please, help

[asianangel]

okay, well, i'm eighteen and about to enter college. i'm a virgin, too, and have never been able to bring myself to orgasm. i don't believe in premarital sex and don't want to lose my cherry, so mostly when i try to masturbate its clit stimulation. it never works--i can bring myself up to a point and my heart beats faster, but that's all. does anyone have any suggestions?

 

[Suikodude007]

I'll help

Chat with me here please. and if you want, join me in some of my trends. I can help you if you chat with me.

 

[Suikodude007]

You can try erotic emails, Instant (or Post) Messages, or phone sex if you want to get off. Respond to this and tell me what you think of these Ideas.

 

[Nora]

yeahhhhhhhh...and that's what's wrong with men today.

moving right along.

Don't focus on the orgasm itself. If you touch yourself, do it for fun, do it as long as it feels good and then stop. When you masturbate, there's nobody to impress or please but yourself. When you start feeling anxious over whether or not you're going to orgasm, it takes all the fun out of it and kinda defeats the whole purpose of masturbation.

So basically, relax..enjoy yourself, stop when you feel more anxiety than pleasure and don't worry about orgasming. It'll happen when it happens.

 

[Suikodude007]

Well excuse me... Im 18 and a virgin as well, what the else do you expect me to say.

 

[Nora]

Well, you could try answering her question instead of exploiting it for your own gain.

 

[Suikodude007]

point taken. please forgive me for being teen with a hormone imbalance.

 

[Nora]

point taken. please forgive me for being teen with a hormone imbalance.

LOL! you're forgiven *grin* Now go take some saltpeter.

 

[Suikodude007]

Ok, now you can help me. What the Hell is Salt Peter???

 

[Nora]

it's potassium nitrate. It used to be thought to curb masturbation in boys.

 

[Suikodude007]

lol. thanks. have a nice night

 

[Nora]

thanks, you too.

 

[princessa]

buy some toys... if you live at college, no one will know what's in the package, especially since most websites will discreetly wrap it without any indication of what or where it's from...

and try looking online at sites for women... tips for women from other women

 

[The_old_man]

If you are intrested in learning about your body's responce to stinulation, check out the story at this link.


http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=52816

It is a story submited by my wife(plug) but does contain some usfull hints.

 

[notenufsx4me]

I remember one time a eighteen year old freind ask me what the big deal was about females and viberators. ( i was using one designed for the "g" spot on her shoulders and neck at the time)
We where on my couch at the time and she was wearing tight jeans with her legs spread, so i placed the viberator directly on her pussy in one smooth motion before she had a chance to object.

WOW. She started shaking like she was being shocked by electricty, eyes bulging, mouth hanging open and a long drawn out moan that turned into the second most intense orgasm i have ever saw in a woman.

When she could talk again, she grabed the viberator up and looked at it and said " I will have me one of these". I bought her one for her next birthday.

Try one out.

 

[notenufsx4me]

I remember one time a eighteen year old freind ask me what the big deal was about females and viberators. ( i was using one designed for the "g" spot on her shoulders and neck at the time)
We where on my couch at the time and she was wearing tight jeans with her legs spread, so i placed the viberator directly on her pussy in one smooth motion before she had a chance to object.

WOW. She started shaking like she was being shocked by electricty, eyes bulging, mouth hanging open and a long drawn out moan that turned into the second most intense orgasm i have ever saw in a woman.

When she could talk again, she grabbed the viberator up and looked at it and said " I will have me one of these". I bought her one for her next birthday.

Try one out.

i dont know how i screwed this up!

 

[Tallfella]

okay, well, i'm eighteen and about to enter college. i'm a virgin, too, and have never been able to bring myself to orgasm. i don't believe in premarital sex and don't want to lose my cherry, so mostly when i try to masturbate its clit stimulation. it never works--i can bring myself up to a point and my heart beats faster, but that's all. does anyone have any suggestions?

