Disclaimers: Sharing pics should be done only when someone is ready and I agree with that with that said lets get on with the discussion.
I bring stuff up when I find something interesting and most of the time its taken out of context and people do not read all I say. I do it anyhow for the few of you that do read it all.
I've been a dom for about three and half years so far and while that is minuscule compared to others on here there is one thing that has remained the same through those three years.
The need for proof.
I guess part of my problem is that I'm naturally distrusting and slightly paranoid. I want to know someone is actually doing as I wish; I think most of us can understand that want.
With that said I've encounter several women over the years that are reluctant to provide some kind of validation. I can understand that as I said above trust should be gained.
What I cant understand is the immovable will some of them have that its a horrible idea to provide me with some kind of proof.
Doesn't trust work both ways? If you need to trust me, do not I need to be able to trust you too?
In my mind having a relationship without some kind of proof is along the lines of what role-play would be. The woman on the other side of the chat/email could be just as likely be a guy stroking his cock.
The argument most people give is that the internet isn't safe. Which is generally correct.
You could also argue that there are so many people using the internet everyday that if one of your friends happen to fall upon a pic of you on the internet where is the proof that its you (unless you confirm it somehow)? Especially if the pic does not include one's face.
Just like there are celebrity look a likes there are look a likes for everyone. Yes everyone is unique in some way, but you also have to take into account that that friend probably has not seem them naked before so do not know what they look like naked. Lets face it someone wearing clothing and someone naked are generally two different things.
I could provide statistics on the number of people using the internet everyday and the number of pics uploaded everyday, but I'll just move on.
The second argument to bring up is that is not it a bit rude to assume someone is going to screw you? Why do people always assume the worst of the human race? It gets tiring. I guess this one is not quite strong, but it merits bringing up anyhow.
The thing that still needs to be discussed is the types of proof I'm talking about. Proof comes in many forms for me. It is not always pics/cam/voice calls that require one to be naked. Hell there are times where a pic of a shirt or pic of a dildo would work for me or even showing up at the right time is proof for me sometimes.
I'm not sure where I was going with this. Probably was just looking to vent, but I thought a few of my comments were worthy of being spoken. I guess my point is be careful but be less careful. Did I make any sense at all or am I just going to be called an idiot like usual? lol Thanks for reading this far if you did.
I bring stuff up when I find something interesting and most of the time its taken out of context and people do not read all I say. I do it anyhow for the few of you that do read it all.
I've been a dom for about three and half years so far and while that is minuscule compared to others on here there is one thing that has remained the same through those three years.
The need for proof.
I guess part of my problem is that I'm naturally distrusting and slightly paranoid. I want to know someone is actually doing as I wish; I think most of us can understand that want.
With that said I've encounter several women over the years that are reluctant to provide some kind of validation. I can understand that as I said above trust should be gained.
What I cant understand is the immovable will some of them have that its a horrible idea to provide me with some kind of proof.
Doesn't trust work both ways? If you need to trust me, do not I need to be able to trust you too?
In my mind having a relationship without some kind of proof is along the lines of what role-play would be. The woman on the other side of the chat/email could be just as likely be a guy stroking his cock.
The argument most people give is that the internet isn't safe. Which is generally correct.
You could also argue that there are so many people using the internet everyday that if one of your friends happen to fall upon a pic of you on the internet where is the proof that its you (unless you confirm it somehow)? Especially if the pic does not include one's face.
Just like there are celebrity look a likes there are look a likes for everyone. Yes everyone is unique in some way, but you also have to take into account that that friend probably has not seem them naked before so do not know what they look like naked. Lets face it someone wearing clothing and someone naked are generally two different things.
I could provide statistics on the number of people using the internet everyday and the number of pics uploaded everyday, but I'll just move on.
The second argument to bring up is that is not it a bit rude to assume someone is going to screw you? Why do people always assume the worst of the human race? It gets tiring. I guess this one is not quite strong, but it merits bringing up anyhow.
The thing that still needs to be discussed is the types of proof I'm talking about. Proof comes in many forms for me. It is not always pics/cam/voice calls that require one to be naked. Hell there are times where a pic of a shirt or pic of a dildo would work for me or even showing up at the right time is proof for me sometimes.
I'm not sure where I was going with this. Probably was just looking to vent, but I thought a few of my comments were worthy of being spoken. I guess my point is be careful but be less careful. Did I make any sense at all or am I just going to be called an idiot like usual? lol Thanks for reading this far if you did.