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[badonkadoku]

I'm bi-curious and want to 'feel out' a very good gay friend to see if he'd let me go down on him. How should I broach the subject? Here's the thing: he's never actually come out to me, but has dropped veiled references ( to his presumed orientation, not BJ's) and also I can tell by some of his Facebook 'likes'.

 

[XtraKat]

I would say to just be honest with him, but then again, he's your friend. You might not want to mess things up by asking something like that...

 

[nakedplay]

I would say to just be honest with him, but then again, he's your friend. You might not want to mess things up by asking something like that...

I agree, I would not mess with a friend like that

 

[Lazy_lay]

I agree, I would not mess with a friend like that

hey don't forget....a gay guy could fall in love with you.

Now that'd be a mess.

 

[bluesky496]

I'm bi-curious and want to 'feel out' a very good gay friend to see if he'd let me go down on him. How should I broach the subject? Here's the thing: he's never actually come out to me, but has dropped veiled references ( to his presumed orientation, not BJ's) and also I can tell by some of his Facebook 'likes'.

i would have a serious chat with him and ask him about his orientation and tell him you are fine with it and it makes no difference to your friendship and when that has settled then broach the subject of sucking him ,dont just jump in and possibly ruin everything between you .

 

[badonkadoku]

Well, what I thought would be my golden opportunity has officially fallen through; my friend will not be able to attend the summer week-long conference, where we were planning to room together. Don't think he had any thought of what I had up my sleeve. ;-)

So now I have a 'campaign' to out myself to him subtly. I found his Flickr account, which has a few interesting faves, and so I added him as a contact, making sure to add a few faves & join a few groups of my own. Hopefully he'll figure me out!

 

[badonkadoku]

:Bump:

 

[YourFan]

What did you figure out?!?

 

[badonkadoku]

What did you figure out?!?

Nothing yet.

 

[badonkadoku]

What did you figure out?!?

Just posted about a recent experience with a completely different friend on 2 other threads.

 

[ProfWords]

Just posted about a recent experience with a completely different friend on 2 other threads.

Ooo, share links to those threads! I want to hear how this saga continues.

 

[xperthands]

I see you found an outlet, but I wanted to chime in on the asking a gay friend issue. In conversations with several of my gay friends, it has come up that they get requests like this from their straight friends all the time. They hate it. It almost always ends badly. Many times, the wives are friends too, and the gay man doesn't want to hurt her by experimenting with her husband. Most often, there is just no chemistry there, and there is no easy way to tell the straight friend he's in the friend zone. Even if there is chemistry, there is no real win either. If they go ahead and do something, the straight guy is most likely going to freak out and the friendship is gone. The other alternative is that the straight guy is going to get all emotional, and now the gay guy has to figure out if he really wants a relationship with a guy who is just beginning his journey of discovery and likely to cheat on him.

 

[littlegrizz02]

I see you found an outlet, but I wanted to chime in on the asking a gay friend issue. In conversations with several of my gay friends, it has come up that they get requests like this from their straight friends all the time. They hate it. It almost always ends badly. Many times, the wives are friends too, and the gay man doesn't want to hurt her by experimenting with her husband. Most often, there is just no chemistry there, and there is no easy way to tell the straight friend he's in the friend zone. Even if there is chemistry, there is no real win either. If they go ahead and do something, the straight guy is most likely going to freak out and the friendship is gone. The other alternative is that the straight guy is going to get all emotional, and now the gay guy has to figure out if he really wants a relationship with a guy who is just beginning his journey of discovery and likely to cheat on him.

This is my biggest fear and this is why I never said anything about me wanting to try a guy. I think it would be awesome.........just what if it isn't????

 

[badonkadoku]

I see you found an outlet, but I wanted to chime in on the asking a gay friend issue. In conversations with several of my gay friends, it has come up that they get requests like this from their straight friends all the time. They hate it. It almost always ends badly. Many times, the wives are friends too, and the gay man doesn't want to hurt her by experimenting with her husband. Most often, there is just no chemistry there, and there is no easy way to tell the straight friend he's in the friend zone. Even if there is chemistry, there is no real win either. If they go ahead and do something, the straight guy is most likely going to freak out and the friendship is gone. The other alternative is that the straight guy is going to get all emotional, and now the gay guy has to figure out if he really wants a relationship with a guy who is just beginning his journey of discovery and likely to cheat on him.

All excellent points. Unfortunately the original question was, I'm embarrassed to say, probably "informed" by the straight person's stereotype that gay men are all loose and very ok with casual recreational sex. I knew better, I know better.

 

[badonkadoku]

Ooo, share links to those threads! I want to hear how this saga continues.

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=75383072&postcount=864

 

[scott6251]

I see you found an outlet, but I wanted to chime in on the asking a gay friend issue. In conversations with several of my gay friends, it has come up that they get requests like this from their straight friends all the time. They hate it. It almost always ends badly. Many times, the wives are friends too, and the gay man doesn't want to hurt her by experimenting with her husband. Most often, there is just no chemistry there, and there is no easy way to tell the straight friend he's in the friend zone. Even if there is chemistry, there is no real win either. If they go ahead and do something, the straight guy is most likely going to freak out and the friendship is gone. The other alternative is that the straight guy is going to get all emotional, and now the gay guy has to figure out if he really wants a relationship with a guy who is just beginning his journey of discovery and likely to cheat on him.

Many years ago I developed a friendship with a gay coworker. We had discussions like this once in a while over beers. We had interest in each other, but he didn't go with married men. Still, it was nice that we had a close enough relationship to talk about sex. We also felt comfortable enough to put our hands on each other in a non-sexual way (although I did get turned on) and compliment each others bodies.
He lives in a different state now, but we stay in touch.

 

[xperthands]

All excellent points. Unfortunately the original question was, I'm embarrassed to say, probably "informed" by the straight person's stereotype that gay men are all loose and very ok with casual recreational sex. I knew better, I know better.

Yeah, and of course, like any slut of any sexual orientation, you would have to be super protected against stds...

 

[badonkadoku]

I think it would be awesome.........just what if it isn't????

But it is....

 

[badonkadoku]

Ooo, share links to those threads! I want to hear how this saga continues.

Just posted about a recent experience with a completely different friend on 2 other threads.

So what'd you think, Prof?