Maybe your attitude to premarital sex is spilling over into your self satisfaction. If for whatever reaso you dont want sex with a man then maybe it's inhibiting you as far as masturbation is concened. This is something you must work out for yourself because when you do marry a fw words spoken over a book wont change you and you'll carry your guilt into marriage and your sex life will be the pit's

 

[laurie_nh_2001]

agrees with the toy idea

buy a bullet when hubby is away i will play i had the hardest time for the longest time but with time alone i learned what feels good and what is great baught a bullet rubbed the clit fingered the outer part of the pussy got the juices flowing

 

[Guest]

Angel -

Take a long, hot bubble bath - you need privacy and relaxation. (A glass of wine? college town - shouldn't be a problem!) If you enjoy reading erotica, that could be a place to start- and then just explore yourself without a definite purpose - don't worry!
After awhile, certain areas of your body will certainly seem to be more sensitive to touch - and you'll find which brings you pleasure. The first few times, don't even worry about completion - just play. It will happen - and when you eventually have sex (no rush here - plenty of time for that) you will be able to share with your lover that which excites you!
There are many more college freshman virgins than you think. . .
Good luck!


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[lilpriss]

Wow, hmm, I never had a prolem with masturbation... although I started at a very young age... I found out that if you are straddling something (like the arm of the couch, a horse's back, stuffed animals face... or put a pillow between your legs) and rub against it... That will stimulate you, plus it's good for your thighs. I got caught in elementary school using my big winter coat once...

These days though, I have mastered the fine motor skills. My finger is much better...

And you can't worry about the goal. Just focus on how good you are feeling. I remember my sister asking me why I did that... and I told her it feels good... like a massage "down there". ;-)

 

[mike_mike02128]

Maybe what you need is a partner with the same feelings as you. You'd be surprised but there are men out there with the same thoughts on pre-marital sex as you. If you have such a partner, then there are alot of sexual acts you can do without the actual penetration happening. If masterbating alone is not doing it for ya, maybe a partner can put some excitement into it for ya.

In my early days of dating, I had partners who would not go all the way, but we both enjoyed pleasuring each other in other ways. Sometimes enjoying it more than intercourse. The feeling of your partner doing the masterbating for you is fantastic, while pleasuring the other can be just as rewarding. There's fallatio, toys, mesages, and all kinds of ways to bring a girl (or boy) to orgasm.....and finding out what works is the most fun.

Have fun.

 

[Buell]

more then phyical

Well for me personally, it is equal amounts of the physiological state of mind and then physical stimulation. Find something that turns you on then start with the physical. There

I would be careful about getting a boyfriend. That is how it started off with my girl friend at the time. Things happen quickly and people don’t think to clearly. PS She is now my wife so be careful.

You might find a girlfriend. You are still a virgin but also find out what feels good. If that is your thing.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

First of all congrats on knowing what is important to you...I personally couldn't control all my randy teenage hormones when I was your age and lost it at 18. (not that I was trying NOT to lose it, but just trying to make the point that it's a rough age, especially when coupled with the intoxicating freedom that is college).

I didn't masturbate until I was in my teens...16 I think...I don't know why it took that long. For me it was a stream of water hitting my clit just the right way and I used water stimulation exclusively for awhile. Then I began the hand experimentation and loved it (still do). Vibrators are a girls best friend (and don't cause carpal tunal (j/k). Point being...you'll start when you're ready (sounds like now) and you'll figure it out.

But helpful hints...buy some erotica (most women, me included find it more stimulating than porn) and read until you find the scene that really gets you going...then put yourself into the characters place and let your hand do what it wants.

I also understand the getting to a certain point thing. Have you ever achieved orgasm? I remember teh first time I orgasm and experienced female ejaculation...I was ashamed b/c I thought I'd wet the bed and from then on I stopped before I hit the point of no return. Anything similar? Just remember it's supposed to be all wet and warm and sexy....and ejaculation is normal and fun. Other advice don't stop or switch your focus to your clit at that moment.

Hope the advice helps...

 

[majinbuu1234]

Just wondering, but why is that women seem to have a harder time reaching orgasm than most men do? For instance, I've never had any problems achieving orgasm when masturbating and when me and my g/f are having sex, I'm always the first to cum.

 

[whatalady]

I agree totally

You gotta be kidding about all this shit>!!![/COLThis is unfucking beleivable.]