Pondering Life's Questions
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Bachlum Chaam
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Any great insight I would love to know too 
Native Alien
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Some women try to change men for the same reason that some men couldn't tell the truth if their lives depend on it. It is just the way that they are.
You have a pm by the way.
You have a pm by the way.
warrior queen
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we women don't change!
nor do we want to change our men!
but given the chance to make things better in her life, what woman wouldn't nag the crap outta her no good, lazy, let's have sex in the missionary position forever, what's a clitoris, anal sex? no way guy that made out he was a sex-god prior to the magic words 'i do'????
oh yeah, that's right, i got rid of him!!!!
the new one needs no changing thanx, he's already passed the 'woman test'!!!!!
warrior queen
nor do we want to change our men!
but given the chance to make things better in her life, what woman wouldn't nag the crap outta her no good, lazy, let's have sex in the missionary position forever, what's a clitoris, anal sex? no way guy that made out he was a sex-god prior to the magic words 'i do'????
oh yeah, that's right, i got rid of him!!!!
the new one needs no changing thanx, he's already passed the 'woman test'!!!!!
warrior queen
Change... why?
Everybody changes... it's inevitable.
and let me ask this- If the woman I met and fell in love with doesn't pay me the same level of physical attention that she did when we met, but that I still need... who needs nagging?
Y'know the old saying - "once a king, always a king, once a knight maybe enough but once every couple of months is just a little bit rough"
Everybody changes... it's inevitable.
and let me ask this- If the woman I met and fell in love with doesn't pay me the same level of physical attention that she did when we met, but that I still need... who needs nagging?
Y'know the old saying - "once a king, always a king, once a knight maybe enough but once every couple of months is just a little bit rough"
BigPoppaGube
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Fair enough, but...
...What about the poor guy (a.k.a. me) who marries a nympho who can't possibly get enough cock only to have her turn into the coldest piece of ice (a.k.a. my wife) you'll ever meet?
...What about the poor guy (a.k.a. me) who marries a nympho who can't possibly get enough cock only to have her turn into the coldest piece of ice (a.k.a. my wife) you'll ever meet?
Native Alien
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Gentlemen, I could give you the same old talk about maybe you should put the romance back into her life. But I won't. What I will do is this. I will ask you to take an honest look at your life. If you don't like what you see, then talk with your S/O.
If that doesn't work, if the situation doesn't change. Then you are left with three options. You can stay and adjust, you can stay and cheat, or you can leave.
Yes I know, the leaving part is scarey. Feel free to pm me if you don't understand or have questions.
If that doesn't work, if the situation doesn't change. Then you are left with three options. You can stay and adjust, you can stay and cheat, or you can leave.
Yes I know, the leaving part is scarey. Feel free to pm me if you don't understand or have questions.
BigPoppaGube
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Why do women
Always assume that men just try to fuck their s/o? I have tried every approach I could think from. I have sent the kids away for a weekend, cleaned the house while my s/o was out, cooked a candlelit dinner complete with barry white. I have tried the playful/forceful route. I have tried just saying "That's it, lay down, we're fucking" (j/k) I have sat down and spoken to her about it. She says she doesn't know why she has no sex drive. We have changed Birth control, but she's not willing to speak to her gynecologist about it. Some men do have emotions. you know. We're not all out just to get laid. Some of us actually want to "make love" to our s/o. so *thbbbbt*
Always assume that men just try to fuck their s/o? I have tried every approach I could think from. I have sent the kids away for a weekend, cleaned the house while my s/o was out, cooked a candlelit dinner complete with barry white. I have tried the playful/forceful route. I have tried just saying "That's it, lay down, we're fucking" (j/k) I have sat down and spoken to her about it. She says she doesn't know why she has no sex drive. We have changed Birth control, but she's not willing to speak to her gynecologist about it. Some men do have emotions. you know. We're not all out just to get laid. Some of us actually want to "make love" to our s/o. so *thbbbbt*
sultryslayer
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Well for the most part everyone changes!
Everyone changes over time. It is a natural occurence and I would hope a sign of maturity. The person that doesn't change at all should question "Why?"
