please help

[Guest]

It's been ages since I posted a message on a board, but I'm really in need of some advice.

I'm 18, a virgin and never had a proper g/f... its not that I havn't had the chances to have sex or a g/f... its just I think too much about morals... I consider myself to be a nice guy, therefore I'm not going to go and have a one off sex session with a girl, no matter how desperate I am.

For about a year now I've been talking to the sister of an old girl mate on MSN. Things were going well, and after seeing her in pictures and sending her mine, i began (even though I tried not to) to have feelings for her.

She's had a b/f for about 2 months now.

Well we eventually met about a week ago and my feelings were confirmed, I'm nutts about her and can't get her out of my head. She know's how I feel and I have a feeling she likes me too (She has been talking to teachers about me and then instantly seezing up and saying she cant tell me what about... and she said she "knew how I felt").

Thing is, I don't know what to do.. we obviously dont see each other regually, but she's always on the phone to me or texting me and I'm finding it very hard to continue as mate... just knowing me when we do finaly start going out (if we start going out) I will do my stupid thing of thinking I'm using her, get confused about my true feelings and end up spliting up with her.

If anyone can help with either the girl prob, or my insecurities I just mentioned, please leave a message!

Ben

 

[Monazwx]

This is a tough one.
Sadly, unless she's willing to dump the boyfriend, forget about it.

You don't really know what she is telling these teachers.
Until she tells you what she's really feeling, don't assume anything.
Considering the way you feel about her, I hope that things work out for you, both.

Why so insecure? Maybe having sex scares you, hope that's not it though.

 

[Guest]

I told her everything today, how I feel etc... I dunno...

 

[SXCRgirl]

Why do you feel that you're using a girl if you engage in a consenting sexual relationship with her? Or is that just an excuse because you're uncertain about your skills? I'm not trying to say that you don't have the skills, just wondering why you would feel that way.

As far as this other girl goes, it's long distance which makes it difficult. Are you interested in her because she's *safe*? Or perhaps because you're not ready for a real relationship? If she feels the same for you, why does she continue to see the other guy, knowing how you felt about her?

Will it be difficult for you to see her even every other week? If this girl is worth pursuing, then go for it. You owe it to yourself to find out right? But dig deep and hard in YOURSELF to find out what is behind all these insecurities. The answer lies only in your heart.

Good luck.

 

[Guest]

It's been ages since you've posted here and you're 18???

 

[Guest]

Yeah, nearly 19 and its been nearly a year since my last posting.