pregnant women and men who think their gross

[Reshbod]

I'm working on a story that involves a pregnant woman and several men. I've know several men who think a woman becomes unappealing the instant she gets pregnant.

I want to hear from women who have been pregnant, have y'all encountered such men? Have they made it obvious how they feel? What kind of things have they done or said? How did it make you feel and how did you react?

And feel free to add any other details that might be interesting.

Thanks.

 

[SisterJezabel]

their gross income?

I'm a bit confused by the question.

If you are asking about experiences with men when I've been pregnant- I've only been with one man at the time and he was thrilled with my state.

 

[PennameWombat]

I'm working on a story that involves a pregnant woman and several men. I've know several men who think a woman becomes unappealing the instant she gets pregnant.

I want to hear from women who have been pregnant, have y'all encountered such men? Have they made it obvious how they feel? What kind of things have they done or said? How did it make you feel and how did you react?

And feel free to add any other details that might be interesting.

Thanks.

“They’re” not their. But aside from that, I can say something relevant here although I’m not now and never have been a pregnant woman.

Years ago I dated a woman who had a then-11 year old son, she was divorced from the boy’s father. No idea how we got onto the subject but she told me that when she was pregnant she and her husband were travelling around Europe. She said that almost from the time she learned she was pregnant, but definitely from the time her pregnancy showed (she had a slender build and apparently it showed quite early), he had absolutely zero sexual interest in her. She wasn’t happy about it, but he refused to touch her. It apparently wasn’t subtle.

She also told me that her sex drive was much higher than normal while she was pregnant. She seemed confused by women who lost their sex drives while pregnant. Which made her then-husband’s ignoring her even harder.

But by some decision making that she never clued me in on they decided they could fuck around while travelling through Europe... Mainly it seemed there was one older (she and husband were in early 20s) dude, Dutch I think, who was quite taken with her and was big on being sexual with a pregnant woman. Yeah, Older Dutch Dude was married but his wife didn’t seem to care...

As followup, the marriage broke up within about five or so years.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Not really - any men I might have done anything with were simply fascinated by the changes and concerned to make sure I was OK. After check-ups round 14 weeks and being assured there was no risk of miscarriage, they were as enthusiastic as ever (until then I felt too ill anyway). But there was hesitancy to be cruel or inflict pain in a BDSM way, which continued even after giving birth for a few years. Lots of men are reluctant to fuck vigorously as they're scared of hurting their partner, but generally get over it and want as much as possible before birth.

Much more of a problem was guys fetishizing my pregnant body, and at least three times I had to outright say "fuck off".

 

[AvroAnson]

She also told me that her sex drive was much higher than normal while she was pregnant.

Mine was, each time. I get the same story from my sisters, sisters-in-law, friends and cousins who are close enough to me that we talk about such matters.

She seemed confused by women who lost their sex drives while pregnant.

There are lots of people in this world whom I don't know. Generalizing is dangerous, but I would be too, if it was said by someone I actually knew. If the story is third-hand, one has to ask oneself if the storyteller has an agenda and if the content was edited. Perhaps even self edited to fit storyteller / interviewers biases.

Which made her then-husband’s ignoring her even harder ...

As followup, the marriage broke up within about five or so years.

Gee whiz, what a ko-inky-dink!!! (coincidence)

 

[MayorReynolds]

I'm a man and I don't find pregnant women unpleasant at all. In fact I find it appealing, even strangely erotic. An expectant mother exudes a special kind of femininity I love.

I am not sure about these men who tell you it's gross, except I don't understand how they could come to that conclusion. It's one of the most natural things on Earth.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

Very very sexy to me if they're actually showing. Too bad not enough of them are seeking out some strange.

 

[Reshbod]

Very very sexy to me if they're actually showing. Too bad not enough of them are seeking out some strange.

