Praise Kink

[honeymore]

What's your favorite praise to say/hear?

And is a praise kink necessarily at odds with a humiliation kink? I don't see how they could go together, but I suppose it's possible?

 

[tommyt125]

I don’t think they’re incompatible! Or more specifically I don’t think they’re mutually exclusive. But I suppose it depends on the people involved and what their wants or needs are and their goals for the activities. And I think the people that prefer one or the other and only one or the other exclusively likely have more success in finding people that lean into either the praise or humiliation that attracts them the most. I think that wielding both together probably takes a bit of emotional awareness and management and nuance.

 

[Lost_Writer01]

What's your favorite praise to say/hear?

And is a praise kink necessarily at odds with a humiliation kink? I don't see how they could go together, but I suppose it's possible?

Logically, it could be pretty humiliating to be praised for doing something humiliating… and on the cycle continues, with you wanting to do more humiliating things for the humiliating praise.

So yes, perfectly possible, perfect normal if you have one kink or the other. Enjoy the exploration!

 

[cascadiabound]

"Good girl" is probably my favorite praise, but anything he says that praises me for pleasing him, being an obedient sub will make me gooey.

I agree that being praised for being particularly depraved, succeeding at a new thing for him, especially if it feels challenging or has a humiliation element to it combines praise and humiliation kinks in a devious way.

My need for praise makes me increasingly susceptible to complying with his wants/asks/orders even when, or maybe especially when what he wants is pushing me to new things that feel scary or just more than I'm comfortable with. When I succeed at something I wasn't sure I wanted to do or agreed to try something new, the knowledge that I would earn his praise pulls me through the elements of humiliation and then ties them together in ways he can use to twist me up further in the future.

 

[tommyt125]

"Good girl" is probably my favorite praise, but anything he says that praises me for pleasing him, being an obedient sub will make me gooey.

I agree that being praised for being particularly depraved, succeeding at a new thing for him, especially if it feels challenging or has a humiliation element to it combines praise and humiliation kinks in a devious way.

My need for praise makes me increasingly susceptible to complying with his wants/asks/orders even when, or maybe especially when what he wants is pushing me to new things that feel scary or just more than I'm comfortable with. When I succeed at something I wasn't sure I wanted to do or agreed to try something new, the knowledge that I would earn his praise pulls me through the elements of humiliation and then ties them together in ways he can use to twist me up further in the future.

Well said!

 

[BiBunny]

"Good girl" is probably my favorite praise, but anything he says that praises me for pleasing him, being an obedient sub will make me gooey.

That. ^^^^

I am also quite attached to hearing "good kitten," too.

I admit that I sometimes text Daddy, asking, "Can I be your good kitty?" just to hear him say, "You are."

 

[Greedy_lion]

That. ^^^^

I am also quite attached to hearing "good kitten," too.

I admit that I sometimes text Daddy, asking, "Can I be your good kitty?" just to hear him say, "You are."

It’s nice when she’s knows she’s my pet.

 

[kneelingagain]

i think they're compatible at least they are for me. enjoying the praise but also deeply feeling the shame when i'm told off, or i disappoint.

 

[NancyPan]

I would not call it a “kink,” for me, because I really don’t get aroused by it, like I do by many things. But, I will say there is a distinct difference for me in how it feels to be praised by my Wife in our FLR. For example, if She says, after I worship Her pussy and provide Her with Her orgasm, “You are such a good lover,” I feel self-conscious, inadequate, and foolish. Instead, when She says (which She more often does) something like, “You are such a good pussy boy,” or “You are so lucky I let you do that,” I feel fulfilled and proud.

I know a “good lover” would not only be able to give good head, but be able to give a good fuck with an at least average-sized cock that did not have q quick trigger. The “praise” must feel accurate.

 

[cascadiabound]

I would not call it a “kink,” for me, because I really don’t get aroused by it, like I do by many things.

The “praise” must feel accurate.

This ^^^^

If the praise is empty, hollow or does not pertain in some way it is almost worse than no praise at all - because it is an indication that the D has not actually been paying attention to who you are. Which can feel devastating.

 

[twister947]

This Thread title calls to mind a certain politician.

 

[Primalex]

And is a praise kink necessarily at odds with a humiliation kink? I don't see how they could go together, but I suppose it's possible?

I'm so confused. I mix this all the time or didn't I get the topic?


You are such a good little slut.
You make me so proud, being my eager naughty fuckdoll.
Oh, look how your brilliant brain melts with my cock in your mouth.
You’re so gorgeous, no wonder you're such a shameless slut who loves being looked at.
I love how you dress, just so everyone can see you're nothing but my whore.
Every time you gag on me, I can't help but love how greedy you are, my little cocksucker.