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[Trekka]

Do you appreciate different/interesting/surprising sexual perspectives? I do!

What bits of sexy wisdom, or surprisingly titillating intel, have you learned from different people, cultures, places, experiences...? Let's discuss!


For example...

I had lunch with a couple women in their mid eighties this weekend. Yup. I live on the edge.

One of them told me about how she used to work as a secretary at a private aerospace firm in the 50s.

Apparently, she was like a lady-fox in a rooster house. Her eyes kinda rolled back in her head and she laughed as she recalled her lovers -- The Hungarian, The Machinist, Mr. Spigots, her list went on and on... They had funny nicknames and everything!

Never have I ever been in a conversation with a woman in her eighties, in public no less, who tips her head back and belly laughs, and loudly remarks, "THREE MEN AT ONCE IS JUST TOO MANY!"

^words of wisdom from one of my favorite octogenarians


Post an interesting, funny, surprising, touching, or otherwise noteworthy sexual perspective below...

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Well, I am at the point where I am handing out wisdom telling young dude’s to make sure their pull out game is on point especially when they’re cross faded.

 

[Trekka]

Well, I am at the point where I am handing out wisdom telling young dude’s to make sure their pull out game is on point especially when they’re cross faded.

Thank fuck for urban dictionary.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Thank fuck for urban dictionary.

I read that as cross threaded and was thinking that is going to be difficult to unscrew!

 

[Trekka]

I read that as cross threaded and was thinking that is going to be difficult to unscrew!

I think that’s exactly the point.

I had Rocket Rod Todd…

And what did we learn from Rocket Rod Todd?

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Thank fuck for urban dictionary.

Listen to more dirtbag hip-hop or just frequent some titty bars.

 

[Trekka]

Interesting Perspective -

My mom always told me, “Brains don’t keep you warm at night.”

(But over the years, I’ve found her to be dead right on this one! Just, in my experience.)

 

[StacyLeigh]

Interesting Perspective -

My mom always told me, “Brains don’t keep you warm at night.”

(But over the years, I’ve found her to be dead right on this one! Just, in my experience.)

Well.... https://share.upmc.com/2013/12/your-brain-and-cold-weather/

 

[StacyLeigh]

I read something not long ago that I found interesting:

Perspective #1: Sex is a diet.
People who see sex as a diet refrain from it, because if something that tastes or feels so good must be bad for you. (<-- That's just sad...)

Perspective #2: Sex is fast food.
People who see sex as fast food indulge in it as much as possible because their mindset holds that because sex feels good it must be good for you. But they soon discover that this is instant satisfaction and not long term gratification. (<-- I could go for a Whataburger...)

Perspective 3: Sex is a banquet.
People see the pleasure of sex as pointing toward something more. Like waiting at a banquet for the main course, gratification is not in the sex but the longing and desire for sexual intercourse as a preview of what's to come. (<-- It's sweet, but I wonder if this level of seriousness leads to more angst than enjoyment...)

 

[Beholders_Eye]

Pornography is hamburger.
Erotica is Prime Rib.

 

[Trekka]

Well.... https://share.upmc.com/2013/12/your-brain-and-cold-weather/

Lol... touche...

I read something not long ago that I found interesting:

Perspective #1: Sex is a diet.
People who see sex as a diet refrain from it, because if something that tastes or feels so good must be bad for you. (<-- That's just sad...)

Perspective #2: Sex is fast food.
People who see sex as fast food indulge in it as much as possible because their mindset holds that because sex feels good it must be good for you. But they soon discover that this is instant satisfaction and not long term gratification. (<-- I could go for a Whataburger...)

Perspective 3: Sex is a banquet.
People see the pleasure of sex as pointing toward something more. Like waiting at a banquet for the main course, gratification is not in the sex but the longing and desire for sexual intercourse as a preview of what's to come. (<-- It's sweet, but I wonder if this level of seriousness leads to more angst than enjoyment...)

Oooooh! I like this!

Diet Sex -- agree -- those poor, unfortunate souls.
Fast food sex scratches that itch from time to time tho! Amirite?
And I guess I'm the kind of girl that'll risk some angst for a Sexual Banquet. Yes please.
I'm wondering if the author defined any of these styles as ideal? Is it better to settle for chicken nuggets or hold out for the duck a l'orange?!


Speaking of food analogies -- interestingly enough, my ex hubs and I saw a certified, real-deal, sex therapist for a spell...

One of her perspectives was, "Sex is Like a Buffet!"

Sometimes you just want soup and salad.
Sometimes you want that big ole pile of crab legs.
Sometimes you get stuck at the chocolate fountain with an intense and unwavering craving for s'mores and you keep going back.
Sometimes you skip all the veggies and go straight for the Szechuan Shrimp.

