Pinch Me and Tell Me Its A Dream....

[eagleyez]

no, its painfully real.

My Lover/Partner/Wife of 20 years has told me its over.

Its no ones fault-we tried, we bothtried.

I still love her-she loves someone else-so i have to let her go.

And I will always love her, she is the mother of my 2 sons, she is the love of my life-

Im usually a really strong person, but this has wrecked me...

WHAT THE FUCK AM I GOING TO DO-HOW DO YOU START OVER?

Tell me lies, make me feel good, give me some advice...

Im stuck in dark and painful, and I need some help getting out...

 

[Soblue]

Ah, sorry man, a lot of us are going through the same thing though. I wish I knew what makes it better other than the passage of time.

That and a good rebound fuck.

 

[christophe]

somethings are very hard to accept, this i am sure is not going to be an easy period. there will come a time when you will get your life back on track. one day at a time.

 

[eagleyez]

Ah, sorry man, a lot of us are going through the same thing though. I wish I knew what makes it better other than the passage of time.

That and a good rebound fuck.

Thanks, I guess time is all I have to count on.

My sons are staying with me, so I have them to focus on-

Its such a powerful loneliness this morning-

Im all fucking alone and so down low, how the fuck can I pickmy ass up...

 

[Neftoon_Zamora]

The sharing of experiences is often helpful. I'm sure there are many here who can offer their insight and words of encouragement.

I wish you well, and I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

 

[eagleyez]

The sharing of experiences is often helpful. I'm sure there are many here who can offer their insight and words of encouragement.

I wish you well, and I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

Thanks, thats why Im reaching out.

 

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[English Lady]

*hugs*


I know you don't know me and I don't know you so a hug might be a bit forward, but it really is all i have to give right now.

I mean there is nothing i can say that even comes close to helpful, I cna say "sorry" and mean it, but its not a help, I can rehash old cliches "time heals" etc, but you've heard them all before no doubt. I think the best thing i can do is shut up and listen.

 

[bluespoke]

Twenty years is a long time. No matter the circumstances there will be great pain on both sides as well as the children.

Good luck to you, your boys and to the lady.

 

[eagleyez]

Twenty years is a long time. No matter the circumstances there will be great pain on both sides as well as the children.

Good luck to you, your boys and to the lady.

Thanks,

Ive told my Sons that we must let love guide us...

That we must be about love...

And this pang in my chest will go away someday-

WONT IT??

MY IS BROKEN...

 

[English Lady]

cliche's become cliche's because they are largely true.

Time is a great healer....

its true.

 

[Georgia Girl]

There are any number of pretty things people can say to help but what I found when I was on the other side of your situation was it took time.

In time I figured out I didn't fail, it just didn't work.

In time I accepted that even though it had been something it was not everything.

In time and with some serious rages I got okay with being alone with me and it wasn't so dark inside any more.

Be patient with yourself, find someone you can be totally and completely honest about, work through the feelings, don't try to hide from them.

Broken hearts hurt like crazy but in time they do heal, they won't be the same but they will heal.

I will keep you in my thoughts and your kids, its difficult to heal and let go.

Best Wishes

Dawn

 

[sufisaint]

It is exactly like death, and not only do you lose a person that you love, apart of you dies as well. Mourn, cry let everything out than slowly heal...remember to celebrate the life in you, the endless possibilities that still exist if you stay open hearted regardless of the circumstances..do not shut down and withdrawl...just be real and true...

 

[eagleyez]

There are any number of pretty things people can say to help but what I found when I was on the other side of your situation was it took time.

In time I figured out I didn't fail, it just didn't work.

In time I accepted that even though it had been something it was not everything.

In time and with some serious rages I got okay with being alone with me and it wasn't so dark inside any more.

Be patient with yourself, find someone you can be totally and completely honest about, work through the feelings, don't try to hide from them.

Broken hearts hurt like crazy but in time they do heal, they won't be the same but they will heal.

I will keep you in my thoughts and your kids, its difficult to heal and let go.

Best Wishes

Dawn

Thanks Dawn-

Healing and letting go....

It feels like I just need to wait for those to happen-

I cant conjure anything good right now-

Except the strength I feel for my Sons-

And time is pain and I just want to sleep...

Cant even do that...SUCKS TO BE ME TODAY...

sorry, I am seriously whining-

*cracks half smile* thanks all, keep telling me anything, i dont care,

 

[Silverluna]

*doesn't know what to say*

::hugs::

 

[eagleyez]

It is exactly like death, and not only do you lose a person that you love, apart of you dies as well. Mourn, cry let everything out than slowly heal...remember to celebrate the life in you, the endless possibilities that still exist if you stay open hearted regardless of the circumstances..do not shut down and withdrawl...just be real and true...

