount of lube but not excessive (a coating on the gadget is all I need, thick water based is best).

My erection stops immediately, but the trick is relaxing and waiting. If I try to stimulate (by using porn or reading, say) I don't actually relax enough; so I let myself almost fall asleep. Then, when the automatic reflex movement comes, whoa! It's hang on for the ride - you can go an hour or two, spasming and thrashing around on the bed, calling out, vocalising. Not to be done in a crowded house... Fucking intense. I usually finish by masturbating with the device still in, if I can - but if not, as soon as I take it out, I've got a monster erection and, even at my age, cum on my chest.

Worth a play, but patience and relaxation, no direct stimulation of your cock; that's the key. It sounds contra-intuitive, but coming without an erection... Yes.

Now I can't wait to do this too.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Now I can't wait to do this too.

There is a forum, but I can't remember if it's linked to the Nexus website or the Aneros one, where folk provide really useful advice and detail of what worked for them. Lots of tips and pointers, the main theme of which is relax, relax, relax.

I also applied a lot of the lessons learned to Tantra practices I've been working on - a French writer, Margot Anand is the best practical teacher:

http://www.margotanand.com

There's a lot of cross over. I am at the point, sometimes, when I'll wake at three in the morning, and I will be in the spontaneous shaking phase - yet it might have been days since I tried Tantra, the massagers, or even masturbated. My body is learning something it didn't do before.