Perfume

[Whispersecret]

I adore smelling a man who wears cologne.

I wear perfume because I like it. (I wear "Happy" by Clinique.)

I think that some perfumes are just overpoweringly cloying by nature. My mother-in-law likes some fragrance that gives me a headache every time.

 

[Diane Marie]

I’m assuming that you mean body scented products not just perfume. Perfume is just one form of body scent, in most cases the purest and strongest form of any one scent.

I can’t say I know why some women and men do as you described BigTaxen. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding of the proper use of body scent or maybe it’s the current trend of advice by the so called experts. Layering your scent, starting with a bath gel, then lotion, then talc, finally ending up with the perfume, all in the same scent of course. This works just fine with some of the more expensive brands, as each product is very lightly scented, aside from the perfume, which is always intended to be used sparingly. Or maybe it’s the current trend to scent your hair, that is suppose to be done with a light scent, but putting perfume on your fingers then running them through your hair has a tendency to over do things a bit.

Maybe it is the use of only one scent, over time your nose adjusts to that one scent causing you to feel the need to apply more with each use. That isn’t a real problem if you don’t wear scent often but if you wear it daily over time you’ll need more and more just to smell it yourself. I tend to wear some kind of body scented product everyday, so I switch at least every other day. For daily use I prefer a lotion over perfume or cologne.

I do tend to think it’s a misunderstanding of the use of body scent. Scent should be considered one of the most personal messages we send to others. If you prefer a natural scent please heed this also, I, for one, do not find it pleasurable being near to someone who stinks, worse yet a heavy smoker, being an ex-smoker I do tend to over look this as I’m sure others did for me. It should be a subtle message, no one outside of what we consider our personal space, about the length of your arm, should be effected by that message.

Wildsweetone is correct spraying a cologne then walking through the mist is a good way to apply that product. Of course for a good perfume that most likely would be to much scent, also it could get rather expensive. In my opinion the best way to apply cologne or perfume is to one of the pulse points of your body, major ones are wrists, inside of you elbows, back of your knees, inside of your ankles or your neck near to your ear. Check each of these areas you’ll feel your pulse. Just a touch you won’t need more then that. Your absolutely right deliciously_naughty rubbing the wrist together is a no, no, it crushes the layering of the perfume, whatever that means. All I know is it changes the smell. Oh my, I almost forgot the most important thing, always apply perfumes or colognes before you get dressed, the material in clothing can change the fragrance. One other comment, if your going out for a special evening don’t mix scents, let your perfume speak, everything else should be unscented.

Madame Manga, as far as your comment, "American women don't like to be smelly, and some take it to extremes," try spending an hour trapped on a cramped bus in London or Paris. A lot to be said for a daily shower! As far as a person’s body odor, it can be very stimulating but I don’t want to be intimate with a woman or a man who doesn’t have good hygiene.

As far as your question about where do they get these odors (fragrances), its Leslie. All of the really good perfumes use natural ingredients, the best use flowers. It’s in the type of flower and the amounts of each used that gives a perfume it’s unique smell. France is known for it’s perfumes, what it’s not known for it it’s beautiful flower plantations, almost worth a visit just to see them at the right time of year.

Maybe Chicklet the reason you don’t like perfume is that your personal body chemistry doesn’t work well with commercial products. If that is the case you can create your own perfume, there are perfume boutiques just for this purpose. It can be a lot of fun creating something that is uniquely you.

Obviously I love to smell nice, so shoot me, I even love men and other women to smell nice. I hate after shave, they don’t seem masculine to me, they just stink. I do love Pleasure on a man. As far as that natural crotch smell of a man, that’s fine if he’s showered. I don’t find a man’s crotch so fragrant, if he’s worked hard, perspired a lot and hasn’t showered all day long.

 

[Ulyssa]

I curtsy humbly to our walking encyclopedia of perfumery [perflummery?]--I learned so much about a subject which has always ben a sort of seat of the pants experience.

Applying to pulse points is favored over applying to the seat of one's pants.

I wear "children's gift" by last Christmas.

Good job, Diane Marie

 

[Pookie]

Diane
What a great post!

I look at perfume the same way I do makeup. It should be subtle. If someone notices your makeup from a distance, you obviously have used too much. The same goes with perfume. It should enhance, but not overwhelm. Just the right touch of perfume and makeup can really accent your beauty ... it can't be your beauty though.

