post-birth BDSM timing

[FloggingMolly]

I hope I can pick some brains here.

Baby is due in 2-3wks, and we're hoping for a standard delivery and then to breastfeed.

Any ideas how long after the birth we can resume breath play, choking and spanking? We've not done any of these since finding out I was pregnant.

thank you

 

[intothewoods]

I hope I can pick some brains here.

Baby is due in 2-3wks, and we're hoping for a standard delivery and then to breastfeed.

Any ideas how long after the birth we can resume breath play, choking and spanking? We've not done any of these since finding out I was pregnant.

thank you

Well, to start with, since we're not talking about intercourse, the main hindrances will be that you'll be tired and you'll be busy with a baby. It just depends on how your recovery goes. Eat well, rest, and take it easy -- that might speed things along.

There's also the issue of where your sexual interest will be after giving birth, but I don't know if that's a requirement for you to be spanked.

 

[HottieMama]

After I gave birth to my youngest, I got back into things ASAP. I honestly think I waited about two to three weeks...

 

[Loverskitten]

While I wasn't into BDSM at the time, it's standard to wait at least 2 weeks for stitches to heal, and careful with those boobies for a while.

 

[His_pet_slut]

The main thing to remember with the breast feeding is you will be susceptible to mastitis if you do much breast play. Anything that could potentially cause soft tissue swelling could block off a milk duct and set the perfect environment for an infection to occur. Believe me, mastitis is no fun.

 

[FloggingMolly]

we never did much breast play anyhow

So all the bdsm options will def be available at the point in which we feel ready for intercourse again?

 

[knot_sweet]

I know with me, my bruising and pain tolerances reduced significantly.
I also tended to drop alot more suddenly and worse.
All those extra hormones running around can do strange and unexpected things to the mind and body.
Go gently for a while until you figure out what, if any, changes have happened.

 

[His_pet_slut]

I know with me, my bruising and pain tolerances reduced significantly.
I also tended to drop alot more suddenly and worse.
All those extra hormones running around can do strange and unexpected things to the mind and body.
Go gently for a while until you figure out what, if any, changes have happened.

Yeah, hadn't really thought about it, but the hormone fluxes could create a lot of variables you didn't encounter pre-pregnancy. It will take them anywhere from 6 to 20 weeks to return to a more stable level.

 

[IrisAlthea]

we never did much breast play anyhow

So all the bdsm options will def be available at the point in which we feel ready for intercourse again?

Be careful with bondage so you don't overstretch any ligaments or tendons.
It takes time for the body to get back to what you were used to before pregnancy, so one more vote for going gently at first and listening to your body.

 

[Bellatrixie]

Be careful with bondage so you don't overstretch any ligaments or tendons.
It takes time for the body to get back to what you were used to before pregnancy, so one more vote for going gently at first and listening to your body.

Absolutely and remember also that when you are breastfeeding it can tank your sexual interest for awhile (plus I remember feeling seriously touched out after birth because those first 6-10 weeks can feel like one long nursing session that never ends...and the hormones that help with lactation also seriously reduce vaginal secretions for the first bit so you will likely need lube even for vaginal sex.

I have nursed for most of the last ten years (had a six month break during my second pregnancy but that is it) and I frequently was nursing a baby and a toddler so you may not have the extreme "don't fucking touch me response" that I had after the births lol. Not that we didn't have sex but I didn't really enjoy it for several months and several times I had a kind of itchy crawly get the fuck off of me response that I had to get through.

Not trying to freak you out...just if you occasionally have those feelings know that it is hormonal and temporary. Good luck! Nursing a newborn is exhausting but I love nursing my kids (obviously hehehe).

 

[PermanentMarks]

Most of the physical 'STUFF' we do. . .

is really just an aid to help with the headspace anyway! Once you are in the desired state, how much physical is required? Maybe you could explore some non physical ways to get where you want to go.

 

[cfuhrer]

I must be an odd duck.

We totally stopped breast play at two weeks pre-birth.

We reduced bondage at about the six month mark to light ties in comfortable positions.

But we kept doing everything including spanking and even some fisting right up to the week I gave birth.

Then we were back to light bondage and everything except breast and vaginal play and intercourse after about a week. We breast fed too, but only for about six months.

Vaginal intercourse was back right at the two week mark and we worked our way back up to fisting and that took probably a month. At a certain point I was going batty because my body was missing the stimulation and needed play time.

I, And I believe he too, never really felt like we sacrificed any of our kink, and we probably should have because I was a high risk pregnancy to boot.

As others have said, pay attention to your body it will tell you when the right time is to add back certain activities. And if you get into anything and it doesn't feel right, back out and wait a little while longer. I'm a firm believer that your body will not lead you into something it cannot handle.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Due to previous losses and other high risk factors, when I first looked online it said to avoid anything that could jar the body, in particular impact play on the buttocks. All we've managed is face slapping.