lady*laura
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I need input- men /women- tell me what you would find erotic and sensual if you were planning or wanted someone to seduce you...I have two weeks to come up with something.
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Seducing a man?
Show up naked. Bring food and beer.
Seriously, I've always done the seducing (I think) so I have little idea what would work on/for me.
I like to begin offensive operations with a good, slow meal in a quality, intimate restaurant accompanied by good conversation, then move to a hotel suite with hot tub prepared in advance with champagne on ice, chilled strawberries, roses, petals on the bed, and candles etcetera. Regardless of passions, I prefer to move slowly throughout, undressing my objective one item of clothing at a time. All the while I pay close attention to her moods, desires, reactions, and needs. I take far more pleasure in giving pleasure than receiving as I gently guide her along the path that I have planned. I like to caress, lick, nibble, tease and tantalize for hours, keeping her as close to the edge as I can throughout, or possibly permitting a few minor manually or orally induced orgasms before working up to penetration, again beginning slowly and building to a final frenzy. The hot tub can be used immediately after undressing or afterwards or both, depending upon mood. It's a good place to relax, carry on the dinner conversation at a more intimate level while sipping on the champagne, and heighten the anticipation before moving to the bed and wallow afterwards. It's also the best way to enjoy a woman's long hair as it floats and flows.
Should such tactics ever be employed on me, however, I am not certain how I would react. I could simply become impatient, as passivity tends to bore me, but I would nonetheless go along with my seducer's plan out of respect and curiosity - and I'm sure that I'd thoroughly enjoy it albeit in a different way than intended.
I just prefer to take the lead though.
The best way to seduce me is probably just to go along with my scheme while putting up just enough "resistance" and "protest" to make me believe that there is a challenge.
Show up naked. Bring food and beer.
Seriously, I've always done the seducing (I think) so I have little idea what would work on/for me.
I like to begin offensive operations with a good, slow meal in a quality, intimate restaurant accompanied by good conversation, then move to a hotel suite with hot tub prepared in advance with champagne on ice, chilled strawberries, roses, petals on the bed, and candles etcetera. Regardless of passions, I prefer to move slowly throughout, undressing my objective one item of clothing at a time. All the while I pay close attention to her moods, desires, reactions, and needs. I take far more pleasure in giving pleasure than receiving as I gently guide her along the path that I have planned. I like to caress, lick, nibble, tease and tantalize for hours, keeping her as close to the edge as I can throughout, or possibly permitting a few minor manually or orally induced orgasms before working up to penetration, again beginning slowly and building to a final frenzy. The hot tub can be used immediately after undressing or afterwards or both, depending upon mood. It's a good place to relax, carry on the dinner conversation at a more intimate level while sipping on the champagne, and heighten the anticipation before moving to the bed and wallow afterwards. It's also the best way to enjoy a woman's long hair as it floats and flows.
Should such tactics ever be employed on me, however, I am not certain how I would react. I could simply become impatient, as passivity tends to bore me, but I would nonetheless go along with my seducer's plan out of respect and curiosity - and I'm sure that I'd thoroughly enjoy it albeit in a different way than intended.
I just prefer to take the lead though.
The best way to seduce me is probably just to go along with my scheme while putting up just enough "resistance" and "protest" to make me believe that there is a challenge.
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Hmmm.....that sounds wonderful and what you have described is part of my dilemma. He likes to be in control but ...
( sigh)
I want to set the mood- not that I am really into role playing but a Sheik setting with silks and candles and soft sitar music, some mystery and wine and maybe even some resistence on my part with a touch of submissiveness.
(sigh)
but then I am also afraid to risk it too. Last time I tried to seduce a man I was married to him and he laughed at me. I am positive my lover won't laugh at me but it's still a risk.
( sigh)
I want to set the mood- not that I am really into role playing but a Sheik setting with silks and candles and soft sitar music, some mystery and wine and maybe even some resistence on my part with a touch of submissiveness.
(sigh)
but then I am also afraid to risk it too. Last time I tried to seduce a man I was married to him and he laughed at me. I am positive my lover won't laugh at me but it's still a risk.
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lady*laura said:
That is mean, and I understand your hesitance because of that. People can be so insensitive sometimes!
The scenario you propose here sounds hot enough to me. How could anyone NOT respond to that? If this one laughs at you (again) he's not worth your efforts and love. You'd better know that now than when you're married to the guy
Good luck or as the French say: bon courage!
Oh, and let us know what happened
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I know deep down that this man would not laugh at me but you know how it can be shaking off some of the baggage from a previous experience...once bitten twice shy...and yes my ex was not a very kind person.
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I'm intrigued - this has possibilities
Some questions, if I may:
Why this particular theme? Any specific interest for either or both of you, or does it just sound good?
