Post Ejaculation Advise/Help Needed

[shanyl]

My husband and I have been married for nearly 9 years. This is my second marriage and I've had other sexual partners. My husband however was a virgin when we married. We're now both in our mid-thirties.

Here is the "problem". After my husband ejaculates, he falls to sleep within 20-60 SECONDS! It varies from a dozzing off to a deep sleep where he's hard to awaken. He says he's ultra relaxed (feels completely drained) and can't help it. It's not like he rolls over and goes to sleep, he falls asleep while he's still inside me.

This doesn't happen with self or mutual masturbation. This has been going on from the very beginning and while it doesn't happen every time, it's more often then not (like 3 out of 4 times). Does anyone have any ideas?

 

[Jedi_Outcast]

tell him, then start having sex standing up, in the shower, anywhere but lying down in bed. kinda hard to fall asleep that way

It may be a "pavlov reaction". For a while I'd pop a videotape in the vcr and go to sleep to the same tape of MST3k (my only one at the time). I found when I heard the theme song during the day, I got really, really tired. Same theory, He associates intercourse with sleep.

Try to break that association. Have him hold off until you are finished, then finish him off by hand. maybe the sleep reaction won't kick in.

 

[shanyl]

Same theory, He associates intercourse with sleep.

Thanks Jedi. We've tried standing up and that does work... but it's not quite as fun as what you can do horizontally. But.... better than sleeping right?

I think you have a really good point that he associates intercourse with sleep - maybe I need to look at timing (the hour).

Thanks!