Thanks for that- I am reading Gary Snyder this morning, "Turtle Island," the poetry of things that ARE-

real and true. Earth, Sky, River, Mountain, Ocean,

smiles on faces....

quiet desperation....

 

[eagleyez]

*doesn't know what to say*

::hugs::

Thanks for the Hug-

it felt good...

 

[Gil_Favor]

My sons are staying with me, so I have them to focus on-



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This is the most important part of the story. Your fortunate in that your children are with you.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

eagleyez

Hugs for I know it is can't be a good place to be in right now with so many different emotions running through you.

One minute you are probably like fuck you I can do things I always wanted to.

Another minute you are thinking of all the wonderful things that both or you have shared.

Then another moment passes and you are numb with no feeling.

I have seen this with so many friends and have experienced this myself with past relationships. It is not an easy thing for you have had a connection with her. For your own survival focus on things that you enjoy to do. Do things that you have been putting off doing and do it. Spend time with your sons.

When all the paper work comes into play do not quibble over materialistic things that will only cause more anger or hatred. Figure out what is truly important in your life and let go of the things that you can always buy. For example I have seen others fight over a pair of steak knives.

You seem to have a grasp on the situation of your children. Do not give them any reasons that they will internalize that they are the cause of this break up. Children have a way of holding onto this even as adults. That my mom or dad stayed because of the kids.

I do not know you but I am wishing you luck. In time you will find your own path. Try to take it one day at a time. Realize you will be swallowed up with so many emotions but it is a guarantee that as time goes on things will begin to heal.

Sorry to use the cliche but it is true when one door is closed another will open. Look at is as a new beginning or phase of your life. What you do with it is up to you. Good Luck! Hugs because we can all use them.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[Silverluna]

Thanks for the Hug-

it felt good...

there are no true endings....there is always a beginning...

 

[eagleyez]

Re: eagleyez

Hugs for I know it is can't be a good place to be in right now with so many different emotions running through you.

One minute you are probably like fuck you I can do things I always wanted to.

Another minute you are thinking of all the wonderful things that both or you have shared.

Then another moment passes and you are numb with no feeling.

I have seen this with so many friends and have experienced this myself with past relationships. It is not an easy thing for you have had a connection with her. For your own survival focus on things that you enjoy to do. Do things that you have been putting off doing and do it. Spend time with your sons.

When all the paper work comes into play do not quibble over materialistic things that will only cause more anger or hatred.

Figure out what is truly important in your life and let go of the things that you can always buy. For example I have seen others fight over a pair of steak knives.

You seem to have a grasp on the situation of your children. Do not give them any reasons that they will internalize that they are the cause of this break up. Children have a way of holding onto this even as adults. That my mom or dad stayed because of the kids.

I do not know you but I am wishing you luck. In time you will find your own path. Try to take it one day at a time. Realize you will be swallowed up with so many emotions but it is a guarantee that as time goes on things will begin to heal.

Sorry to use the cliche but it is true when one door is closed another will open. Look at is as a new beginning or phase of your life. What you do with it is up to you. Good Luck! Hugs because we can all use them.

Peace,
Tulip

Oh Thanks for That-

All true-All wise.

*realizes he needs to sit up straight and breathe....*

that helps too.

Thanks Tulip!!

 

[ithaqua]

Re: eagleyez

For your own survival focus on things that you enjoy to do. Do things that you have been putting off doing and do it. Spend time with your sons.

Wow, that's harsh.

My advice is to focus on the material things, work out the details, get the paperwork done as quickly as possible. Move into a new place, and move on with your life.

If you focus on the details of every day living first, then you can deal with the emotional issues in smaller easier to deal with bits, and spread them over much needed time.

The world has changed, it will never be the same, but in it's changing, it has become new and different.

 

[eagleyez]

This is the most important part of the story. Your fortunate in that your children are with you.

And they are with me. Thanks for that.

My 8 year old said yesterday to my 14 year old and me " Dad we'll be like the three musketeers."

I started crying and hugged him.....


this day blows

sorry to grovell in my misery,
it feels like i am expelling something by doing it,
kind of like puking on a redwine jag-

 

[bknight2602]

Been there and done that. Life will go on you will find new people to associate with. You will no doubt find a replacement love. My heart goes out to you at this time however.

Best of luck in the coming months.

 

[eagleyez]

Been there and done that. Life will go on you will find new people to associate with. You will no doubt find a replacement love. My heart goes out to you at this time however.

Best of luck in the coming months.

thanks alot.

a whole lot..