Petting?

[Ratty]

Now I am a 21-year-old geeky psychology student and just had my first kiss like a few weeks ago. So I thought why not ask here.

Now my first and current gf are sweet and loving but sometimes she just rather make me feel strange. Now whenever I am at her house she greets me by licking me on the chin and neck, when we get in the living room she forces me in the couch, jumps into my lap and starts to nibble on my ears and neck. Now I hardly mind this, but she insist on me petting her all the time, which I really haw no clue on how to do. And each time I don’t please her enough she pushes me down into the couch places her mouth over my throat and threatens to rip it open (hardly think shed do this lol). Now I generally just pet her like I would my cat, the scratching behind the airs and tickling under the chin, and I haw her cooing in no time. But she gets bored of the same thing over and over, leaving me with the choice of either making her mad at me (which are a really not a pleasant thing to do, since she’s highly aggressive and demanding in a playful innocent sort of way).

Excuse the ranting on every detail but I can’t write anything short of a novel lol.

Now my question is how to properly pet her. She really reminds me of a succubus lol. (and the fact that she always start to lick my wound when I haw cut myself commenting on how sweet my blood is doesn’t really help).

She really scare the blood out of me, but we hawe really found love among echother and as they say love come in the strangest ways

 

[ReadyOne]

I'd like to think that she wants more and different petting but 1) doesn't know how to ask, or 2) is afraid to ask, or 3) requires you to be the agressor.

Yes, I know it sounds like she's agressive, and she is. But she won't do some things that she feels the guy is supposed to do, i. e. esculate the level of sexual contact.

Start kissing her, nibbling on her ear lobes, neck, tickling the inside of her elbows, waist etc. When she starts to get bored, move on. Better yet, move on well before then so that you are teasing her. Think of eating a small desert where you don't get full and the idea of a second helping later on sticks in your brain.

Start rubbing her shouldes, sides, thighs. After she gets excited, she might even like you rubbing her crotch through the oustide of her pants. If you get that far, ask her exactly where the best spot for you to rub is.

If that will turn her on then you can start on the more obvious places like her breasts and the insides of her thighs and start getting direct access to the skin under her top and inside her pants.

Also, you aren't required to be a mind reader. When she isn't pushing you to the couch (like when you're sharing sandwitches) ask her what she likes done to her and what she wants a guy (you) to do.

 

[Ratty]

She knows how to ask, it’s like the conversation we had yesterday which went like this:
Her: You’re so sweet, but need to pet me better *kisses my cheek*
Me: I Am trying.
Her: Try harder… don’t want me to rip your throat open. *Playfully bites my throat*
Me: *scared* No wouldn’t want that….
Her: Good boy. *Smiles affectionately at me*

She really is scary lol. Can’t understand why she choose me, (considering she haw half the university drooling after her, men and women alike). Probably the way I was always avoiding her acting like she was some sort of plague ridden walking corpse lol. (Newer tough women found that attractive). Uh… but here I am starting to rant about nothing again…

I’m going to try the methods, She always said I gave a wonderful massage. Hmmm…. Her roommate said gf likes to be petted like a cat, (worst part is I often pet both the roommate and gf). I used the way I pet my cat, but its all the much I know maybe I should try and pick up a cat petting book if I can find one. Going to try your advice tomorrow, She is inviting another friend over, dreading to find out how they going to torment me on the fact that I am a virgin this time, was a nightmare the last time. (Making me look at them while teasing each other while I am only allowed to pet them are a nightmare for a 21 year old virgin with hormones that’ are about to explode).

 

[timmaah]

Location: In the cold lands of fjords, vikings and trolls.


you hooked a good one there...

 

[Ratty]

I prefer to think of her more like a succubus then a troll. (Trolls bring up nasty images in my mind lol). Actually come to think of it she likes being called succubus *grins*

 

[Ratty]

Ah well any more advice from the nice folk at lit?

I’m taking anything I can find, as I certainly want to keep my gf pleased

 

[Hairgrip]

you can pet her on the outside.... but maybe she wants what is hidden to be petted too????


pm me

Hx

 

[SexyChele]

I would be more concerned about you being afraid of her and her seeming scary to you. Love can be found in strange places, yes, but not scary ones. I think your hormones are raging just a bit too much.

Or the trolls at your locations are beginning to speak for you.

 

[bobsgirl]

I would be more concerned about you being afraid of her and her seeming scary to you. Love can be found in strange places, yes, but not scary ones. I think your hormones are raging just a bit too much.

Or the trolls at your locations are beginning to speak for you.

I agree. You sound not entirely comfortable with where she is trying to lead you. Is she a lot more experienced than you?

