Pickup lines

[docisin]

Guys and Gals; how to approach/start a conversation with an attractive lady in a bar. Since I'm all but inept in this area, Guys: how do you do it? Gals: what do you like to hear, what do you hate? How do you give signals that tell guys, "hey I'm available"? Thanks
The Doc

 

[FrustratedTeenF]

I would like a man to give me a genuine compliment, not a bog standard line.. pick up on something that is unique to me.

Oh and saying hi and introducing yourself helps!

I think eye contact is the key to knowing if a woman is interested or not.

 

[Jenny _S]

Depends on the guy and the setting. Rubbing my hard nipples against some guys arm in a bar works but I don't do that anymore.

These days it's a matter of simply talking to someone. My best approach is the "Can you reach the package on the top shelf?" in grocery stores. They can tell that's a line because I'm just shy of 6 feet.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Shingen]

Hi, you caught my eye when I walked into the room. What's your name?

 

[SkyyAngel]

Eye Contact is a must. That's definately a way to tell if she's interested.

As for pick-up lines I love anything that makes me laugh...I need a man with a sense of humor. My favorites that would just make me bust out laughing are, "Blow Me if I'm wrong but you want to fuck me?" and, "So, how would you like to go back to my place and do all the things I'm going to tell my friends that we did anyway?"

 

[dollface007]

"Hi, my name is _______. How are you?" That's all i want to hear. Say it with a smile and a handshake. If you need an "in" besides the above statement, ask her if there's anyone sitting at the barstool next to her or something similarly simple. Just be yourself and have fun. Go to bars to hang with friends and have a good time...not to pick up girls. If you find somebody that catches your eye, then great. If not, you still had a good time.

 

[watergirl]

Hmm... good question, good thread!

What's been said is true - just introduce yourself, smile, ask how we are... but you'd probably also like to know, "what do I do so I come across as cool? How do I get her interested in me? How do I not come off as a loser?"

Be comfortable in your environment. I'd rather talk to someone who is having a good time, and looks relaxed and fun to be around, than someone who is tense and nervous. So do whatever you want to feel at ease where you are - arrive early, know your way around, talk to the bartender before the place gets busy... Have a smile, and good posture.

Have confidence in yourself. If I think you are a lonely guy who is looking for someone, anyone, with 2 feet and tits, to latch onto and fill a void in your life, I'm not even going to make eye contact with you more than a brief once, let alone be interested in sitting/standing near you long enough for you to work up the nerve to talk to me.

Don't be arrogant. If I think you are patronizing, condescending, or treating me like I should be honored by your presence, I'm going to be irritated, not intrigued. Have a real smile for me, look me in the eye, not the chest... and if you do get to talking with me, keep looking at me, not scanning the room for someone hotter to go hit on, or your buddies to arrive.

Talk to me long enough to know you want to continue the conversation through the length of another drink before you offer to buy me another drink. If we're having a really good time, and you can tell we're hitting it off, don't offer, just get me another of what I'm having, casually, as you get another for yourself.

How to tell if I'm interested? Have you caught me looking at you from the corner of your eye? If we're dancing, have I stayed near you, or moved away? If I've stuck around, and looked at you once in a while, I don't consider you a repulsive loser that hurts my chances of picking someone up because you're near me! In fact, I'd probably be open to talking to you if you said hello and told me your name and asked how I'm doing. Same goes for if we're sitting next to each other. Just talk to me like I'm a person, not a potential one night stand...

Somewhere I read advice, can't remember where - maybe the thread that PinkOrchid mentions...

If a woman is funny or smart, compliment her looks, and say something specific, and mean it.... if she's gorgeous, compliment her wit or her sense of humor.. but time it well, and mean it...
We can tell when you aren't even bothering to sound sincere...

Anyways... good luck, docisin! Ohh- go rent The Tao of Steve = kick ass movie on how to pick up chicks. heh heh heh... I love that movie.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[watergirl]

Pink - a guy could get away w/ one of those lines on me, but only if he had a kick ass grin to go with it...

 

[Shingen]

Sweetie, you don't need a line.

Usually I just say, "Hi how are you doing today?" and go on from there.

 

[Lust Engine]

I think Watergirl has some really sound advice.

Yup... I agree.

Granted I've never been good with cheesy lines at all. If a gal is impressed by bad pick up lines, arrogance & bravado then I'm not so sure I'm the guy for her. I've always approached with a sense of adventure, honesty, humility & humor. If these attributes can start up a conversation- then let's see where it takes us.

Maybe some verbal repartee & then over a period of time, maybe some tonsil hockey and with any luck beyond that, more intimacy. But it's a long involved mental process...

Mind first, body second.

 

[watergirl]

thanks, Pink & L.E. - I always enjoy reading your posts, both of you- I appreciate the thumbs up on mine.

 

[Lust Engine]

thanks, Pink & L.E. - I always enjoy reading your posts, both of you- I appreciate the thumbs up on mine.

Just sharing the love here watergirl!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Lust Engine]

Tonsil hockey? lol!

I don't kiss to flirt. If I kiss a man, he's probably going to end up in my pants, unless he kisses like a dog.

I'd like to think I don't kiss like a dog!

But I will admit I do like fucking doggie style every now & then!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Lust Engine]

Fucking like dogs is fine, kissing not. Others may disagree, but those are my preferences.

I wholeheartedly concur! Here! here!!

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Best thing to say to me in a bar...
Hey, let me buy your next drink.
But I do hate pick-up lines esp. ones like "Are your parents retarded, cause, damn! you are one special girl."

 

[Lust Engine]

Best thing to say to me in a bar...
Hey, let me buy your next drink.
But I do hate pick-up lines esp. ones like "Are your parents retarded, cause, damn! you are one special girl."

Groan! There are so many bad pick up lines out there too.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

"lines" are a huge turnoff. Just come up and say hi, I'm so and so, what's your name?

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sheath]

I think Watergirl has some really sound advice.

I agree! VERY sound advice that every man should read before hitting on a woman.

As for me...just tell me you like me. I value honesty more than anything else. The first time I met a former lover, he walked right up to me and said, "My name is Jeff. I've been watching you, and I would like to get to know you. Can we sit and talk?"

He said it with a shy smile and a sincerity that made me say, yes, oh yes, we can sit here and talk until they close the place down.

S.