Perfect soulmate?

[BucksMaster]

What type of person would make your perfect soulmate?

For me it would be a BBW lady over 40,vanilla in aspects of her life except when she shows her mild submissive side on all matters sexual.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BucksMaster]

hello, I'm Elle, and pretty close to your description but taken.

Well he is a very lucky guy then,make sure you tell him that every day

 

[SquirtnBrat]

Concept of Soulmates...

I don't buy it. I think there are numerous people on this planet I could be perfectly content being with. I don't believe in the concept of monogamy.
I have a friend in particular who is very single and whines constantly about her search for her soulmate. She is so busy checking off a mental list of "must have traits" that she has missed out on meeting some really great men. One guy she talked to online for months, they clicked well and went on several dates. She ended up pushing him away because he had two dogs. I asked her wasn't that a good thing? He is responsible, compassionate, and mature. She just saw it as him always having someone else to go home to and not able to give her 100%. I was stumped to say the least.
It is refreshing though to see your post included personality traits. Not just "bbw brunette, nice ass, green eyes, size 12& 36f, and able to cook."
I wish you the best on your search!!

 

[BucksMaster]

I don't buy it. I think there are numerous people on this planet I could be perfectly content being with. I don't believe in the concept of monogamy.
I have a friend in particular who is very single and whines constantly about her search for her soulmate. She is so busy checking off a mental list of "must have traits" that she has missed out on meeting some really great men. One guy she talked to online for months, they clicked well and went on several dates. She ended up pushing him away because he had two dogs. I asked her wasn't that a good thing? He is responsible, compassionate, and mature. She just saw it as him always having someone else to go home to and not able to give her 100%. I was stumped to say the least.
It is refreshing though to see your post included personality traits. Not just "bbw brunette, nice ass, green eyes, size 12& 36f, and able to cook."
I wish you the best on your search!!

"Able to cook"? You would never see a post of mine say that.I believe a women's place is in the bedroom,not the kitchen.A man's place too,for that matter.Spending time cooking is overrated.

 

[tishadomina]

I too, agree with Squirtnbrat - although, at least in my present relationship, I am monogamous. I agree that there is no such thing as the 'perfect' soulmate however.

 

[SquirtnBrat]

Agreed.
I love baking, but would rather be outside gardening picking my food from the earth.

 

[BucksMaster]

I too, agree with Squirtnbrat - although, at least in my present relationship, I am monogamous. I agree that there is no such thing as the 'perfect' soulmate however.

I understand your perspective ,but I guess it depends on your definition of "perfect".One definition would be 'as good as it possibly could be'.I'm content that,for me,the hypothetical woman as described in my OP is "perfect".No need to have even watched Master Chef either

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

It's a tough question.

For me, it always seems to come back to one thing.

I think if my coach would've put me in in the fourth quarter, we’d have been state champions. No doubt. No doubt in my mind. You better believe things had been different. I’d have gone pro in a heartbeat. I’d be making millions of dollars and living in a big old mansion somewhere, soaking it up in a hot tub with my soulmate.

 

[desertslave]

I think we, as humans, are imperfect even on our best days. But, after a few trials-by-fire I would venture that my Master is probably as close to perfect as I might hope, and more than I deserve.

 

[MeekMe]

I think we, as humans, are imperfect even on our best days. But, after a few trials-by-fire I would venture that my Master is probably as close to perfect as I might hope, and more than I deserve.

This kind of sums it up for me. My husband is probably the best person for me in terms of balance. We compliment each other well.

 

[CutieMouse]

I've said for years now that the sort of man who genuinely WANTS a woman like me doesn't exist. Women like me just don't get to have that.

Except that I've recently discovered that there are men out there who want a woman like me, and I do get to have that. Which has been a bit mind-blowing... except that if anyone were to ask me for a laundry list of qualities and characteristics the ideal partner [to myself] would have, I'd have no idea what to say because right now all I can say is "I don't know... it just works."

 

[Que]

I've said for years now that the sort of man who genuinely WANTS a woman like me doesn't exist. Women like me just don't get to have that.

Except that I've recently discovered that there are men out there who want a woman like me, and I do get to have that. Which has been a bit mind-blowing... except that if anyone were to ask me for a laundry list of qualities and characteristics the ideal partner [to myself] would have, I'd have no idea what to say because right now all I can say is "I don't know... it just works."