I agree. I find pregnant women quite appealing. The main reason I posted this poorly worded question (don't drink and post) is because I wanted to hear from those who don't find it appealing and actually find it disgusting. I don't understand the mindset since it is natural, but have heard it from other men. Maybe I'm wrong and they aren't as numerous as I thought, which would be good in my opinion.

 

[KeithD]

Why on earth would you want to hear from those who don't like it? To argue with them or you aren't sure whether or not they could persuade you to their view? Either way, that seems too negative to expend effort on.

I have a pen name book in the erotica marketplace that centers on pregnant women and sex, but it hasn't done all that well.

 

[YDB95]

I wanted to hear from those who don't find it appealing and actually find it disgusting. I don't understand the mindset since it is natural, but have heard it from other men. Maybe I'm wrong and they aren't as numerous as I thought, which would be good in my opinion.

With that attitude, do you really expect anyone who disagrees with you to speak up?

 

[SimonDoom]

There is a person for every erotic taste or aversion. Nothing surprises me in this regard. My own taste is that pregnancy can be sexy and attractive, but it depends to a degree on the woman's response to her own pregnancy. If she feels sexy she probably will project that.

 

[KeithD]

There can be plenty of reasons why (s)he wants to hear about this; to get into the head of the antagonist, for example. Seems like a good thing to do for a serious writer.

I endorse YDB95's response to this.

 

[KeithD]

I don't disagree. But that's not an answer to the question you posed. And despite the possible attitude of the OP, I tried to come up with a useful reply, also because other people may read it. Regardless of the tone and possible attitude of the OP, I do find it an interesting question to think about.

My latest story has a person with a very nasty way of thinking and acting. It was great, but also a challenge, to get into his mind. And important, as this was what the story was about.

One of the comments:

My comment was prompted by the specific instance of leading with the chin--what the OP actually posted--as also picked up by YDB95.

 

[Reshbod]

This is what I was looking for. As for my attitude, I really don't see what some are talking about. If it came off less than inviting then I apologize.

There can be plenty of reasons why (s)he wants to hear about this; to get into the head of the antagonist, for example. Seems like a good thing to do for a serious writer.

I may not belong to the group of men the OP is looking for, but get your mind working. Most likely, there are different options, and possibly a combination of reasons.
Could it be that they dislike the way the belly protrudes from the rest of the body, disrupting the 'original flow' of the body?
Could it be an aversion of large breasts (me personally, I'm not a fan of disproportional breasts, and Lolo Ferrari certainly doesn't do it for me)?
Could it be an aversion of the clear evidence that the body has been 'defiled'?
Could it be that the pregnancy disturbs the picture of a small petite?
Could it be that they're afraid to hurt the baby when having sex?
Larger size being more intimidating?

added: Maybe it has some evolutionary background; 'This one is already occupied; useless for your reproduction at the moment, so don't waste your energy and resources on it'?

No problems making up your own reasons; we all have our own preferences and ways of thinking.

 

[gordo12]

I don't think I saw one reason that I suffered from when my first wife got pregnant. Having a baby was something mothers do. It felt like I was going to fuck my mother. I don't know why my mind went there but it put me off.

I got over it but that was an initial reaction.

 

[Athalia]

I've never been pregnant, but I've known a few women who have. It's not unheard of for men to be unable to relate to a pregnant women, even if that pregnant woman is his wife.

If men got pregnant like women get pregnant, I'm sure that men's feelings about it would be quite different. Pregnancy remains the unavoidable gulf between men and women, something almost any woman can experience, and many women will experience, but a man never can experience.

But I don't think that sort of revulsion happens now as much as it used to. Men seem to be better at taking a woman's pregnancy in stride, especially since pregnant women themselves are more forthright in displaying their condition in the media.

 

[deadheadfred]

For me pregnancy was off-putting. It wasn't something I chose or was proud of, but one can't always control one's feelings.

I tried to apply reason to counter-act those feelings to the extent possible, and otherwise I kept them to myself. I understood, logically, that is was my problem, not hers. But logic only takes you so far.

