Positions for BBW & BHM

[phoenix1224]

I did. Her very first problem listed was "size." Hhhmmmm... why would she list that as the very first problem... ???

Because perhaps SHE thinks that it's the main factor.

Being inexperienced, she doesn't realize that overweight people have been having sex for millenia without any problems and that it's her INEXPERIENCE that's the main cause.

I mean, who here DIDN'T find positioning a bit awkward when they first started having sex?

 

[phoenix1224]

I give up.

Hey... You're talking to a guy that once said that he would NEVER take a simple "no" from his woman conserning sex without the expectation of her giving him a complete reason as to why NOT.

 

[Kassandra13]

Hey... You're talking to a guy that once said that he would NEVER take a simple "no" from his woman conserning sex without the expectation of her giving him a complete reason as to why NOT.

What? H&H said that?? No wonder I have a headache, sitting here trying to debate with someone like that.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Y'know, ladies and gentlemen, if you want PC then this whole site needs to be overhauled, especially the GB. If you want honesty, then what possible harm or exception from that did I generate?

She asked for advice on how to make her sex life better. She didn't ask for one particular type of advice, she couragiously put herself and her situation out here for the world to see and she made no bones about wanting only a particular kind of solution.

Again, for the record, I've worked in public relations of one kind or another for just over twenty years now. I'm exceptionally good at it. This was not a PR situation. This was someone looking for unabashed points of view from possibly countless anonymous contributors.

I contributed and the bunch of you jumped my shit for caring enough to want her to have better than what you guys were suggesting.

Whether she comes back or not, she should have better than just settling for what little her current situation dictates. Everyone should. That's all there is to it. Feel free to prove me wrong with any example except Pres. Bush. And I'll probably get slammed for that point of view as well.

 

[SweetErika]

Wholly Crap! This gal has written in here asking for at least one good sexual position that she and her lover can use effectively and all of you aren't seeing a greater problem here?!?!

How many people in this thread would settle for just one sexual position that you had to struggle to enjoy and be stuck with that for your whole life???

This gal and her lover could be enjoying a whole menu of sexual positions and you guys want them to just be happy with a very select few, if that many???

That's caring. Good way to reach out.

We all see that losing weight might be helpful, but she didn't ask about that. We don't tell pregnant women who are asking about positions all about birth control, do we? No, we give them helpful suggestions on things that might help them work around the big belly, tender breasts, and overall discomfort.

Most of us may want to use more than one position, but that's also irrelevant... the point is to give ideas on positions that might work for Tia and her partner. Chances are, several will work for them, but if they're happy with just one, that's great. If your ulterior motive is to get them to lose weight, give them some useful suggestions on sexual positions...after all, sex is great exercise. I'm happy if they get information that will help with the problem. I am not happy if they walk away from this board due to the horrible comments and unsolicited advice that won't immediately help the problem.

Tia, if you happen to still be reading, I'd like to apologize for the few bad apples who have responded to this thread. This community typically gives nothing but great advice and support, but I'm ashamed to be a part of it right now.

 

[phoenix1224]

Y'know, ladies and gentlemen, if you want PC then this whole site needs to be overhauled, especially the GB. If you want honesty, then what possible harm or exception from that did I generate?

This is not the GB.

The reason the HT Cafe was started was to get away from all the "judgement" of the GB.

The HT Forums are not a place for judgement... It's a place for someone to ask a simple question and receive a simple answer in reply to that SPECIFIC question.

She never asked how she could LOOSE WEIGHT. So, you didn't have the right to tell her HOW TO loose weight (which comes off as being judgemental).

You were off topic. And, coming from someone who was once accused of doing such, believe me when I say that that is NOT something that you want to do on the HT Forums.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

We all see that losing weight might be helpful, but she didn't ask about that. We don't tell pregnant women who are asking about positions all about birth control, do we? No, we give them helpful suggestions on things that might help them work around the big belly, tender breasts, and overall discomfort.

Most of us may want to use more than one position, but that's also irrelevant... the point is to give ideas on positions that might work for Tia and her partner. Chances are, several will work for them, but if they're happy with just one, that's great. If your ulterior motive is to get them to lose weight, give them some useful suggestions on sexual positions...after all, sex is great exercise. I'm happy if they get information that will help with the problem. I am not happy if they walk away from this board due to the horrible comments and unsolicited advice that won't immediately help the problem.

Tia, if you happen to still be reading, I'd like to apologize for the few bad apples who have responded to this thread. This community typically gives nothing but great advice and support, but I'm ashamed to be a part of it right now.

Oh knock it off. Pregnancy and obesity are so totally unrelated that you're doing little more than mixing watermelons and lemmons.