 

[PaulX35]

You're not alone!

scents smell differently during the various stages of a woman's menstrual cycle, hence the changes in amounts splashed on the body.

the woman wearing the scent can tell the difference in the smell, and the people around her can tell the difference (especially other women).

Wildsweetone,

I have a very sensitive smell, and believe me, I can smell it too, even when I hardly ever admit doing so. I've left a few girls shy in earlier days
Personally I don't really get why people cover themselves with all sort of extra scents. A nicely showered human body smells beautiful, intriguing and very personal. Our culture has sort of stepped away from appreciating that, which I - as a "smeller"- regret a lot. Is there anything wrong with being able to smell a woman has her period? To me it's the most natural thing there is, including the scents that come with it.
Scents drive a person more than he/she is often inclined to believe. And the best drives come from natural, personal scents. Goes for females and males btw: there's more to the male body than Al Bundy's feet!

Throw away those perfumes: let there be body scents again. Excited bodies, sleepy bodies, fresh sweaty bodies. Feet, thighs, armpits, breasts, necks, pussies and cocks. All different scents. Live with them, and enjoy

*sniff*sniff*
Paul

PS THE book for "smellers" is Patrick Susskind's "Das Parfum" , (The Perfume). Was that ever published in English? If it was: a MUST

 

[wildsweetone]

personally, i blame the media...

If it's not diets and slimming, or the latest clothes, or accessories that they're advertising, then it's perfume. Media pressure is constant and without realising it, it's in our faces every day of our lives.

Half the trouble is that advertising gives the impression that a woman (or man if you count the deodorant ads) is going to be way more sexy by purchasing the latest scent, or designer outfit.

Never mind that the scent is going to smell like you just drowned in it (along with half a dozen rats), nor that the designer outfit actually looks better on an 18 year old that hasn't had kids yet...

Being simply your own self and being accepted as such is a wonderful gift that brings out the sensual 'you' in a natural way.

 

[Diane Marie]

Re: personally, i blame the media...

If it's not diets and slimming, or the latest clothes, or accessories that they're advertising, then it's perfume. Media pressure is constant and without realising it, it's in our faces every day of our lives.

I think wildsweetone, this all depends on your point of view. Does the media use advertisements to create a demand or do they use advertisements to capitalize on a demand that already exists. My belief is that most of the time it’s to capitalize on a demand. Both perfume and makeup have existed long before media.

As for body scented products I think it’s demanded by both sexes. Makeup more so for us women only. Clothing come on, we demand, we want to have something new. Yes we all say we wish we could wear last years fashions, while at the same time trying on a new dress.

I do agree, media portrays certain products in a light that tries to make us belief it well enhance our desirability, but we do have a brain, no one forces us to accept any add as fact!

 

[wildsweetone]

Re: Re: personally, i blame the media...

I think wildsweetone, this all depends on your point of view. Does the media use advertisements to create a demand or do they use advertisements to capitalize on a demand that already exists. My belief is that most of the time it’s to capitalize on a demand. Both perfume and makeup have existed long before media.

As for body scented products I think it’s demanded by both sexes. Makeup more so for us women only. Clothing come on, we demand, we want to have something new. Yes we all say we wish we could wear last years fashions, while at the same time trying on a new dress.

I do agree, media portrays certain products in a light that tries to make us belief it well enhance our desirability, but we do have a brain, no one forces us to accept any add as fact!

you're right of course... the Egyptians used clay and kohl... actually i think clay is still used in some makeup bases... think i read that somewhere.

however, a baby does not come into this world demanding makeup or fashionable clothes, or perfume. right? peer pressure and media see to it that we are conditioned to expect such needs.

 

[Pookie]

I think for the most part it is peer pressure. The media feeds off of that as well for their own gain.

 

[sirhugs]

Re: i resemble that remark

sirhugs-

I am crushed... I have both of the latter and am meticulous to NEVER be guilty of the former.

Please don't condemn those of us from the Irish gene pool...

-b

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being part Irish myself ( according to my Uncle the whiskey drinker), I would never dis the Irish.

