Problem! Help.

[sherocksout]

OK I have what may seem like a silly problem. I only recently admitted to myself that I am bisexual. This came after much proding by my now ex boyfriend, who became friends with a bisexual girl. He was always making jokes about threesomes, and one night i just admitted that I was bi. He was totally cool with it, and was excited by it I think. Anyway, I haven't told anyone else but him about my sexuality. And now I have a huge crush on the bisexual girl he introduced me too.
My problem 1) i don't know how to tell her i am bi too and would like to be more than friends. I mean its akward enough telling a friend you like them as some thing more, but this adds a new level too it.

What do you think I should do?

 

[Cigan]

Ok first things first, just tell her your bi. Flat out, she's bi she isn't going to have a problem with it, and the more people you tell, the happier you will be, trust me. As far as telling her how you feel that one is more complicated. I would say ask her to dinner. If she says yes great, if not then you can go home cry into your pillow, get over her and start looking for someone else. Waiting just leaves you in limbo, and that is never fun. Trust me rejection is better than not knowing, and if she's single I would bet she would at least go on one date with you. I mean why not.

 

[Angel]

You could always try flirting with her, or acting the way you would if you were to flirt with a guy you were interested in. It's not like you need to find out if she swings that way, since you're going into this knowing she's BiSexual.

 

[Bitchslapper]

I agree with the consensus here (as usual). Just tell her you're bi and ask her out.

Like Angel said, it would be a a situation that's a lot more difficult if you weren't sure of her sexual preference.

 

[kitiara]

If do not want to cheat on your bf then I would have a discussion with him first. Once you know that you both have a comfort zone with the issue then I would def invite her to dinner.

If you are shy then-yes, mention that you are bi and that you discussed it with your bf. More than likely she will tell you how she feels.

Since she knows it is ok with your bf then she does not have to worry about that.

If you are not shy then yes, flirt with her as you would a guy..

And terrible as it is don't underestimate a nice dinner with wine..

Helps to ease the nervousness....

 

[sherocksout]

If do not want to cheat on your bf then I would have a discussion with him first. Once you know that you both have a comfort zone with the issue then I would def invite her to dinner.

If you are shy then-yes, mention that you are bi and that you discussed it with your bf. More than likely she will tell you how she feels.

Since she knows it is ok with your bf then she does not have to worry about that.

If you are not shy then yes, flirt with her as you would a guy..

And terrible as it is don't underestimate a nice dinner with wine..

Helps to ease the nervousness....

no no, we are broken up that not the issue.

i just was wondering if it was like weird that i was suddenly like out of nowhere, "yea i'm bi too, and have a crush on you"

 

[kitiara]

no no, we are broken up that not the issue.

i just was wondering if it was like weird that i was suddenly like out of nowhere, "yea i'm bi too, and have a crush on you"

Not at all! It happens at different times in our lives..

I am sure that since your friend is a bi she willl understand.

Sometimes people are married for years with kids and then say "hey i'm a lesbian (or gay) to their partner..". Now that is a shock.

I wouldn't be surprised if your friend already had the feeling you were bi or thinking about it or was wishing you were.

I say go for it.

 

[Etoile]

Hmmm. One thing that I'm getting the impression of is that you might be interested in this girl just because you know you're both bi. I've had babydykes come on to me for that reason - hey, you're a lesbian too, wanna make out? If you're still exploring your sexuality and you want to try it with her, that's great, but if you're just interested because she's there, you might want to wait for someone you really do have an interest in. That doesn't mean you shouldn't come out to her as bi, but hitting on her might not be the best second step for either of you.

Just my thoughts.