I am not happy if they walk away from this board due to the horrible comments and unsolicited advice that won't immediately help the problem.

I'm not happy if they walk away from here with horrible advice either. But part of what you're suggesting is little more than immediate gratification, and immediate gratification is never as good as something that was worked for and earned. There's more fulfillment to sex, and life in general, than what someone can have without any real effort. Prove me wrong, please.

If they just want immediate gratification, fine; lay on the edge of the bed with pillows under your bum while he stands between your legs and goes at it.

If you want long term gratification that you'll stand a much better chance of not getting board with, then see my original post in this thread.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

This is not the GB.

The reason the HT Cafe was started was to get away from all the "judgement" of the GB.

The HT Forums are not a place for judgement... It's a place for someone to ask a simple question and receive a simple answer in reply to that SPECIFIC question.

She never asked how she could LOOSE WEIGHT. So, you didn't have the right to tell her HOW TO loose weight (which comes off as being judgemental).

You were off topic. And, coming from someone who was once accused of doing such, believe me when I say that that is NOT something that you want to do on the HT Forums.

You're either jacking my words again or reading something that I didn't write. I never once judged, unless you want to consider me calling her couragious as judging.

I replied on subject. She wasn't asking for weightloss advice, she was asking how to make sex better. Will losing weight make sex better?

 

[phoenix1224]

I replied on subject. She wasn't asking for weightloss advice, she was asking how to make sex better. Will losing weight make sex better?

Actually, she WASN'T asking how to make sex better. She was asking about suggestions on POSITIONS... Just read the thread title...

And, although loosing weight probably WOULD make sex better/easier for her, that's NOT the advice that she asked for.

For future reference: When you give unsolicited advice (like how to loose weight), it DOES come off as being judgemental... Even IF that wasn't your intent.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Actually, she WASN'T asking how to make sex better. She was asking about suggestions on POSITIONS... Just read the thread title...

And, although loosing weight probably WOULD make sex better/easier for her, that's NOT the advice that she asked for.

For future reference: When you give unsolicited advice (like how to loose weight), it DOES come off as being judgemental... Even IF that wasn't your intent.

There wasn't anything to judge. She already put the problem right out there to be seen. If anyone took that as judgment from me then they didn't actually read what was written and stick to what was said. Instead they read it, and then let their minds pervert it into something that it wasn't.

How is looking for a position that they can have sex in not looking to make sex better???

Better yet, why is it that I would like to see that this couple is able to experience a broad spectrum of sexual experience and pleasure and somehow I'm a bad guy for wanting to see that happen???

You folks may want this forum to be helpful, but it's a shame that you only want it to be slightly helpful.

 

[LadyG]

There wasn't anything to judge. She already put the problem right out there to be seen. If anyone took that as judgment from me then they didn't actually read what was written and stick to what was said. Instead they read it, and then let their minds pervert it into something that it wasn't.

How is looking for a position that they can have sex in not looking to make sex better???

Better yet, why is it that I would like to see that this couple is able to experience a broad spectrum of sexual experience and pleasure and somehow I'm a bad guy for wanting to see that happen???

You folks may want this forum to be helpful, but it's a shame that you only want it to be slightly helpful.

Okay, quit playing like you said it because you actually care whether or not "this couple is able to experience a broad spectrum of sexual experience and pleasure ".

It wasn't asked for, it specifically asked for postions. End of discussion.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Okay, quit playing like you said it because you actually care whether or not "this couple is able to experience a broad spectrum of sexual experience and pleasure ".

What? You don't care? Is this just s'posed to be a forum of random wannabe know-it-alls? Or is it s'posed to be forum where people who care enough to do so can interject their thoughts on the given subjects?

I have no good reason to end a discussion just because you say so.

The bunch of you need to find someone far more deserving of being ostrecized than I am.

 

[LadyG]

No one's ostracizing you.

And no, not because I said so, but because it's done..finished. No one is going to agree with you, let it go.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

No one's ostracizing you.

And no, not because I said so, but because it's done..finished. No one is going to agree with you, let it go.

Yeah. Sure. Fine. Have it your way.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I am a BBW who is madly in love and lust with a BHM but we have as yet been unable have successfull penetration due to our size. Is there a position or two that might help us? Me on top won't work because of I have arthritis in both knees which makes "bouncing" impossible.

Here's my suggestion to you. Try having you on top, but still having him do the work. Then you wont have to deal wtih the bouncing situation or the arthritis in your knees so much and he should be totally capable of still doing the work while he's on the bottom. The only thing with doing it this way is that you cant be pressed down all the way on him, you have to be a little bit above him so that his pelvis has room to move.

Other than that, the other suggestions that I have are all dependent on how flexible you are and how high you can lift one of your legs and hold it there for long enough periods of time.

