"popularity" threads

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[Cheyenne]

Sorry, Indy. It's been a fairly down week for me and I thought I could turn some of the negative energy on the board around by asking for positive things only. I did like the story I tried to summarize at the beginning of the thread. I've always wondered what my list would have been had a teacher thought to do that in one of my classes many years ago. This wasn't a who do you want to fuck list, or who do you want to cyber with. It was just a pay someone a compliment to make their day list. I thought it sounded easy.

p.s.
Hey, Indy. I've never been one of the cool kids in a clique in my life. I highly doubt I'll be starting now at this age.

 

[Whispersecret]

I'm with you, Indy. Your comparison to the group of people in a room was perfect. I made a fuss about this type of thing a long while back, mainly because I was tired of feeling bad about not being included. I found out that I wasn't the only one who was (perhaps irrationally) hurt by exclusion, even if it was inadvertent.

Since then, I've developed the ability to ignore it if I'm not listed. I read the list threads occasionally so that if I am mentioned, I can thank them. But I think they're exclusionary too.

You won't likely get anyone who will agree with you on the clique issue. People get their panties in a bunch if you suggest that there's an in-crowd. Good thing Laurel's out of town, or she'd have to rehash her opinion on that subject. <chuckles> Whether the cliques exist has been debated, however, the list threads contribute to their conception/continuation.

(I also realize that Cheyenne did not mean to alienate people, or have any negative purpose at all. She did it to foster goodwill on the BB. That is something admirable.)

 

[Guest]

Your story

 

[CreamyLady]

It's very hard to remember everyone, because the population grows every day, and people drift in and out. It isn't quite like a classroom, with a fixed population and knowledge of one's fellow students.

I will say that I admire everyone on the board who posts here, rushes in to make someone feel better when they are down, flies to the defense of someone who might be less than popular, and sticks to their convictions in the teeth of raging debate. At one time or another, that has been everyone I've seen, which is the strength of this place.

 

[Vlad]

My compliments on an intelligent, thoughtful, discussion of a very pertinent subject. If I had a list all of you would be at the top!

Vlad

 

[GuyJD]

I am guilty of them myself; postings that contain a list of people. Invariably someone (actually a majority of people)is/are left out. It happened on a post I made and I felt bad that I had left someone out. Cheyenne posted her "like" thread which has the most noblest of intent however I equate it to a large room of people slowly segregating themselves into one small group. As the thread grows longer, one by one, or in groups, people are included while others stay standing against the wall. Now and then those who have the strong personalities invite themselves, the shy retreat. I wont do that anymore and I wont participate in such threads. I find it rude. I think a good name for it would be a click thread. It is a very fast way to segregate yourselves. I don't think it's polite to the numerous people here.

I'm sorry Cheyenne that we differ on this idea. Like I said you had the noblest of intent, but you asked why no-one was posting on the thread. You now know why I am not there. Not because I wasn't on the list, but I was afraid that if I posted I would forget someone and feel bad.

Actually, I named it as it really is months ago. I think it was called, OH YEAH, "ASS KISSING THREADS".

 

[#1derfulGuy]

Yep, that's about what it's called GuyJD.

 

[OUTSIDER]

I've long noticed that some people like the company of other's and tend to ignore anybody who is not part of their little group, they are easy to spot though as they tend to lionise one and other and flaunt little in jokes with one and other thereby letting all know that they talk to each other off the board, you won't change them and I agree that the best you can do is ignore their little games and just get on with your own thing.
I think it's pretty plain that I dislike those who either by design or stupidity cut other's out of the discussion and alienate them.