Now, as it turned out, it wasn't a big problem. Both times my wife was pregnant it was a deeply miserable experience for her, which largely killed her libido too. Occasionally, if she was game, I would hold up my end--but most of the time she was weak, lying in bed, and puking several times a day.

Basically, I remember those months as an endless round of going to the store to buy whatever she thought she might keep down, cooking it, and then cleaning it off the floor when it came back up. So, you know, the whole setup wasn't terribly erotic.

 

[Blind_Justice]

Considering there are some religions who seem to have a huge problem with women in general, pregnant or not, I am not surprised to learn that there are men who think pregnant women are unappealing. As are smart women, independent women or women who don't want to suffocate under layers and layers of clothing in the burning heat of summer or their native desert climates. And before someone thinks I have a hate boner for Muslims: No, the Hindu population okay with gang-raping women or thinking women are lesser people can fuck off and die right alongside them.

Men are idiots. And when I hear about the atrocities done to women in the name of some higher power or other unintelligible hogwash, I am deeply ashamed to have a cock dangling between my legs. I mean, who in their right mind cuts out pre-pubescent girl's clitorises with freaking glass shards?!

 

[SimonDoom]

Men are idiots. And when I hear about the atrocities done to women in the name of some higher power or other unintelligible hogwash, I am deeply ashamed to have a cock dangling between my legs. I mean, who in their right mind cuts out pre-pubescent girl's clitorises with freaking glass shards?!

Some men are idiots. But not all. I don't feel any responsibility or guilt or shame for whatever other men have done, except to the extent that I didn't speak out sufficiently on some occasion when I could have against male idiocy or villainy.

 

[MColton84]

Men are idiots. And when I hear about the atrocities done to women in the name of some higher power or other unintelligible hogwash, I am deeply ashamed to have a cock dangling between my legs. I mean, who in their right mind cuts out pre-pubescent girl's clitorises with freaking glass shards?!

I'm going to side with Simon on this one. I'm no idiot, or some kind of beast because of atrocities that other men have committed. I'm not about to join into a modern shame culture for things that I have no control over. I'm not about to condemn entire races, countries, cultures, or religions because of their D-bags. Every population has Assholes. As for the question of pregnant women and the men who think they're gross, I don't get it. Feels like gaslighting. My wife has always been the most beautiful woman in my life. More so each time she was carrying one of our children. If a man can't see the beauty in such a miracle, then I feel sorry for him.

 

[KeithD]

My writing on pregnant women and sex has had them appealing to men as being safe, experienced, and, in some cases, quite in the mood. I don't think I've ever written this theme in a negative connotation.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

I seriously doubt that most of the pregnant women, especially in their later stage, feel sexy for the larger part of the day. I doubt 'feeling sexy' was often on my wife's mind during the last couple of months, and I wonder if that's wishful thinking from certain people. There may be moments, there may be times when 'feeling sexy' is a thing, and possibly actively pursued at certain times, but especially in the last months I think they're mainly feeling 'large', 'unwieldy', and uncomfortable. And hopefully, happy.

r/pregnant

 

[JaxRhapsody]

Maybe you can elaborate on that?

Reddit subreddit I'm on.

 

[mynameisben]

If not for pregnant women, the whole damn human race would cease to exist. How any boob could consider that "gross" is totally beyond me.


Ben

 

[stickygirl]

I'm working on a story that involves a pregnant woman and several men. I've know several men who think a woman becomes unappealing the instant she gets pregnant.

I want to hear from women who have been pregnant, have y'all encountered such men? Have they made it obvious how they feel? What kind of things have they done or said? How did it make you feel and how did you react?

And feel free to add any other details that might be interesting.

Thanks.

Men in general struggle to comprehend periods, let alone pregnancy.

EDIT to remove political comment about a famous person having sex with a glamour model while his wife was pregnant