 

[Guest]

Now I am a 21-year-old geeky psychology student and just had my first kiss like a few weeks ago. So I thought why not ask here.

Now my first and current gf are sweet and loving but sometimes she just rather make me feel strange. Now whenever I am at her house she greets me by licking me on the chin and neck, when we get in the living room she forces me in the couch, jumps into my lap and starts to nibble on my ears and neck. Now I hardly mind this, but she insist on me petting her all the time, which I really haw no clue on how to do. And each time I don’t please her enough she pushes me down into the couch places her mouth over my throat and threatens to rip it open (hardly think shed do this lol). Now I generally just pet her like I would my cat, the scratching behind the airs and tickling under the chin, and I haw her cooing in no time. But she gets bored of the same thing over and over, leaving me with the choice of either making her mad at me (which are a really not a pleasant thing to do, since she’s highly aggressive and demanding in a playful innocent sort of way).

Excuse the ranting on every detail but I can’t write anything short of a novel lol.

Now my question is how to properly pet her. She really reminds me of a succubus lol. (and the fact that she always start to lick my wound when I haw cut myself commenting on how sweet my blood is doesn’t really help).

She really scare the blood out of me, but we hawe really found love among echother and as they say love come in the strangest ways

not trying to be facetious here but the first thing that came out was.. *thump thump ( foot hitting the floor ) *woof!*

 

[Guest]

I would be more concerned about you being afraid of her and her seeming scary to you. Love can be found in strange places, yes, but not scary ones. I think your hormones are raging just a bit too much.

Or the trolls at your locations are beginning to speak for you.

She seems very aggressive ... and if you feel strange or uncomfortable tell her nicely to slow down or back off.

 

[Ratty]

I would be more concerned about you being afraid of her and her seeming scary to you. Love can be found in strange places, yes, but not scary ones. I think your hormones are raging just a bit too much.

Or the trolls at your locations are beginning to speak for you.

Actually I love every minute of it. (And she darned well knows it lol). And I believe weave found love, stupid to say I know considering we’ve only been together a few weeks, And she does scare the heck out of me, but in a good way. She always does it in her own cute, playful way.

 

[Ratty]

I agree. You sound not entirely comfortable with where she is trying to lead you. Is she a lot more experienced than you?

Well actually she’s 22 making her 1-year-older then me. And I think she has had more experience, considering she haw half the university drooling after her. I don’t know there’s something terrible attractive about a raven-haired raven eyed, Asian beauty reaching you to the shoulder. Now to try and make her stop licking my wounds all the time. Wont even allow me to put on a Bandage until she’s licked it dry *sights* (good thing I haw had a medical stating me disease free lol).

 

[Ratty]

She seems very aggressive ... and if you feel strange or uncomfortable tell her nicely to slow down or back off.

I hardly think she goes to fast; she always stops if she sees me being ready to scream for help lol.
Off course I feel strange, up until a few weeks ago, a woman trying to hit on me would haw seen me running the fastest I could the other way (almost the entire university thought I was gay). Actually the events leading me to her were pretty much my friends forcing me there (thanks Sarge, thanks Elf). Don’t think ill leave. She even lets me sleep on a matt next to her bed, says she likes to haw me were she can get me

 

[Ratty]

And considering this, we still haven’t had sex lol. All dough she does make a point out of kissing her room mate making me wish she did it too me, she kisses me, but only in the you belong to me and now one else sort of way. She’s highly protective, this woman tried to sell me sex this other day, and she growled so loud there wasn’t a human in a 4 metre radius around us. makes me wonder if she is human at all.

 

[ReadyOne]

On second tohught, I think she's teasing and no matter what happens, you are going to end up one very frustrated guy.

Get what experience you can, then run! Hopefully before she dumps you...

 

[Ratty]

Yeah she dumping me would hardly come as a surprise lol. All dough as long as my best friends continue to force me in her company, how can I refuse (especially since sarge would haw my head if I did). They set the whole thing up so if she dumps me it’ll be their fault.

And besides, she introduced me to fencing (always wanted to try that). Showed me a great coffee bar. And helped me get over my general fear of women. And a lot of other things, so if she dumps me I won’t lack things to do.

 

[Cakegirl]

Her roommate said gf likes to be petted like a cat, (worst part is I often pet both the roommate and gf). I used the way I pet my cat, but its all the much I know maybe I should try and pick up a cat petting book if I can find one.

The only thing that I'd suggest - cats like to be petted repetitively, wheras if someone strokes me with the same stroke over and over in the same place, it starts to feel like sandpaper VERY quickly! I'd recommend changing the location, the pace, the pressure, the speed, the length, the direction, everything, often!

~Cakegirl