"Seduction" to me implies that this will be the first time that the two of you will be having sex; is this assumption correct? Or are you trying to spice up a relationship that's been running for a while?
How well do you know him, mentally, emotionally, etcetera?
Remarks in my previous post aside, I think that I'd be flattered should somebody go to that length and display that much imagination and interest. This and my previous post may seem inconsistent in this regard but it's really not - too difficult to explain via this means though. It would depend largely upon the quality of the preparations: it's too easy to be cheap and cheezy with themes. Go for quality props. I'd also have to be very careful to avoid taking over the scene, and let my partner play it out according to her vision.
Middle Eastern music _is_ available, but you may not find it easily locally. Are you in a rush? I know some people into listening and/or playing this stuff and I could find some internet sources and specific recommendations pretty quickly. Sitars, by the way, are Indian - but I know what you're aiming for.
Related to the music, how much do you want to spend? I can also find sources of clothing and other paraphernalia on the internet for you.
Recipes should also be available for simple snack foods - and whole meals if you're planning to cook - but it's hard to go wrong with standard prepared (washed, peeled, cut as required) fresh fruit, perhaps marinaded in a suitable liqueur.
The second and third questions are related. While it's obvious that you don't know how well this is going to play out, you know him far better than any of us do - so what you do and how is up to nobody else but you.
I definitely do think that you should try this. If it works, it could be tremendous. If it doesn't - especially if he laughs - you'll certainly know that the relationship is not worth pursuing.
Some questions, if I may:
Why this particular theme? Any specific interest for either or both of you, or does it just sound good?
"Seduction" to me implies that this will be the first time that the two of you will be having sex; is this assumption correct? Or are you trying to spice up a relationship that's been running for a while?
How well do you know him, mentally, emotionally, etcetera?
Remarks in my previous post aside, I think that I'd be flattered should somebody go to that length and display that much imagination and interest. This and my previous post may seem inconsistent in this regard but it's really not - too difficult to explain via this means though. It would depend largely upon the quality of the preparations: it's too easy to be cheap and cheezy with themes. Go for quality props. I'd also have to be very careful to avoid taking over the scene, and let my partner play it out according to her vision.
Middle Eastern music _is_ available, but you may not find it easily locally. Are you in a rush? I know some people into listening and/or playing this stuff and I could find some internet sources and specific recommendations pretty quickly. Sitars, by the way, are Indian - but I know what you're aiming for.
Related to the music, how much do you want to spend? I can also find sources of clothing and other paraphernalia on the internet for you.
Recipes should also be available for simple snack foods - and whole meals if you're planning to cook - but it's hard to go wrong with standard prepared (washed, peeled, cut as required) fresh fruit, perhaps marinaded in a suitable liqueur.
The second and third questions are related. While it's obvious that you don't know how well this is going to play out, you know him far better than any of us do - so what you do and how is up to nobody else but you.
I definitely do think that you should try this. If it works, it could be tremendous. If it doesn't - especially if he laughs - you'll certainly know that the relationship is not worth pursuing.
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Leah57 said:
It always amazes me how many women ask me that! It seems as if there is a certain percentage of men out there who use the same relationship handbook.
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I think it's a wonderful idea.
I'm not sure what advice I can give you about the specifics of what you want to set up, but from the sounds of it, he will appreciate you going to the effort. Even if he likes to 'take the lead' as you say, having something done totally for his own pleasure... he'll prbably love it! But maybe, as was previously mentioned, in a different way.
Like I say, I don't know about that particular theme, because I don't know you guys, but I will say this - don't worry about the 'cheesiness' of it. There is a degree of 'game playing' and 'make believe' in all of this - the fantasy, setting the mood - it doesn't have to be hokey. It's fun. A lot of what happens in the bedroom seems quite silly in the harsh light of day. The key is that whatever role you choose to play, whatever situation you propose, make it about the two of you, and believe in what you're doing. Approach the situation with a degree of confidence and flexibility and you can't go wrong.
Good luck!
I'm not sure what advice I can give you about the specifics of what you want to set up, but from the sounds of it, he will appreciate you going to the effort. Even if he likes to 'take the lead' as you say, having something done totally for his own pleasure... he'll prbably love it! But maybe, as was previously mentioned, in a different way.
Like I say, I don't know about that particular theme, because I don't know you guys, but I will say this - don't worry about the 'cheesiness' of it. There is a degree of 'game playing' and 'make believe' in all of this - the fantasy, setting the mood - it doesn't have to be hokey. It's fun. A lot of what happens in the bedroom seems quite silly in the harsh light of day. The key is that whatever role you choose to play, whatever situation you propose, make it about the two of you, and believe in what you're doing. Approach the situation with a degree of confidence and flexibility and you can't go wrong.
Good luck!
