Problem with reaching orgasm

[duke1421115]

I've recently come up against a problem my girlfriend has with reaching orgasm.
We've been in a relationship for a few months now. Although we're quite open about most matters, she's not had sex before, so we're working up to that slowly. Recently we've started engaging in mutual masturbation, which we really enjoy.

The problem is that when she's close to orgasm, the stimulation suddenly becomes painful for her and we have to stop. She's told me that she experiences exactly the same thing when she's masturbating on her own, and consequently has never been able to reach orgasm.

Has anyone else experienced or heard of this? What can be done to help?

 

[SubNebGuy]

Are you sure she's not just mis-diagnosing the verge of climax as 'pain'? Just using fingers, or do you have a vibrator?

Since we're not talking penetration for orgasm (at least I'm assuming we are just talking about clitoral orgasm), I don't know of any medical reason for pain when trying to cum. Psycological reasons...yes, but not physiological.

If you havent' tried a vibe, try it. She probably should also try this on her own, and try to push through it before you have another go at it. If she can't get herself off comfortably she'll be too nervous to get off from your touch.

 

[SweetErika]

Has your girlfriend talked to her gynecologist about this and/or seen a sexual dysfunction specialist? If not that should be a step she should be taking.

The specialist is particularly important because a lot of gynecologists don't know much about sexual dysfunction. I recently saw a specialist who said the vast majority of gynos and female urologists don't even know how to do a proper external exam to diagnose common sex-related conditions. This was after I had complained to my OBGYN about painful sex multiple times and had lots of exams from her during and after my pregnancy; she neither did an external exam, nor did she refer me to a specialist (who was able to diagnose the problem in a matter of a minute).

 

[duke1421115]

Thanks for your replies

We had another session last night and she didn't feel any pain - I took more care and used *lots* of lubrication, which seemed to do the job.

If the problem returns I'll suggest that she see a gynecologist, but hopefully that won't be necessary. SubNebGuy - we may try using a vibrator at some point, although I doubt that will be for a while.

 

[Annabell4you]

Thanks for your replies

We had another session last night and she didn't feel any pain - I took more care and used *lots* of lubrication, which seemed to do the job.

You reminded me of a younger me... I had pain like she did just from the friction. Once I was good and lubricated, I was ok. Hope that is her issue.