phone sex!

[MercedesVixen]

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[Vixandra]

You can use a vibrator or "personal massager" even if your a virgin.


As for the phone sex- not sure what to tell you. I start it (when I'm TDY or he's visiting his folks) by randomly saying, "I wish I could see your face when I say this- I'm touching myself. Care to give further instructions?"
Or something saucy like that. Its not hard really, just keep things in your confort zone and have fun.

 

[Machiavellian]

You really don't need a dildo - but if u get a small vibe it can work as well...

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I'd suggest making sure you are prime and ready before calling him - already get yourself going - so you are relaxed about what' you've started doing... then when you are talking to him - tell him in great detail what you would do to him when you see him.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

You might try reading this story http://www.literotica.com:81/stories/showstory.php?id=83694

I know those are things you're not quite ready to say/do...plus it has a bit of d/s twist. But it will give you an idea of the kinds of things you can say during phone sex. I'm in a long distance relationship too, right now and we LIVE off of phone sex, lol...

Actually just cause you're a virgin doesn't mean you can't use a dildo or vibe. I did, long before I lost my virginity, and it made my first time a lot easier on me cause it didn't hurt and I could concentrate on enjoying it. Also you can get one of those egg shaped vibrators and just hold it against your clit. Those are really nice

Phone sex can be uncomfortable the first few times, but don't worry. You'll get used to it and find yourself being braver and braver about what you say. Good luck.

 

[herecomestherain]

A couple of useful resources.

The article below is great reading too.
http://www.sexuality.org/talk.html

As is this one from Violet Blue.
http://www.tinynibbles.com/dirtytalk.html

 

[Noor]

I don't think you necessarily have to start out talking dirty, you have to talk, get comfortable and then say what you feel. The main thing is to jump the disconnect of not being in the same space. You must tell him what you are doing because he can not see or feel it. Make it as real as possible, don't do anything you wouldn't do in real life to start out with.
Just be normal, try and pretend he is there in real life with you. It helps if you block out distractions. I use a headset and often a sleep mask.

If my favorite cyber/voice/phone sex guy was on with me I would probably start out about telling him how I have missed him, and list what I have missed about him. The sound of his voice, the feeling of being connected with him, kissing him, touching him, how excited and wet he gets me just be being there, and that I like how he is always ready for me. I would say some more personal things about him specifically. He would be doing the same and at some point one of us might say "how exactly would that be?" and the other would say "well I would run my tongue up the inside of your leg, very lightly, my hair sweeping over you like fine silk, looking up into your eyes as my lower lip..." and then we'd be off and running. No dirty talk needed up front.

Hope that helps.

I forgot, don't be too serious. If you can't stop laugh and be a bit silly, then you are trying too hard. Don't be mortified if you are not immediately in synch, sometimes he is describing one thing and you another that can't co-exist in real life, just choose one, laugh and move on if that happens, and most of all HAVE FUN, and come hard

 

[AV guy II]

Very interesting topic. We have never tried phone sex with each other, because the phone lines at my work are taped. We have tried call 1-800 numbers, but that never panned out. I have, on occasion, stimulated my SO as she talks on the phone. That was interesting. The longer the call goes, the more her comments are just grunts and mumbles. Afterwards she says she can't even remember what she was talking about. I know this is a little off the subject, but I thought I would share.

 

[zukethecuke]

One way of beginning the process of turning a just-visiting phone call into phone sex is to imitate the process you would use in person.