Pity Party Threads
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CoolidgEffect
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I am sorry you offended people in the other thread. I am sorry people came down on you. You have my pity.
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And what are you doing in this thread, exactly? I like your sense of humour.*bratcat* said:
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Unrelated, but I'm reminded of George Will's commentary about a group in his town who wanted to pass anti-smoking ordinances, and well as make it illegal to cook with things like garlic if the odor could drift across lawns into other people's houses. He said that the law was being suggested "for the sheer joy of bossing people around" and for those who want "to pass through life from birth to death without being irritated by anything."
I often find that people who get their hackles up over the merest mention of their button-pushing self-image words are a bit like the people who want "to pass through life from birth to death without being irritated by anything."
Sometimes you gotta love the Conservatives.
I often find that people who get their hackles up over the merest mention of their button-pushing self-image words are a bit like the people who want "to pass through life from birth to death without being irritated by anything."
Sometimes you gotta love the Conservatives.
Johnny Cool
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Sure those threads are annoying. I rank them right with "Pay attention to me" threads as the most unfortunate by-product of letting just anyone post here
But more to the point, why does it bother you so? I got over the "Pay attention to me" stuff and CH has heard nary a word from me since.
But more to the point, why does it bother you so? I got over the "Pay attention to me" stuff and CH has heard nary a word from me since.
peachykeen
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what's wrong with wanting a little attention now and then? If you're feeling blue and you want to let it out, why not? If you don't like it, just don't respond. What's the big deal?
Since I am one you offended when you called the thread a pity party, its a logical conclusion that I am one you refer to.
I never asked YOU for sympathy or empathy, or least of all compassion fo others, such I demonstrated in my post to the person I quoted.
In fact no one asked you for anything at all.
How is anyone else being offended or otherwise affected by anything at all, any different than your message in THIS thread, that we so offend you?
You say that those offended whine and moan constantly and only speak of the negatives. It is quite apparent that you missed entirely the point in my post, and also, you miss the fact that I am a very positive person, as my posts here speak to that very effectively.
There IS one thing I moan about, you got me there. I moan about SEX. I don't have it, I want it. Period. But then, most everyone else here does, too.
In closing, it seems to me that those of you that see certain people as attention seeking need to realize that when you comment to them or about them, you are giving them exactly what YOU THINK they desire.
Having said that, just because YOU THINK it, doesn't make it so.
I never asked YOU for sympathy or empathy, or least of all compassion fo others, such I demonstrated in my post to the person I quoted.
In fact no one asked you for anything at all.
How is anyone else being offended or otherwise affected by anything at all, any different than your message in THIS thread, that we so offend you?
You say that those offended whine and moan constantly and only speak of the negatives. It is quite apparent that you missed entirely the point in my post, and also, you miss the fact that I am a very positive person, as my posts here speak to that very effectively.
There IS one thing I moan about, you got me there. I moan about SEX. I don't have it, I want it. Period. But then, most everyone else here does, too.
In closing, it seems to me that those of you that see certain people as attention seeking need to realize that when you comment to them or about them, you are giving them exactly what YOU THINK they desire.
Having said that, just because YOU THINK it, doesn't make it so.
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Some people have a hard time getting over bad experiences in their lives, and need validation from others to help them do so. While that validation can be helpful, ultimately they need to start finding it within themselves, and not from words on a screen. As a temporary ego boost, it's not a bad thing, but when it's a constant, never-ending scream for attention, then those people need to find other ways of helping themselves.
LordLucan74
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I have noted a great number of threads that are negative in tone filled with people that are focusing on what they do not have or are not getting rather than focusing on what they have and what they are getting. In fact, some are so consumed by negativity that I am sure happiness could pound on their front door and they would be too pre-occupied to notice. And many threads are a litany of repeated sycophancies and shared negativities that reading them is practically impossible.
I also have noticed that there are positive threads where positivity is ridiculed and positive people, genuinely nice people, are attacked. I started a thread called Isn't Life Great and my first poster called me a moron, mispelled of course ( he said mormon). I only got attention there when I had a bad day and actually whined!!! Go figure!!!
