prepping for anal sex

[likes_to_purr]

Hi. I really want to try it anally with my husband but I'm kinda concerned not so much about the technique, I know about the need for lube and even more lube, but about the fear of not being quite clean enough if you will. So if any of you out there that do engage in this activity can give me some pointers I'd be greatly appreciative. Do you use an enema the day before? If so wouldn't that possibly make you kinda sore before the "action" even took place? Do you simply void and then just take a shower? Thanks again for any input.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Good for you...

void and a shower are very thoughtful...but not required....and I would take a good look at preparing yourself before the first anal act....

Lube and more lube is the answer because most men do NOT know how to have anal sex with a woman....they just bang away as if it were a backdoor vagina.....and it is not so.

For what it is worth, here is how I would prepare for it...if I were you....

1. Get sexually excited...the mosr excitement, the better the first time is...

2. Star with lubing a finger....and then do it nice and slow...easy...never have the man PUSH into you...have him PRESS against you instead...the difference is the amount of pressure...puching forces things...pressing applies pressure but does not force into...it "rests" against the opening.....

3. This makes your body the boss....and when your body is ready, it will show you by naturally opening up your ass...a little at a time...and this is where men go wrong...a little opening is not the signal to push...keep the same pressure until your ass sucks his finger in all the way....then keep the finger still...make him make you cum that way by ALSO using a finger inside your pussy...so that both fingers touch inside you...once you are excited that way...he can go in and out with the finger in your ass as well...and make you cum from the sensation of motion into your ass...

4. Now you are prepared...use more lube...and do exactly the same technique with his cock...no pain occurs this way....at least nothing unbearable....just "different", and it should cause you to cum the first time on his cock...

Good luck!

 

[lilpriss]

Sounds like Jeff needs to offer free lessons... hehe

And from a female perspective just REEEELLLLAAAAAXXXX. Also, vocalize how things are going... that is so very important. Words let him know exactly where you're at so he can be where you are. If it starts to hurt at all, just ease off and try again. iI you don't do it on the first try, it's ok, that will just make you anticipate success even more. Just remember not to injure yourself.

I haven't had all that much experience with it, the first time, was HORRIBLE... but the next time was pretty damn good (about 10 yrs later with someone who had patience, empathy and kick ass communication skills)!

 

[isshogai7]

compliments on the gret sugestions.There's a book by tristan taormino on the subject that offers great information,even tough the book by jack morin it's the best one.First of all,you have to keep in touch with the zone,and with all the taboo associated with it.,to make it part of your body as whole and not just a part used when necessary.It's good to try on your own,first,and to relax.At first,there will be some discomfort(a new sensation)after a while it will become normal.Remember to breathe and slowly touch yourself.If you try to push something-cockor finger or whatever-it will contract causing pain.After a while it will relax,so
you can add stimulation to this area during masturbation;with your partner,try to have vaginal sex first,since excitement will help you to create desire.After tell him to caress(or kiss) the area and start with a finger.The key is to really want to experience the anal sex.After a while when YOU will say that you're ready,he will put the cock on your anus,without tryn' to penetrate.When you're ready, GENTLY he has to penetrate you:remember to push out with the anus' muscles and to breathe out as he pushes.Lotsa lube.Stop for a while,to feel him inside you,and when you're ready,go on;add some clitoral stimulation.Relax and enjoy!Choose the ideal position for you and remember that YOU
are in charge, not him;if you will enjoy it so he'll do.Don't have vaginal sex before washing both of you.Cleaning before it will be enough.No need to have enemas,but wash yourself and free yourself a coupla hours before;usually the colon is empty.You can experience some pretty intense feelingd with anal sex,but it's an acquired taste.The key is relaxation and sexual desire;without them,it's useless to even attempt it.I hope this will help.

 

[SexyChele]

Hi. I really want to try it anally with my husband but I'm kinda concerned not so much about the technique, I know about the need for lube and even more lube, but about the fear of not being quite clean enough if you will. So if any of you out there that do engage in this activity can give me some pointers I'd be greatly appreciative. Do you use an enema the day before? If so wouldn't that possibly make you kinda sore before the "action" even took place? Do you simply void and then just take a shower? Thanks again for any input.

I've had anal sex without the use of an enema, and it was fine. It's all about knowing your own body, how comfortable you feel, and what your partner is comfortable with.

If you have any doubt about what might be in the bowels, a gentle enema will help alleviate that. You shouldn't really be sore, so that shouldn't be much of a hindrance to you. Of course, you can always try the enema at some other time to discover how you might feel.

If you have any doubts or uncertainties, it might be best if your husband used a condom the first time. It really depends on his attitude and how comfortable he feels, as well as you.

Truthfully, I've never had a "mess" except when I engaged in anal sex over a long period of time. (6 times in one night - not always a good thing, believe me!) I would suggest an enema and a nice shower or bath. That way, you shouldn't have to worry about anything and can truly enjoy the experience.

Good luck!