pretending to be happy

[Willing and Unsure]

would you ever pretend to be happy just so you dont feel like shit all the time?

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Personally I wouldnt, would rather feel shitty than 'sell-out' on my emotions.

 

[MysteryJKR]

the first thing that popped into my head was no way!!

but then i think about it and realize ive done it many many times when I went through the months of crap a little while ago and years ago as well.

So I guess I do. I dont like it. and I know im not the same. everyone around me can tell. im not as chipper and odd. lol.

But I dont like making others feel down, especially because of me so sometimes I dont get them involved and pretend, but otherwise I like to express my feelings and emotions. I kept in wayy to much hurt and crud for way to long and I just said heck with it and now I dont do it. its to hard.

this thread have anything to do with you hun? hmmm. PM. *cough cough* hehe. *snuggles Willing*

 

[PL~Shadow Lover]

Have I ever?

Matter of fact I am right now, just for that very reason JKR mentioned. Why get other people in a downer mood if they don't have to? Sure I know they're friends and they want to help, but sometimes ya gotta do things on your own.

 

[Mistress]

would you ever pretend to be happy just so you dont feel like shit all the time?

I have done it many times, mainly because I didn't want to worry those who care about me.

 

[Orlanth]

Yes, I am prtending now...

I am very, deeply depressed, but I am acting all happy to cheer up you kind and beautiful people on this BB. You all desive to be happy

*Snuggles*

 

[Vivid Blossom]

Re: Have I ever?

Matter of fact I am right now, just for that very reason JKR mentioned. Why get other people in a downer mood if they don't have to? Sure I know they're friends and they want to help, but sometimes ya gotta do things on your own.

Awwwwwww PL Honey -- I love you -- snugggggggles. You know where to find me if you need me. Diana/Vivid

 

[Orlanth]

MysteryJKR, I feel the ssame why about not making people depressed over me, so I prtend to be happy.

About not letting people know about my pain, or how I am hurt. I don't do that much, I am sharing my feelings with one person. But no one else. I don't like to have people feeling sorry for me. And I much prefer them to be happy then feel bad.

*Snuggles*

 

[Roll-One]

It's very seldom I'm unhappy, I'm ususally always a happy person. The very few times in my life I have been unhappy I didn't pretend about it at all.

You should always be the person that you are, no matter what emotion you are having at the time.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

bumps this up for some more responses

 

[Low-light]

For the sake of others, yes I have. It's not fun or easy, but it feels necessary sometimes.

However, the important thing is like the Bard said:
"This above all, to thine own self be true."






P.S. - When you're down, there are alot of worse places that you could be than here.

 

[Guest]

Would you ever pretend to be happy just so you dont feel like shit all the time?

I've done it before. I've been there. A while back, in a thread here, I called it the Hawkeye Pierce Syndrome, meaning I have put on a false face before, pretended to be happy, masked my pain with humor. Why? (You may ask?) Well, it's simple really. When you're "happy", people don't bother you. They don't ask, "What's wrong?" or "Are you sure you're okay?" When they think you're happy, they leave you alone, they do not pry. Show some true emotion and they're on you like a pack of wolves!

 

[Guest]

Up.

(In case others wish to share today.)

 

[Bluenose]

well the only place i pretend to be happy when i am not is at work, can't be in a shitty mood there or it tends to affect the residents.

 

[Tabby432]

I do. For the most part because it eventually makes me happy. For a little while you forget why you are unhappy.

 

[BlondGirl]

Fake it 'til you make it!!!!!

You can't go wrong there. It is good advice for all kinds of life's situations.

 

[Morden]

Well it all depends on whether you fake it or actually go and do something that makes you happy. One of the big problems with being unhappy, is once you get used to it. You see people have a habbit of going into vicious cycles where they can dimiss or get down right nasty when oppurtunities for happiness are available. so sometimes you might start out thinking you are faking the good time till all of a sudden you forget you were sad. Cheesy but its life and life is cheesy soemtimes.

 

[Xander]

Pretended to be happy? Sure I have, honestly, who haven't?

Usually though, I either say what is bothering me, or put on the "stoneface" where there is no chance of penetrating and seeing whats underneath the surface.

One interesting thing I've seen though, is that some people seem to marvel in other peoples misery. Online they turn nasty and become rude and not worth the air they're breathing.
And IRL....They get the same way.

Perhaps and attempt to feel better about themselves, by grinding other further down in the dirt than needed??

A thought to ponder.

 

[TinaG13]

Actually, yes.....

For years, I pretended and even told myself I was happy so many times that I had myself convinced that I was...... Then something happened to make me realize that I wasn't happy at all!

So then I went about finding ways to make myself be really happy, because unless you are happy deep down, everything in your life is just going through the motions....

 

[Chuckus]

Generally speaking I do not pretend to be happy. Of course there is the situation where it is "polite" to act all happy and giddy. Though those occasions are far and few between where I feel I must act "happy" even though I am not.
If I am unhappy, it is easy to see. Though I get it off my chest as to what is bothering me, deal with it and move on to happiness in some way. I tend to not let things weigh me down as I like to be the happy care free person I am.

 

[Cirrus]

Yeah, been there and done that. Even got the T-shirt. Thing is, it's not a healthy thing to do but I think we've all done it at one time or another. I did it bigtime about 2 years ago. I got fucked over royally by someone I thought was a friend IRL and quickly found out when someone asks you "How's it going?" they don't really want an honest answer, they want to hear "Good...it's going good."

 

[beckbabe]

Even when people want to help you, they ususally can't. Where the hell are my happy pills? I used to be happy and free but I thought I was miserable...now I feel overburdened and tired, maybe that means I'm happy. Oh shit I forgot...I mean, Yes I am happy!

 

[riff]

HELL YES!!!

It works!

Sometimes it is damned near impossible, but it at least cuts down on waste.

Do I sing because I am happy, or am I happy because I sing?

Haven't you ever tried to cheer a friend up? Have you ever succeeded? We can do the same things to ourselves and I am living proof.

I think it was Abraham Lincoln who said something to the effect that "People are just about as happy as they choose to be."

You only live once.

 

[delite]

Am I happy or unhappy? I forget have spent so long 'pretending' to be happy that I'm now no longer sure wether I'm just pretending or whether I am really happy.In which case pretending to be happy must work. musn't it?