Positions for BBW & BHM

[Halo_n_horns]

Oh for fuck's sake - if she wanted weight loss advice, she would have asked for it! If you have an answer to her question, share - and if not, then don't. I don't understand what is so complicated about that.

Anytime you can't get good sex, or even mediocre sex due to something as controllable as body mass, you're not asking for weightloss advice, you're begging for it!

 

[silverwhisper]

H&H: what kassandra said. didn't ES already go off on this, evidently multiple times?

ed

 

[Halo_n_horns]

H&H: what kassandra said. didn't ES already go off on this, evidently multiple times?

ed

ES only had ejaculatory commentary. If everyone here just wants to cater to wee_tia's unhealthy situation then knock yourselves out. I don't see any good reason to do that, while I am seeing a whole Kama Sutra full of reasons to try to steer her in another direction.

Feel free to say that mentality is wrong, but it's not.

 

[phoenix1224]

Anytime you can't get good sex, or even mediocre sex due to something as controllable as body mass, you're not asking for weightloss advice, you're begging for it!

Only thin people believe that "body mass" is all that controllable.

How do you know that she doesn't have a glandular problem that makes it completely out of her control?

How do you know that she doesn't have some other medical condition that makes it completely out of her control?

I'm so sick and tired of this stereotype that all overweight people are lazy and do nothing but gorge themselves on junk food all day long...

Some of the most active and healthy-eating people that I know are overweight.

 

[SweetErika]

Oh for fuck's sake - if she wanted weight loss advice, she would have asked for it! If you have an answer to her question, share - and if not, then don't. I don't understand what is so complicated about that.

Amen.

 

[Kassandra13]

Feel free to say that mentality is wrong, but it's not.

Yes, it is. She did not offer the subject of her weight up for debate. She is obviously aware of her own weight, and as an adult if she chooses to pursue weight loss, that is her decision. And if she chooses to not do so, that is her decision, and hers alone. She asked a specific question, and she was looking for a specific answer. Not to be judged and ridiculed.

Now honestly, if you don't have any sound advice, will you just leave this topic alone?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Only thin people believe that "body mass" is all that controllable.

How do you know that she doesn't have a glandular problem that makes it completely out of her control?

How do you know that she doesn't have some other medical condition that makes it completely out of her control?

I'm so sick and tired of this stereotype that all overweight people are lazy and do nothing but gorge themselves on junk food all day long...

Some of the most active and healthy-eating people that I know are overweight.

Aside from paralysis or severe mental retardation I have yet to have ever heard of a medical situatuation that was causing weightgain that wasn't correctable through diet and exercise and/or medication and/or surgery. Therefore, it's all correctable, and controllable.

And for the record, I am definitely not thin! I am also not one to cater to something that's bad for me rather than control it.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Yes, it is. She did not offer the subject of her weight up for debate. She is obviously aware of her own weight, and as an adult if she chooses to pursue weight loss, that is her decision. And if she chooses to not do so, that is her decision, and hers alone. She asked a specific question, and she was looking for a specific answer. Not to be judged and ridiculed.

Now honestly, if you don't have any sound advice, will you just leave this topic alone?

Wholly Crap! This gal has written in here asking for at least one good sexual position that she and her lover can use effectively and all of you aren't seeing a greater problem here?!?!

How many people in this thread would settle for just one sexual position that you had to struggle to enjoy and be stuck with that for your whole life???

This gal and her lover could be enjoying a whole menu of sexual positions and you guys want them to just be happy with a very select few, if that many???

That's caring. Good way to reach out.

 

[phoenix1224]

Aside from paralysis or severe mental retardation I have yet to have ever heard of a medical situatuation that was causing weightgain that wasn't correctable through diet and exercise and/or medication and/or surgery. Therefore, it's all correctable, and controllable.

And just WHERE did you get you medical degree?

 

[dolf]

plus swimming would be better than killing her knees on a mill.

i hope they find a way round this

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Tia, you have my best and most sincere wishes.

Take care.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

And just WHERE did you get you medical degree?

Where did I mention anything about having any kind of doctorate??? Don't go jacking my words around to try and benefit your point of view.

I said that the advice I was, am, giving came from the way that I'm living. If that works for them, cool. If it doesn't work for them then there has to be another way.

 

[Kassandra13]

Wholly Crap! This gal has written in here asking for at least one good sexual position that she and her lover can use effectively and all of you aren't seeing a greater problem here?!?!

