personal dares

[laurel-marie]

Ever get an idea to do something that is absolutely 'not you' ? It is an idea soully your own and for your own growth/enjoyment/proving ground? It becomes almost a dare to yourself, one that toys with your mind...making you bounce back and forth with the idea, until you just take the leap and go for it. It could be anything from a radical new look(hairstyle, wardrob change) to something more challenging such as going back to school. No matter what, to achieve this 'dare', you will be stepping outside your personal box, doing something you didn't think you could do but proving yourself wrong.

Anyone?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Already did the going back to school thing and made it harder on myself by deciding to not only do it in regular school with regular teenagers when I was already in my late 30's, but also declining the offer to take less subjects and get the same piece of paper because that was what adult students could do. Just didn't seem fair to me. Out of about 30 mature age students that started the same time, I was the only one to stick with it to the end despite ill health, problems with kids, and financial crisis...and then move on to university and get my degree. I have never regretted it for a moment as it was the beginning of many good things and changes in my life simply because it showed me I could do anything I set my mind to, no matter what obstacles were thrown my way.

Catalina

 

[vogueboy]

Yeah, changing my career to something totally opposite. None of my 'friends' and family supported me except my Ex GF. I am now very happy in what I do and I have a new circle of friends.

My next stretch, Forgiving my father for physically abusing me and my mom for sexually abusing me, that's going to be a HUGE step for me to take, especially when they're both in denial of it. Anyways... Onward and upward...

 

[rosco rathbone]

My next stretch, Forgiving my father for physically abusing me and my mom for sexually abusing me, that's going to be a HUGE step for me to take, especially when they're both in denial of it. Anyways... Onward and upward...

You are a better man than I; that's all I can say.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I guess a further challenge and thing totally out of character for me to go through with was to agree to marriage before we met, then actually doing it 2 weeks after our meeting and the first day it was legally possible....and then selling my home and packing up to move to the opposite side of the world. Once again it is something I have never regretted, but I know some are almost 3 years later still coming to terms I actually did something so unlike me and it is still the topic of discussion for many back home.

Catalina

 

[curiousjen]

I am starting my training to become an occupational therapist in September.

I know nothing about science which is a large part of the course, and it meant accepting the fact that I will be getting into a huge amount of debt to pay the course fees etc. I am terrified, but dared myself to do it because i had fallen in love with the job during my stay in the psych ward a couple of years ago. I don't remember much of that time, but I do remember being struck by what an interesting and important job it was, and the fact that the occupational therapists seemed to be "on our side", rather than the doctors and psychiatrists who all seemed like the enemy at times.

Two years later, and now I'm fully recovered i decided to apply for training. The interviews were rigorous and terrifying, but I got offered a place and like I said, I begin in September. The three years ahead of me whilst I train will be full of challenges, but I told my self to do it, so I will!

 

[laurel-marie]

The biggest personal dare was to go against my parents and attend college. They were of the thinking, young girls did not go to college. It was the first time I did something not outlined by them and pretty much total disregard for their wants. When it came time to tell them, I was shaking so much, but no matter how much they tried to convince me I was wasting my money and my future(dark age thinking) I didn't back down. Turned out to be one of the best steps I took. Gave me some self confidence. I learned how to make my own decissions. I grew up.


On a much smaller scale, about a year and a half ago, I was going through a major personal growth/discovery period when I saw an add in the phonebook for intimate photos. After checking out the website and seeing this man's work, I wanted to do it but scared just thinking about it. After 2 months of talking with the photographer, visiting his studio, and backing out countless times...I decided to either do it or throw away the infomation...I did it. What made it so hard was I had never been naked before a man other then my husband in my life. I am so glad I did it, not only was it fun(almost addictive) but I got to see myself as a woman (something I was just begining to realize).

 

[rosco rathbone]

Pics thread, oral-marie.

 

[laurel-marie]

Pics thread, oral-marie.

giggle
You're a tease Mr. Rosco.

 

[rosco rathbone]

giggle
You're a tease Mr. Rosco.

You know you want to. Send them to me and I will crop your face out-to preserve modesty.

 

[laurel-marie]

You know you want to. Send them to me and I will crop your face out-to preserve modesty.

You dont play fair...taunting me like that.
Not going to work though, just cannot do it

 

[rosco rathbone]

You dont play fair...taunting me like that.
Not going to work though, just cannot do it

hehe i DARE you.

 

[Little Bird]

I was the very first guy at school who let his hair grow long. The first months really EVERYONE mad silly jokes about my pony-tail but one year later almost every guy there had long hair or was growing...

I was never one of the popular guys at school, nothing could be much more far from the truth, but I think I set more trends than anyone else.
I think had I found to gothic one year earlyer, it would have become a trend to.
Hm, but apparently it has become so even without my help. The numbers of would-be-gothics and "gothic-musik" in the charts was almost exploding, but as trends are they are mostly gone after three months or less...