Oh if you mean a loss of sex drive I don't know, maybe your partner is bored and needs some spice. And by spice I don't mean extra kink. Buy her a clit stimulator and a Brad Pitt movie...only kidding about the movie but so serious about the clit stimulator. Make it seem like it is her idea though, cause she may get offended.
P.S. Big Poppa if you do have emotion, why do you have that awful signature at the bottom of your posts? That just reeks of "I need to get me some."
Everyone changes over time. It is a natural occurence and I would hope a sign of maturity. The person that doesn't change at all should question "Why?"
Oh if you mean a loss of sex drive I don't know, maybe your partner is bored and needs some spice. And by spice I don't mean extra kink. Buy her a clit stimulator and a Brad Pitt movie...only kidding about the movie but so serious about the clit stimulator. Make it seem like it is her idea though, cause she may get offended.
P.S. Big Poppa if you do have emotion, why do you have that awful signature at the bottom of your posts? That just reeks of "I need to get me some."
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Native Alien
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In my last post, at anytime, did I say that you didn't have emotions, or that you were just out to get laid?
No I think not.
I gave you the three most viable options. If she isn't willing to talk to her gyno about it, then I would say you need to figure out which of those options that you want to use. Chances are if the sex isn't good, neither is the rest of the relationship. So it is up to you what you want to do about it, and following thru with whatever you decide to do.
No I think not.
I gave you the three most viable options. If she isn't willing to talk to her gyno about it, then I would say you need to figure out which of those options that you want to use. Chances are if the sex isn't good, neither is the rest of the relationship. So it is up to you what you want to do about it, and following thru with whatever you decide to do.
Ladies and gentleman, I was simply asking why people get married if they know it will fail. Our society is not conducive to a single mate. Stats show this to be true. But people still take the steps to ruin their lives emotionally and financially. I wanted to see everyone’s mind set and really see how differently we think about marriage. We all have seen how different our views are and maybe…. Just maybe this is an insight to why marriage doesn’t work. Great replies thanks.
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Ghostwolf said:
I was married to a man who I loved with all my heart for over 20 years. He finally wore me out with his constant critiques of everything I did, the last straw was his total lack of interest in sex, which he would not recognize as a problem at all. His answer was for me to either go on Prozac or get hormone replacement therapy. The problem was not that I wasn't getting any, it was my attitude. It was time for me to walk away from that one.
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I have been married twice- I really tried to keep these marraiges in place even down to being abused because I thought it was a devoted wives thing to be patient and giving to the man. Well i figured out that being devoted and being treated as a doormat were two different things.
I think women change because we grow. We find things anew that are improving for us or our personalities and go with it. It satisfies us and it is important for our personal growth. And we discard that which is then useless. It is a vicious cycle... until we find the person that we are satisfied with in ourselves. I am always in a constant state of change...It keeps things fresh and there is no way anyone can say I am boring!
I think that alot of people are under the misguided conception that when you marry someone time stops there and that person will always be that way. It probably seldom does ...reality sets in after awhile and our bodies change also. I go thru that 'not interested' stage (when i am in a relationship )just as soon as I have found reason for distrust. Then I shut it down altogether...no more sex for him. Maybe others are the same and maybe not....
that is what happens to me and my opinion...maybe a year from now i wont feel the same- i might change again by then....
A stagnant sex life will do serious damage to a relationship
I think women change because we grow. We find things anew that are improving for us or our personalities and go with it. It satisfies us and it is important for our personal growth. And we discard that which is then useless. It is a vicious cycle... until we find the person that we are satisfied with in ourselves. I am always in a constant state of change...It keeps things fresh and there is no way anyone can say I am boring!
I think that alot of people are under the misguided conception that when you marry someone time stops there and that person will always be that way. It probably seldom does ...reality sets in after awhile and our bodies change also. I go thru that 'not interested' stage (when i am in a relationship )just as soon as I have found reason for distrust. Then I shut it down altogether...no more sex for him. Maybe others are the same and maybe not....
that is what happens to me and my opinion...maybe a year from now i wont feel the same- i might change again by then....
A stagnant sex life will do serious damage to a relationship
