Pre-mature Ejaculation

[Owlz]

OK, ladies, sometimes (a lot of times?), I get too damned excited & ejaculate pre-maturely. I've tried the squeeze technique to delay it, but given where the fingers are for the squeeze technique, it often only intensifies my need to cum. Any suggestions?

 

[SweetErika]

Have you tried masturbating before you're with the woman, or just getting off and then concentrating on her? That would be my preference.

 

[Owlz]

Have you tried masturbating before you're with the woman, or just getting off and then concentrating on her? That would be my preference.

If you were that woman, wouldn't you feel cheated out of something?

 

[SweetErika]

I HAVE been that woman, and still am sometimes when my hubby and I are apart! You'll last significantly longer if you masturbate before you get together, but if that won't work for some strange reason, this is how I'd like the news to be broken:
"Honey, you're so sexy, and when we're together, you make me so excited. I want to satisfy you in every way imaginable, but I might not be able to contain my excitement until then."

Optional: "I just want to let you know that even if I come before you're completely satisfied, I'm going to make sure your needs are met because your pleasure is really important to me and I'll be ready to go again after that happens."

Unless the woman is sadistic, this WILL work. As long as you keep your word about pleasuring her, she will not feel cheated. It's a win-win situation!

What doesn't work (from my experience)? Telling her that you have a premature ejaculation problem and leaving it at that. Then when you just come and everything's over, we feel cheated.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Unless the woman is sadistic, this WILL work. As long as you keep your word about pleasuring her, she will not feel cheated. It's a win-win situation!

Apparently I have been with sadistic women. *sigh* Where are the women who are understanding like you? It seems that being that excited to be with a woman would be a compliment - I mean, it is not like me coming means I can't stay hard...

 

[WriterDom]

I don't have much down time and can get back at it pretty quick. Once I came 5 times without getting out of bed.

 

[SweetErika]

Apparently I have been with sadistic women. *sigh* Where are the women who are understanding like you? It seems that being that excited to be with a woman would be a compliment - I mean, it is not like me coming means I can't stay hard...

The women are upset even after you've had the first type of conversation I described??? Perhaps you're with the wrong women? Even at 23, I act on the assumption that I have to be understanding and the male ego is often a fragile thing!
If you put it in the "you make me so hot" context, it comes across as a compliment...consider yourself lucky you don't have problems getting aroused (that's a tough one to put a positive spin on).

 

[seekingjoy]

I agree with SweetE

SweetErica is on target.

My ex was a minute man. I couldn't have cared less. I considered his first orgasm a part of the foreplay!! It was actually very exciting that he got that excited.

However, he was able and willing to rebound quickly. There were times when he masturbated in the shower in the morning without me knowing and then I'd side up to him for some love. I could always tell when he lasted 10 minutes or so that he'd been entertaining himself without me. It was a little joke between us.

And, when that happened, no I never felt I'd missed out on anything.

And I can't imagine being mean about it. Yea, we are all taught early on about the male ego in PenisWorld but aside from that, what in the world does that accomplish to be mean? Maybe the woman is just jelous that she can't get there quite as easily!

 

[Owlz]

I HAVE been that woman, and still am sometimes when my hubby and I are apart! You'll last significantly longer if you masturbate before you get together, but if that won't work for some strange reason, this is how I'd like the news to be broken:
"Honey, you're so sexy, and when we're together, you make me so excited. I want to satisfy you in every way imaginable, but I might not be able to contain my excitement until then."

Optional: "I just want to let you know that even if I come before you're completely satisfied, I'm going to make sure your needs are met because your pleasure is really important to me and I'll be ready to go again after that happens."

Unless the woman is sadistic, this WILL work. As long as you keep your word about pleasuring her, she will not feel cheated. It's a win-win situation!

What doesn't work (from my experience)? Telling her that you have a premature ejaculation problem and leaving it at that. Then when you just come and everything's over, we feel cheated.

Well-put.

 

[Owlz]

Re: I agree with SweetE

SweetErica is on target.

My ex was a minute man. I couldn't have cared less. I considered his first orgasm a part of the foreplay!! It was actually very exciting that he got that excited.

However, he was able and willing to rebound quickly. There were times when he masturbated in the shower in the morning without me knowing and then I'd side up to him for some love. I could always tell when he lasted 10 minutes or so that he'd been entertaining himself without me. It was a little joke between us.

And, when that happened, no I never felt I'd missed out on anything.

And I can't imagine being mean about it. Yea, we are all taught early on about the male ego in PenisWorld but aside from that, what in the world does that accomplish to be mean? Maybe the woman is just jelous that she can't get there quite as easily!

Penis World

Is there a corresponding Vagina World?

 

[incognito989]

Re: Re: I agree with SweetE

Penis World

Is there a corresponding Vagina World?

You mean you missed your mandatory tour of vagina world?

As far as pre-mature stuff... I had a period in my life where it was an issue, mostly because I was not having very much sex at all. The secret truly is multiple sessions, at least 2 if not 3.

So yeah, the answer could also be... more sex! The more you have, the less 'live wire' you'll feel when you do have it. Least that's how it is for me. Ask the lady if she's up for a marathon.

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Re: I agree with SweetE

You mean you missed your mandatory tour of vagina world?

Uh-oh, I'm screwed...or not, as the case may be.

As far as pre-mature stuff... I had a period in my life where it was an issue, mostly because I was not having very much sex at all. The secret truly is multiple sessions, at least 2 if not 3.

So yeah, the answer could also be... more sex! The more you have, the less 'live wire' you'll feel when you do have it. Least that's how it is for me. Ask the lady if she's up for a marathon.

I *LIKE* that answer!

 

[seekingjoy]

Re: Re: I agree with SweetE

Penis World

Is there a corresponding Vagina World?


Owlz:
Of course. Where do you think they came up with the idea for those log water rides at the theme parks. Complete with the big splash at the end!

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Re: I agree with SweetE

Penis World

Is there a corresponding Vagina World?


Owlz:
Of course. Where do you think they came up with the idea for those log water rides at the theme parks. Complete with the big splash at the end!

 

[Owlz]

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