 

[laurel-marie]

And just how is one suppose to make a pic thread AND preseve modesty...hmmmmmm?

Why am I even trying to figure this out......
Nope.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Why am I even trying to figure this out......

I know the idea is stuck in your head now.

 

[laurel-marie]

I know the idea is stuck in your head now.

Oh, shut up

 

[Little Bird]

A REALLY daring thing I did, that is totaly different from everything I ever belived in is getting a fucking-buddy.
I was ever assured, that I would one day find the right one and stay with her for all my life. I think most people are either giving up to early when things get compicated or get into a relationship with someone they don't really know and later realize that it's not the right one for them.
Now I met this girl and I really like her. I really like her but I'm quite sure I could not become a full part of her life, with meeting her friends or to go out with them. I know I don't love her and that we would not stay together for long if we tried, but when she tried to seduce me I know I really wanted, and still want, to share our dreams, desires and passion with her.

I really don't know where it will end and I'm quite sure it will be a tearfull end, but I think I will not regret it.

 

[shy slave]

Every time I change my job I get comments (I change it alot),

As for personal dares.
After my husband and I split i dared myself to be honest with men about what I wanted sexually. The result was a vanilla man recognised what I wanted had a name and found Lit (and other sites) for me.

My next personal dare was posting on here, then joining alt.

After he and I split earlier this year, and i realised I missed what I thought I had, not what I actually had.
That was a painful thing to come to terms with. He had been my first 'proper' D/s relationship and his rejection hurt. I know Desdemonas advice was tongue in cheek but it was good advice (I know it hurts, but go get yourself another. He's just a man and they're making more of them every single day )

This culminated in my decision to be someone else, someone who is NOT me, and learn to flirt and take chances during April.

Ok, dolf was my main on and off line flirting teacher
and I did a couple of really dumb things in terms of safety in just one and half weeks (and dolf did NOT approve or tell me it was a good thing to do) ~ meeting someone I had never met and going to his house (I know, please don't tell me just how stupid that was), actually we ended up talking about history, not playing, but i shudder to think what could have happened.

After almost two weeks of being a flirt and a tease I had experienced enough to know it was fun but way way too scary for me. lol

As part of my bravery in April I also dared myself to respond to an ad on alt.
That has turned out to be an amazing thing to have happened from daring myself.

The man I emailed lives in Europe, and he's is clever, witty, fun, sadistic (but so nice and polite about it), Dominating, controlling and seems to cope ok with me being...well, me.
He has been over here and I have been to see him.
He will be over in UK again next week so if i am not around much you will understand why

 

[curiousjen]

Every time I change my job I get comments (I change it alot),

As for personal dares.
After my husband and I split i dared myslef to be honest with men about what I wanted sexually. The result was a vanilla man recognised what I wanted had a name and found Lit (and other sites) for me.

My next personal dare was posting on here, then joining alt.

After he and I split earlier this year, and i realised I missed what I thought I had, not what I actually had.
That was a painful thing to come to terms with. He had been my first 'proper' D/s relationship and his rejection hurt. I know Desdemonas advice was tongue in cheek but it was good advice (I know it hurts, but go get yourself another. He's just a man and they're making more of them every single day )

This culminated in my decision to be someone else, someone who is NOT me, and learn to flirt and take chances during April.

Ok, dolf was my main on and off line flirting teacher
and I did a couple of really dumb things in terms of safety in just one and half weeks (and dolf did NOT approve or tell me it was a good thing to do) ~ meeting someone I had never met and going to his house (I know, please don't tell me just how stupid that was), actually we ended up talking about history, not playing, but i shudder to think what could have happened.

After almost two weeks of being a flirt and a tease I had experienced enough to know it was fun but way way too scary for me. lol

As part of my bravery in April I also dared myself to respond to an ad on alt.
That has turned out to be an amazing thing to have happened from daring myself.

The man I emailed lives in Europe, and he's is clever, witty, fun, sadistic (but so nice and polite about it), Dominating, controlling and seems to cope ok with me being...well, me.
He has been over here and I have been to see him.
He will be over in UK again next week so if i am not around much you will understand why

Excellent news shy slave. It really is true...she who dares wins!

 

[laurel-marie]

I guess a further challenge and thing totally out of character for me to go through with was to agree to marriage before we met, then actually doing it 2 weeks after our meeting and the first day it was legally possible....and then selling my home and packing up to move to the opposite side of the world. Once again it is something I have never regretted, but I know some are almost 3 years later still coming to terms I actually did something so unlike me and it is still the topic of discussion for many back home.

Catalina

This is amazing.
How long did you know him before you agreed to marriage?

 

[catalina_francisco]

This is amazing.
How long did you know him before you agreed to marriage?

Wasn't long...we first made online contact in April 2002 and met and married in August 2002. Totally out of character for both of us but we both agree it was just meant to be.

Catalina