phone sex and cybering

[shynsexy]

I jusy dont get it. whats the big turn on about cyber sex or phone sex? as soon as someone i am chatting with starts with all the cybersex bs, i am outta there. it does nothing for me..the same with phone sex....

i DO like to have actual sex with my SO while i am on the phone....

so what i want to know is:

whats the appeal???

what do *you* like about it?

or for people like myself...why dont you like it???

just curious

 

[Ms_Lilith]

man.. phone sex.. I like it because it's my brain that's getting turned on even before my body.. i can tell when a conversation that is normal is going to turn into phone sex (usually for me, phone sex comes after some major soul-sharing), and my mind begins to get wet, and my body follows suit.. and I don't even have to touch myself when I'm having GOOD phone sex.. my mind makes my body orgasm... I love it.. love hearing someone, love knowing that thoughts of me are making them moan, making them cum... god... I'm all tingly thinking about it.. it's been SO long...

 

[shynsexy]

its nice to see you again Vixen! Thanks for explaining why you like it

 

[JazzManJim]

man.. phone sex.. I like it because it's my brain that's getting turned on even before my body.. i can tell when a conversation that is normal is going to turn into phone sex (usually for me, phone sex comes after some major soul-sharing), and my mind begins to get wet, and my body follows suit.. and I don't even have to touch myself when I'm having GOOD phone sex.. my mind makes my body orgasm... I love it.. love hearing someone, love knowing that thoughts of me are making them moan, making them cum... god... I'm all tingly thinking about it.. it's been SO long...

Yep..that pretty much sums it up for me!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Phone sex ....

is alluring , tantalizing , sensual , and simply orgasmic.

The sound of this voice, the way his breath begins to slow down, my eyes closed as I imagine him and what he is doing ... the way I can hear him as his body moves... catching my breath and he describes in such detail the things he is doing ... I can see him before me , I can feel his words caressing every inch of my body.


You know ... that is what I would assume phone sex is like ... since I have yet to experience phone sex and all ... *adjusting my halo*

 

[KillerMuffin]

Cybersex in Gnufi-ese is a rush.

Phone sex is terrifying. I just know they're on the other end making fun of me while wearing flannel pjs.

 

[Siren]

now how did ya know I was laughing at ya?

 

[Liontamr]

Vixen put it in a great way! In both cases, the fact the mind gets turned on and simulated before any other body part..

I guess out of the two, I'd rate phone sex much higher in that I don't have to stop every few moments to type and hearing how much pleasure I am giving my partner...

Cybersex is very enjoyable if done right with someone who matches my sex drive and "descrptiveness" ... I've had some awesome partners who not only are great "lovers" but wonderful friends.. Maybe that's where half the pleasure from phone and cyber sex comes.

But of course in the end the real thing is best... But for a guy like me who lives in a town like I do.. Phone and cyber is almost a better option at times.

 

[Pamela]

But of course in the end the real thing is best... But for a guy like me who lives in a town like I do.. Phone and cyber is almost a better option at times.

I hear that!!! Especially a smaller town!!!

BTW...howdy Liontamr! We're neighbours!!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I agree with liontamr... I've had some wonderful cyber partners, where the words being typed sound almost poetic.. I've had partners that would write stories for me, and send them to me, just to make me smile, sigh, or orgasm, and I've done the same. I've had other partners on cyber, though, who are HORRIBLE, and those I hit IGNORE on right away.. you have to brush me the right way to get to cyber with me...

 

[KillerMuffin]

Siren, me love, a chortle-smothering snort does not sound like an orgasm. You cum like a symphony, not like a pig.

 

[Sillyman]

It's interactive, and thus more stimulating than simply reading a dirty book. There is a give and take to it just like sex, and while I would rather have actual sex, it's still more exciting to be with another person even on a limited basis. Plus cybering has some odd advantages. I've gotten up to get water, go to the bathroom, or let the cat out while cybering and not had to worry about interrupting my partner's pleasure.

 

[Throbbin_Rod]

I agree with vixen. Phone sex stimulates the mind before it stimulates the body.

Being able to get somebody off just by what you say to her is an incredible turn-on. And having someone get you off with just their voice can be very satisfying as well.

I've only done phone a couple of times but I loved every minute of it.

 

[Liontamr]

Pamela - Howdy Wish we were neighbours ... then that whole small town thing may not be a problem!

And Vixen, it sounds like you've ran across through the same kind of people I have. To be honest, I have been amazed at times at how selfish a woman can be when it comes to cybering.. For every partner I've had that have helped me to earth shattering orgasms there are about five I've met who are the equivlant of a wood plank.

Of course, those types get left behind quite quickly

 

[t. crown]

I totally agree with Vixen

Some people should just not be allowed to cyber or have phonesex! I mean really, "and we start fucking and I cum" is not a turn-on at all, it's just a waste of my time.
I like a girl who is descriptive and lets me know that she likes what I'm saying. And when she gets loud, oooo damn!! That makes me wanna cum right there.
Phonesex is definitely my preference. Unfortunantly, my phonesex friend moved in with her fiance, so it's been a little difficult to sneak sessions in (breaking an every night habit is hard!)
So yes, there is a LOT of appeal to cyber and especially phonesex.