How many people in this thread would settle for just one sexual position that you had to struggle to enjoy and be stuck with that for your whole life???

This gal and her lover could be enjoying a whole menu of sexual positions and you guys want them to just be happy with a very select few, if that many???

That's caring. Good way to reach out.

With your first post, I thought you were caring, but misguided. Now I just think you're a bit insane.

Read the post again - the problem is not only due to size, but inexperience. She is desperate for ideas, because she and her lover are having trouble finding a good one to use. She is seeking advice from those more experienced than she is. That's all. Why must you keep lecturing?

I can't understand what makes you think she's going to read your post, smack her forehead and think "lose weight! Why didn't I think of that!" It's not that easy, and she may medical reasons for her weight (whether or not you've heard of them, they do exist). Or she may not *want* to lose weight. As I've said, it's up to her.

You've stated your opinion. If you don't have anything constructive to add, then leave this poor woman alone, won't you?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

plus swimming would be better than killing her knees on a mill.

i hope they find a way round this

Good call!

 

[silverwhisper]

i somehow don't think wee tia's gonna be back, given the kinds of comments ES tends to make (i didn't see 'em). considering it was her first goddamned post and evidently still is, that's a damned shame.

so that's the way newbies get treated around here, huh?

ed

 

[Halo_n_horns]

With your first post, I thought you were caring, but misguided. Now I just think you're a bit insane.

Read the post again - the problem is not only due to size, but inexperience. She is desperate for ideas, because she and her lover are having trouble finding a good one to use. She is seeking advice from those more experienced than she is. That's all. Why must you keep lecturing?

I can't understand what makes you think she's going to read your post, smack her forehead and think "lose weight! Why didn't I think of that!" It's not that easy, and she may medical reasons for her weight (whether or not you've heard of them, they do exist). Or she may not *want* to lose weight. As I've said, it's up to her.

You've stated your opinion. If you don't have anything constructive to add, then leave this poor woman alone, won't you?

Her exact words were:

...but we have as yet been unable have successfull penetration due to our size.

How exactly does that equate into "inexperience?"

What are those medical reasons? If you know what they're called I'll be more than happy to read up on them and admit my wrongness. But at the same time I'll also want to know if Tia suffers from any of the ailments that you find.

Otherwise, this woman and her lover could be experiencing a much greater quality of sex and life. How about if everyone cares enough to encourage that instead of the mediocrity that you've suggested so far???

 

[LadyG]

i somehow don't think wee tia's gonna be back, given the kinds of comments ES tends to make (i didn't see 'em). considering it was her first goddamned post and evidently still is, that's a damned shame.

so that's the way newbies get treated around here, huh?

ed

Only by the ignorant such as E_S and H&H.

 

[Kassandra13]

My god, it's like talking to a wall.

How exactly does that equate into "inexperience?"

It's in the next paragraph. Read the whole post.

But at the same time I'll also want to know if Tia suffers from any of the ailments that you find.

How on *earth* is that any of your business??

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Only by the ignorant such as E_S and H&H.

And your advice would be?

 

[LadyG]

And your advice would be?

Well it wouldn't be ridiculing them for having the balls to ask.

 

[silverwhisper]

H&H: you said that you're overweight yourself. are you seriously telling me that if you were a newbie to a forum and asked for information only to have a complete stranger berate you for your weight, that would be all good? really?

i hope you don't work in PR.

ed

 

[Halo_n_horns]

My god, it's like talking to a wall.


It's in the next paragraph. Read the whole post.

I did. Her very first problem listed was "size." Hhhmmmm... why would she list that as the very first problem... ???

How on *earth* is that any of your business??

It's not. The point would be that if she's not suffering from any of the ailments that you find, then it's a diet and exercise problem.

Now, where are those ailments you were mentioning, that you know exist?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

H&H: you said that you're overweight yourself. are you seriously telling me that if you were a newbie to a forum and asked for information only to have a complete stranger berate you for your weight, that would be all good? really?

i hope you don't work in PR.

ed

Some people are thin-skinned, I am not. That woman had the courage to put those details out here for the public to view, so she must also have the courage to see the answers that come back.



Edit: Aside from ES's comentary. That just wasn't right.

 

[silverwhisper]

you know, forget i said anything. we fundamentally disagree on the manner in which one should interact w/ others, apparently.

ed

 

[Kassandra13]

I give up.