The absence of excessive scent excludes you from the stereotype- my knock was on women who go out of there way to make up for teeny self-esteem by opersonal choices that scream.

btw- " big hair" meand Dolly Parton, not just lots of hair.

 

[its Leslie]

The best perfume in existence is called "confidence".

Nothing is more attractive than the smell of confidence.

With confidence you can accomplish what others would consider impossible.

The best way to get what you want is to smile and know its all just a matter of being confident.

Seems to work for me at least. And after 40 years of getting what I want with little or no effort, you won't have much success proving me wrong

 

[TheEarl]

I think makeup would exist without advertising. Women all round the world have been and always will be conscious of how they look compared to others. A lot of women will always try and improve their standing among the others.

The marketing has just capitalised on a basic human desire IMO: to make yourself more beautiful.

The Earl

 

[Angeline]

Perfume Ugh

It almost always gives me a headache. Being an urban type, I have oft known the sensory overload that comes from being trapped on an elevator with perfumey people (of either sex). Sometimes, if the scent is strong enough, it can make me queasy.

And whatever your scent (and natural clean person smell is good), I don't think someone should be able to detect it at 50 yards! Having to get very close to someone to smell them is sexy.

And Leslie I'm with you--heavy makeup is also icky.

 

[TheEarl]

If you see a women with excess warpaint, then you do tend to wonder what she's trying to hide.

The Earl

 

[Angeline]

Hidden Truth

Earl, I believe Britney Spears may be the living example of your hypothesis.

 

[TheEarl]

Unfortunately Jennifer Lopez is the exception that proves the rule. She covers herself in makeup, but is still classically beautiful without any at all.

She's not my type however.

The (very picky) Earl

 

[Diane Marie]

The marketing has just capitalised on a basic human desire IMO: to make yourself more beautiful.The Earl

Don’t forget younger, hun. That is unless your younger, which I’m not! At the present looking younger is the direction marketing has taken for us women. It’s a logical approach, none of us want to look older, at least not in a youth culture.

 

[its Leslie]

It is logical to assume that the sexes are competitive.

I am looking at a recent issue of Maclean's which features an article on the increasing habit of men preening themselves.

But part of it is vanity, part of it is the need to bolster confidence.

I don't want my women smelling other than she should, so I want a woman with zero perfume myself.

I wear deoderant only when I am active enough to be smelly. Then again, if I get smelly I go and have a bath and remove the smell rather than hide it.
I would rather not inhibit my body's method of removing toxins actually. So I have no desire to NOT sweat.

I get so disgusted looking at how men and women are altering themselves to look cosmetically "pretty".

Want to get me horny, be yourself and smile genuinely. If there is any magic possible, you won't need perfume or make up.
Act confident, demonstrate you have a functioning brain, and be yourself.

Nothing pisses me off more than shallow people, that can't be ordinary honest open human beings.

There are a few women on this planet I would gladly die for, and they all know it, and they all know they will never measure up to society's ideals of "beauty". But they know I love them exactly as they are.

 

[TheEarl]

Diane Marie: I think the desire to look younger is a natural thing, rather than impinged by a youth culture. It's the whole denial of mortality thing.

Has anyone else noticed how unfair aging is? Men get distinguished and Sean Connery-esque and women just get old.

The Earl

 

[Octavian]

Deodorants

I remember a spoof about a new concept in deodorants. Apparently all it did was to render the wearer invisible, there was no intent to deal with the body odour.

It had a little jingle which went like this:

Face the world with great aplomb
Everyone will wonder where the smell comes from!

 

[wildsweetone]

confidence, inner beauty, accepting yourself for what you are, being accepted as you are...

yes, all those things bring out the natural beauty and transform one. they distinguish the need or requirement to falsify oneself.

now... if we could just find the right people to bring it out of us.

 

[Guest]

ooh la la

I agree with Whispersecret... a man, appropriately cologned gets my motor running...

Snuggling up under his chin and inhaling his scent... I'm gone...

Fortunately for my marriage, the only man I get that close to now is my husband... ... He has a strong aversion to wearing scents. I know he is really ready to go when he actually wears the cologne I bought him.

Wife repellent: mexican food for lunch... when he smells of garlic when he walks through the door, it's going to be a lonely night.

I am totally grossed out by smelling a woman's cycle. Deoderant feminine products just tell me that a woman needs to see her gynecologist.