Apparantly people just want rain on their parades and would rather whine and share collective negativities than shut up, move on and be happy. For God sake, happiness is not that complicated. Being happy and positive takes no more energy than being negative.
And anyone who has to beg to get attention, probably doesn't merit it in the first place. Thus, I refrain from doing it.
Have a lovely day and may God Bless each of you and may you all be HAPPY
I have noted a great number of threads that are negative in tone filled with people that are focusing on what they do not have or are not getting rather than focusing on what they have and what they are getting. In fact, some are so consumed by negativity that I am sure happiness could pound on their front door and they would be too pre-occupied to notice. And many threads are a litany of repeated sycophancies and shared negativities that reading them is practically impossible.
I also have noticed that there are positive threads where positivity is ridiculed and positive people, genuinely nice people, are attacked. I started a thread called Isn't Life Great and my first poster called me a moron, mispelled of course ( he said mormon). I only got attention there when I had a bad day and actually whined!!! Go figure!!!
Apparantly people just want rain on their parades and would rather whine and share collective negativities than shut up, move on and be happy. For God sake, happiness is not that complicated. Being happy and positive takes no more energy than being negative.
And anyone who has to beg to get attention, probably doesn't merit it in the first place. Thus, I refrain from doing it.
Have a lovely day and may God Bless each of you and may you all be HAPPY
MunchinMark
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Sort of carrying on from what Freya said; pretty much everyone tries for some self pitying comfort at one time or another in our lives. When we're down about anything at all, we all like someone to sympathise, even if it is about those damn garlic roasters over the road when I hate garlic. I've done it myself and I suspect that most people here either have lapsed into self-pitying posts or will do at some point.
What you do about it is your call, but it seems to be human to moan.
What you do about it is your call, but it seems to be human to moan.
LordLucan74
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MunchinMark said:
It seems that moaning is socially acceptable and actually prefered
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There's a certain perceived nobility in suffering, have you noticed? Which is the more attractive character, the one who feels the world on her back or the one who ignores the bad side?
Just a thought there.
Just a thought there.
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*bratcat* said:I should also mention that I do love to hear about how people have risen up from something horrible and overcome it.
Look at the people who survived after the WTC events...those people have a right to feel sorry for themselves...but they don't.
Sandia...do you need a hug?
Dawg...Iyou...fleas and all.
People who come through bad and horrible events well and with comparative speed are usually are the ones with positive outlooks and not prone to hang about those who validate (and worse facilitate ) such behaviors and behavioral tendancies that prolong the negativity of the experience.
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Never's thread is NOT a pity party.
bratcat, I just read back through that thread, and I don't know where you get "pity party."
In five pages, only 4-5 people were talking about how they themselves have been treated when overweight, the rest were talking about their own likes/dislikes.
intrigued's and Starfish's posts gave concrete "real life" examples of unfair discrimination to discuss. It is a more interesting (I want to say INTRIGUING!) thread with their posts in it.
If you were looking for a reason to soapbox about "I don't feel bad about myself and neither should you, so you should be strong like me and quit whining," there are other threads where people are actually asking for pity. You might remember them.
Or you could edit the reference to Never's thread, because it doesn't apply.
bratcat, I just read back through that thread, and I don't know where you get "pity party."
In five pages, only 4-5 people were talking about how they themselves have been treated when overweight, the rest were talking about their own likes/dislikes.
intrigued's and Starfish's posts gave concrete "real life" examples of unfair discrimination to discuss. It is a more interesting (I want to say INTRIGUING!) thread with their posts in it.
If you were looking for a reason to soapbox about "I don't feel bad about myself and neither should you, so you should be strong like me and quit whining," there are other threads where people are actually asking for pity. You might remember them.
Or you could edit the reference to Never's thread, because it doesn't apply.
peachykeen
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I think at this point it might be relevant to draw a distinction between a person who is a chronic whinger, more or less always being negative, and someone who is just having a bad day or who has had a bad experience and is just working through it. I consider myself generally upbeat but I need to have a piss and a moan every now and again too.