And if you would feel more comfortable since your thread has been hijacked by someone that cant quite see what the question that has been asked, feel free to PM me and I'll happily try to help you there instead of out here.

 

[5pintshefound]

Hi Tia

Hey Tia.. I hope your still hiding out there in cyber space somewhere.. First off.. dont let ignorant people get you down... im a fellow BBW and i know that when my husband and i got together, it wsa really akward for a while.. for the plain reason that i didnt know what i was doing... ok.. heres a little idea.. u said you have arthritis in yourknees, so thats out.. it would take a little planning, but try taking a HOT HOT HOT shower and then rubbing some {make sure its extra strenght} muscle rub alll over your knees... i use tiger liniment for mine... for me it works the best, but its a little hard to find--have to google it to find it.... that might help you feel more inclined to try different positions...ok depending on the height of yourbed, you might try you on your back, and him standing up it would be zero strain on your knees, but, if its not the right height, you might have to add some pillows {couch cushions work too-- theyre alittle more stable and add height quiker than pillows}--that position would be nice for you tho, cause you could see his face.. altho, sometimes men give off the UGLIEST faces during sex!!!! LOL{sorry L5P if your reading this }...

H-n-H you should be ashamed of yourself... telling somebody to lose weight first.. wow.. thats rough... plus,, think about it. if somebody told you, you cant have sex till {fill in the blank} i can guarantee, it would either piss them off, or it would turn them even MORE upset and depressed.. and making somebody depressed in hopes that they lose weight doesnt help. im a prime example of that. and the idea that it all comes down to a controllable weight/diet issue. nope sure doesnt. Its easy to say oh, athey just need to excersize more, or cut carbs or whatever the fad diet of theday is, but! when you get up inthe morning, and you realize just what a pain in the ass it is, its really way to easy to say, yeh, ill start that tomorrow.. and tomorrow turns into next week, into next month, and all of a sudden its 6 mnothes, and nothings happened. Plus, the fact that Tia came here, shows that shes fairly intelligent - so shes smart enough to understand the risks etc with being overweight, and she hasnt changed it, THEN ITS HER BUSINESS.

PLUS!!! it seems to me that if she would have written, my so and i cant have sex due to penetration problems, wouldnt everyone want toknow why!?! it seems to me that she mentioned the fact that they are both on the larger side, as background information, not as something that she wanted to fix.

ok, thats my rant for now.... i dont know who said it but kuddos... this IS the how to board.. whats it say ?" if you want to know, ask here, if you already know how - post here" and thats exactly what Tia did, she asked how her and her so could get it on. GOOD FOR HER TO HAVE THE BALLS TO SAY IT!

 

[red_jane_doe]

I am a big girl myself but I don't have arthritis in my knees so I can't say whether this makes a difference or not but as far as you being on top....when I am on top, there is really no bouncing going on because of the size of my thighs and calves. When I'm on top, I'm about as high and low as I'm going to be all at the same time. So, I lean forward so I'm on my hands and knees and it's more or a rocking motion. Like I said, I don't have arthritis but maybe some of the weight being on your arms may help. I also like a lot of breast play so that's a great postion to have them swinging in his face while I'm rocking back and forth on him.

 

[5pintshefound]

I am a big girl myself but I don't have arthritis in my knees so I can't say whether this makes a difference or not but as far as you being on top....when I am on top, there is really no bouncing going on because of the size of my thighs and calves. When I'm on top, I'm about as high and low as I'm going to be all at the same time. So, I lean forward so I'm on my hands and knees and it's more or a rocking motion. Like I said, I don't have arthritis but maybe some of the weight being on your arms may help. I also like a lot of breast play so that's a great postion to have them swinging in his face while I'm rocking back and forth on him.

wow... ok, so ive pretty much forgotten what its like to be on top at this point. thats more to the point of how things are done with us too... i guess thats what happens with a 6 month stint of celibacy!??! c'mon may 22...lol... hubbys coming home {hopefully} for 10 days then! YAY! lol

~5PHF

 

[TexasJennie]

I have some ideas...that feel great for lovers of all sizes.

One...both on your backs diagonally on the bed, with your heads in opposite corners. Each lover will have one leg above the other's and one leg below. One partner or both could have their feet on the bed and knees up. This position gives you very deep penetration and feels wonderful!!

Second position...facing in the same direction and on your sides. Sex from behind while "spooning" is great and should be easy on your knees.

Good luck!!

 

[Kassandra13]

One...both on your backs diagonally on the bed, with your heads in opposite corners. Each lover will have one leg above the other's and one leg below. One partner or both could have their feet on the bed and knees up. This position gives you very deep penetration and feels wonderful!!

Oooh - I want to try this!