 

[Siren]

what do ya mean MuffKill?

 

[Siren]

Re: I totally agree with Vixen

 

[t. crown]

My bad

I wrote it, yes, but I did not totally mean it like that. It was simply hyperbole. Everyone should be allowed to cyber and whatnot, I was just trying to emphasize the fact that people who say just that sort of thing do not interest me( and I think most people would agree).

 

[AzureAngel]

I agree with crown on the "Yay, that didn't turn me on" point.

Only phonesex I ever had was one time. I swear to god, I didn't do anything. It was just, "OH OH OH BING! HOW WAS IT FOR YOU I CAME THREE TIMES" "Oh. That's great." It didn't do a lot for me.

And cybering... same sort of deal. I'll tell you what. Please, please.. PLEASE do not shorten words up to "u" or "r" and so on. "i m cumming 4 u oh baby baby ur so hot"

*Twitch. Twitch.*

The appeal to Cybersex or Phonesex is the shared experience. Kind of like mutual masturbation. I wouldn't dare compare it with sex, but it's a lot more exciting than just masturbation alone. I'm sure someone arlready typed this above, but I didn't feel like reading.

 

[Liontamr]

I have to admit sometimes the appeal of it is sheer humor..

Me: *Leaning in.. flicking my tounge over your clit*

Her: OH I'M CUMMING


Swear to god that happened one night on a yahoo chat.. I damn near killed myself laughing!

 

[mistressastra]

The appeal

I have had the best cybering with someone I cared about in some way. We looked to each other's pleasure and when it was finished we talked, like I would want to in bed with my lover. I agree that with a stranger it has small appeal and I too have done other things while typing to the guy. It was just for fun but with that special guy it was more and I didn't even have to think about it. Phone sex is cool with a lover because I like hearing his breathing and the moans from us both get us hotter. Guess when it comes down to it, as in real life, like the other person or forget it!

 

[SexyChele]

I'm not a big fan of cybersex, unless it it is a prelude to phone sex with some I know very well. Well, I also have to admit that I will cyber on occasion if some one interests me, because I like the "power" of getting them off. (I do not "get off" with cyber, though)

I love phone sex, if done with the right person, the right way. Vixen summed it up well. I hate it if a guy calls you, you say 2 sentences, he cums, and hangs up. ICK! No fun!

But if you have come to know a person, have talked with him/her about other things, and find a certain attraction, phone sex can be mentally, emotionally, and physically arousing.

Of course, if I had a S/O, that would far outdo phone sex.

If I were in your situation Shynsexy, with a S/O, I would probably wonder at the attraction of cyber or phone sex myself.

 

[mistressastra]

Was my face red!

Once I was cybering with a friend with whom I had been for awhile. Well, he gave me one of those "lol" thingies while I was going on thinking I was sounding so hot, and stopped thinking he found it funny instead. Turned out he had been reading email and got a funny one. Oh thanks, I am overjoyed you find me so damn hot! I cooled to him after that. At least when you are cybering, stick to the agenda.

 

[WhiteRose]

I'm not a big fan of cybersex, unless it it is a prelude to phone sex with some I know very well.

Ditto. And I don't get off with cybersex either, probably mostly because my computer chair is a stool with wheels...no back or arms and is about the least comfortable piece of furniture I own to sit on.

Phone fantasy though...the only thing that compares (and not always) is physically being in the same room having sex. You get all the wonderfully tantalizing sounds and emotions, but there's still a distance there, and if you do it right, you can use that distance to create an incredibly elaborate "mindfuck".

When you're face to face in the same room, you get all caught up in the physical stuff, which is fine, but when you're forced to be creative with the mind and the voice...that can arouse you even more sometimes. And it leaves you free to explore your wildest fantasies together in a way you can't do face to face because you're too busy dealing with the physical. When you're all hot and bothered and the guy has his hands all over you and vice versa, it's rather difficult to stop and try to set up a fantasy or create a scene that isn't limited by the four walls of your bedroom or wherever you're having sex.

The key is having someone on the other end of the phone who can be as descriptive and as imaginative as you are, and is willing to put in his own fair share regarding time and energy. That's why I wouldn't want to engage in phone fantasy with someone unless we already had a relationship building and knew each other pretty well.

Then there's the physical self-pleasuring. Sometimes you need a little more here or a little more there, and maybe the guy's too impatient or not paying enough attention to your signals, or maybe HE wants a little something different but doesn't want to stop to let you know. When you're pleasuring yourself, you can take all the time you need to do it just right, and there's no fumbling around or having to shift sides or "honey, wait, there's a hair in my mouth". You're both enjoying yourselves AND being together at the same time.

Oh yah, and need I mention no worries about contraception or std's? Phone sex can be the most amazingly wonderful form of SAFE SEX. And you don't have to worry about morning breath either

 

[Nathon_88]

Only done phone sex once.......amazing.......She came twice.....three times? Who counts when you're in so much pleasure.....and the husky tinge in her voice, ohhhhhhhhh.......