Being wanted with a high level of intensity tends to make that person seem a good fit, regardless of preconceived preferences.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BucksMaster]

For me,a perfect soulmate doesn't mean that everything in the relationship goes swimmingly well at all times.That would be incredibly boring for a start,including the sex!

Perhaps if I re-phrased it to "ideal soulmate" then that would make it an easier question to answer?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BucksMaster]

Your phrasing is fine, it provides discussion point at least.

Soulmate raises as much dissent in the discussion,

It does indeed,nothing wrong with a bit of debate on a forum though,of course

 

[thelaughingcat]

While I don't believe in an ideal or perfect soulmate, I think balance is important. Finding someone who emotionally balances you out and you in turn balance. I also think a shared wish for the future is also important...you have to both be singing from the same hymn sheet or you'll both end up pulling in different directions. Thus resentment sets in and it all falls apart.

For me, that equates to someone relaxed, open minded, quiet, perennially silly, patient (scratch that, very patient!), willing to listen, openly affectionate and liberal. And able to put up with my gaming. Though that last one is more a bonus!

I'm quite lucky to have found someone who makes all the good bits of me better and balances the not-so-good bits of me. And makes me both smile and shiver to boot

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[daddysbaby150]

While I don't believe in soulmates, I have been fortunate to meet a few beautiful men that touched my soul. There is no rhyme or reason to the connection, just an instant intensity and I knew they would forever change me.

 

[All_4_Love]

Mmm...soulmates. One of my very favorite things, as I do believe in them with all of my heart. I believe that we can have many in our lifetime, some of them being relationships that we actually choose to forgo for one reason or another, either consciously or subconsciously, or even something as simple as a brief chance encounter.

A soulmate is not the ideal partner possessing ideal characteristics, nor is it based on the specifics of how they live their life in comparison to yours. It is not a flawless relationship, as there is no such thing as a flawless human being. It is simply an unexplainable yet powerful connection. Perhaps, a mixture of both chemistry and familiarity.

When the two meet and mutually decide to enter a relationship, it is not all roses, but also many thorns. But they both bring an awareness with them, which continues to grow with each other. When problems arise, there is a willingness to delve deeper and deeper, to help each other become the best version of themselves and strengthen their bond. It is a connection of the mind, heart, body, and soul. Blessed are those who experience it, both in friendships and romantic relationships.

 

[Donnacdme69]

They dwell among us

I do believe in soul mates and was lucky enough to be married to mine for almost 25 years, until cancer took her from me. We did almost everything together, both my hobbies and hers and loved them all. Sex was amazing as we were both switches so there was no worries about being dominant or submissive it just came naturally sometimes we would make love 4 or 5 times just so we could fit all of our kinks in. I wish I could find someone like her again. I gravitate towards women but a man wouldn't be out of the question. Just know that your soul mate is out there and with any luck you will get to meet them someday.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I've said for years now that the sort of man who genuinely WANTS a woman like me doesn't exist. Women like me just don't get to have that.

Except that I've recently discovered that there are men out there who want a woman like me, and I do get to have that. Which has been a bit mind-blowing... except that if anyone were to ask me for a laundry list of qualities and characteristics the ideal partner [to myself] would have, I'd have no idea what to say because right now all I can say is "I don't know... it just works."

Yes, it's hard to make a laundry list and I think excessive laudry list writing does tend to make people miss out like SquirtinBrat talked about.

Spending time together and seeing if it works out seems like the best approach for me at least. I do think the people involved need to know themselves and their needs though.

Being wanted with a high level of intensity tends to make that person seem a good fit, regardless of preconceived preferences.

Yes, there's that too.

Mmm...soulmates. One of my very favorite things, as I do believe in them with all of my heart. I believe that we can have many in our lifetime, some of them being relationships that we actually choose to forgo for one reason or another, either consciously or subconsciously, or even something as simple as a brief chance encounter.

Yes, this.

 

[CutieMouse]

Yes, it's hard to make a laundry list and I think excessive laudry list writing does tend to make people miss out like SquirtinBrat.

Thinking a bit more, I'm not sure there are "soulmates" in the idealized, c19 literature sort of way... Or maybe that concept just pushes every.single.one of my "dearjeebus; the pressure!" buttons.

Rather than believe in (y'all have no idea how hard it was to not type "buy into" lol) the SOULMATE [echo... echo... echo...], I'm more likely to believe in recognizing when someone (or some situation) simply works. The trick, for me at least, is reminding my brain to shutthefuckupandstopworrying when that happens.