Her whole point was, you can try a little of this, a little of that, and give your partner some latitude to try a taste of this and a spoonful of that. Maybe try new items together. They're into sushi but maybe you're not. Maybe try a bite? Maybe you'll like it? Who knows!

And every couple kinda builds their own sexual buffet together. Adds dishes that each partner likes, alone and together. Adds new flavors from time to time ("Honey, wanna try the Thai curry tonight?"). You don't have to order the same item off the menu every night... You can just wander through the sexual buffet and see what looks good that day.

I always liked this visual!
And, the experience of seeing a sex therapist was cool as shit.

 

[Trekka]

Pornography is hamburger.
Erotica is Prime Rib.

Both can be really good tho

 

[Trekka]

You know the adage "Sex is like pizza. When it's good, it's really good, and vine when it's not so good, it's still pretty good." So, I ask y'all...

Is Sex Like Pizza?

ETA: Cultural Origin of this perspective credited to Erik H. of my senior year of High School.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

You know the adage "Sex is like pizza. When it's good, it's really good, and vine when it's not so good, it's still pretty good." So, I ask y'all...

Is Sex Like Pizza?

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I just had this conversation with someone. They said I was Deep Dish.
Which I *think* was a compliment, but insulted me, because, NY.

I disagree. Bad sex is really bad. Bad pizza is still okay.

Deep dish is a tasty casserole, but it's not pizza.
But that's a different conversation.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I read something not long ago that I found interesting:

Perspective #1: Sex is a diet.
People who see sex as a diet refrain from it, because if something that tastes or feels so good must be bad for you. (<-- That's just sad...)

Perspective #2: Sex is fast food.
People who see sex as fast food indulge in it as much as possible because their mindset holds that because sex feels good it must be good for you. But they soon discover that this is instant satisfaction and not long term gratification. (<-- I could go for a Whataburger...)

Perspective 3: Sex is a banquet.
People see the pleasure of sex as pointing toward something more. Like waiting at a banquet for the main course, gratification is not in the sex but the longing and desire for sexual intercourse as a preview of what's to come. (<-- It's sweet, but I wonder if this level of seriousness leads to more angst than enjoyment...)

Fuck yeah for recognizing the banquet from the fast food level up

 

[aussiegeekygal]

And, the experience of seeing a sex therapist was cool as shit.

That's where I'm at in life and it's the best fucking thing ever! Sex therapy is dope.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Honestly, knowing the concept of sexual breaks and accelerators has helped me understand so much about my sexuality. Paired with the knowledge of spontaneous and responsive desire is powerful stuff.

I'll come back and link info.

 

[Trekka]

I just had this conversation with someone. They said I was Deep Dish.
Which I *think* was a compliment, but insulted me, because, NY.

I disagree. Bad sex is really bad. Bad pizza is still okay.

How to suck cock with gusto!

There's a lot to unpack here.

 

[Trekka]

That's where I'm at in life and it's the best fucking thing ever! Sex therapy is dope.

I learned things from the sex therapist that I DIDN'T EVEN REALIZE I HAD LEARNED until years later.

Like you don't always have to cum. You can just fool around with no real end in sight.
Just kinda... meander...
Who knew?!
She knew.

Honestly, knowing the concept of sexual breaks and accelerators has helped me understand so much about my sexuality. Paired with the knowledge of spontaneous and responsive desire is powerful stuff.

I'll come back and link info.

100%
I've had to go on some bizarro meds over the last year and had to tell The Viking "Hey babe, it's not that I don't want to. I just might need you to get the ball rolling a little more than usual." And I know if I go with the flow, things eventually get good n hot.

It's like cooking over an oak fire versus a gas stove.

(And links! Yeah! Yay!)

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Here's hoping I figured out how to link to posts

Sex Ed Lesson One

Sex Ed Lesson Two

 

[alwaysaway]

You know the adage "Sex is like pizza. When it's good, it's really good, and vine when it's not so good, it's still pretty good." So, I ask y'all...

Is Sex Like Pizza?

ETA: Cultural Origin of this perspective credited to Erik H. of my senior year of High School.

Yes. Pineapple makes it taste better.

Edited because I quoted the wrong post.

 

[Apisto42]

Yes. Pineapple makes it taste better.

Edited because I quoted the wrong post.

And you might want to cut out the coffee. I know, it’s a big ask. Jus’ sayn’

 

[alwaysaway]

And you might want to cut out the coffee. I know, it’s a big ask. Jus’ sayn’

Is this directed at men or women… or both? Super intrigued at this new development!

 

[Nevyn_Black]

If you people have so much sex that you need to take breaks to recharge and refresh, I must be like a guy stuck in solitary on a bread and water diet for the last fucking decade. Somebody BRING ME A GODDAMNED TACO!!!!