Potential Female Stalker on my hands

[Samuelx]

Hey, there. I have a bit of a situation. There's this chick named Enid at my college. I think she might be following me around. She's black, and went to the same high school I went to. She's always trying to strike conversation. I usually say hi, but not much else. I do my own things and I'm not really a group/people person on campus, except for talking to a couple of guys I know. This chick is always trying to strike up conversation. When I'm in the cafeteria, it's like she's always there and asking me for money and stuff. I get on the bus, she has to come sit near me and try to talk. She's always talking incessantly and I find it really annoying.

Unfortunately, she seems to always be around when I'm in the library or the cafeteria. What's up with that ? Just moments ago, as I sat at a computer writing something, she came and sat in the computer opposite me and said, smiling : "Are you following me ?" Needless to say, that really FREAKED me out. I quickly said : "No !" I really don't need a female stalker right now. One of my buddies saw the whole thing and smiled. I don't think it's funny. I've been trying to avoid this chick. Yet almost everywhere I go, there she is. What's up with that ? What should I do ?

 

[A_Kefka]

calling her a stalker if you haven't clearly said that you aren't interested is taking a bit of a leap. Its probably fairly obvious that you are kinda shy. She is probably interested in you and trying to get your attention. But if you really want her to go away make it clear to her. She will most likely back off when you do. If she doesnt' leave you alone after that then maybe you should worry about what to do.

 

[Samuelx]

Okay. Just the same, I'm gonna mention it to my teacher. Did you forget the part where she said : " You following me ?" To which I answered a very quick, very nervous : "No !" She was smiling when she said it but a smile can mean a lot of things. I certainly wish this chick would just ignore me and leave me the hell alone. I am not looking for a girlfriend, a wife or any female companionship of any sort, thank you very much. Chicks making false allegations can ruin men's lives in a whole lot of ways. I've seen it happen too often to take anything lightly, thank you very much. I'm gonna mention it to my teacher, and also talk it over with my friend. I'm gonna let as many people know as possible, just in case I need a witness later. Seriously, man. Why do I always attract weirdoes ?

 

[A_Kefka]

Go ahead and let people know, just in case. But her saying that could have just been her flirting. You need to tell her flat out that you aren't interested and that she is bothering you. You worry about her making false allegations, but how would it be if she is just flirting, doesnt' realize that its bothering you so much, and you make her look like a psycho.

 

[Samuelx]

Go ahead and let people know, just in case. But her saying that could have just been her flirting. You need to tell her flat out that you aren't interested and that she is bothering you. You worry about her making false allegations, but how would it be if she is just flirting, doesnt' realize that its bothering you so much, and you make her look like a psycho.

I'm not good at those things, letting people know things flat out, unless i'm in a moment of great emotional disturbance/distress. I'm gonna talk to my teachers instead. Also, I'm gonna remind my friend of what happened. Preventive measures, you understand. I just have to make sure I'm not alone with the weirdo, at all, until an authority figure knows and can tell
her to back off if it becomes necessary. Confronting her might give her the ammo she needs for a false allegations. some femmes are experts at twisting words. the less contact i have with her, the better. i dont need this kind of sh!t right now. I'm gonna watch my back, I guess.

 

[human_male]

I'm really, REALLY good at getting women to leave me alone. I'm so good at it I do it without even trying. It's second nature, just works automatically. If you like I can tell you my secret but you may find you won't be able to shut it off again and then no woman would pay any attention to you at all for the rest of your life. Are you sure it's what you want?

 

[Eilan]

I'm gonna talk to my teachers instead.

If it's a college, you might have better luck going to Campus Police (or security or whatever your school calls it).

I used to teach at a college and if a student would have approached me about something like this, that's where I would have referred him or her. It's not an issue that I would have considered myself equipped to deal with.