Past sex

[CreamyLady]

I have several experiences I wish I had never had, starting with my first time, and my first lover. It was so gruesome, and he was such a -- well, there's nothing bad enough to call him.

I've only really been in love twice, and each time I've managed to make love, so that isn't a regret. However, a few lusts . . . nah. If they were meant to be, they would have happened.

 

[Shannon]

Has anyone had a past sexually experience that they wish that had not done?? Is there anyone former love that you wish you did have sex with?? Just think about how different your life could be if you answer yes to either question.

 

[Siren]

 

[Weird Harold]

Siren, I think Shannon was looking for a few more prurient details. <G>

As for me:

I regret getting involved with my first wife. I was a Damn Fool Kid and and that marriage was one of the worst mistakes of my life.

There are literally thousands of women I wish had gotten to the point of being lovers.

No, wait a minute. You asked about formerloves we wished we had sex with. Not formerlusts. Nope, no loves I missed having sex with. Lots of unrequited lusts though.


[This message has been edited by Weird Harold (edited 06-16-2000).]

 

[Siren]

 

[Sammyjo]

Ummm...there are a few men I could just as well forget...but I wouldn't say I was in love with them.

There are a few guys I would have liked to know better.

 

[Guest]

Yes, there are people I wish I hadn't gotten involved with. There was a time in my life when I was meeting men more or less just for sex. I had a few one night stands, some where my "fault" and some weren't.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Not a one. Really. Even the crazy, furtive one night stands and the early 80s unsafe sex which I survived. I loved it all.

I do regret missing a few, however, several that I still think about. A raven haired actress from New York and two girls who are now my best friends.

 

[Nexxus]

I side with DCL. I don't regret any. I do however regret some ones I missed that were right there for the having. I remember certain weekends in Manhattan that had I been a little more confidant I would have had a few more jaw dropping stories to tell.
Nex

 

[April]

I don't regret any of it. What I do regret, however, is a relationship I had that didn't go the way I wanted. I was not assertive enough, and let him run everything. I think that if I had told him and showed him what I wanted, it would have been infinitely better. But being quite shy, I was incapable of doing that. It's not how I was brought up. Since we broke up, I've changed a bit, but it's all water under the bridge, you might say.

All I have to say about it now is if he was in the area, I sure as hell wouldn't kick him out of bed!

 

[Carl East]

I wish I had never met my very first girlfriend, you see, I was sixteen and still a virgin, yet she pretended to know it all. Then one day, while with a group of her friends, we all split up into several bedrooms, where we were going to do the deed. But being green, and I do mean GREEN, I wasn't sure how to proceed, so I made the mistake of asking her, thinking she knew all there was to know. Needless to say, I had the piss taken out of me, not only by her, but all her friends too. I wish I could go back in time and enter my younger body, God! Would she get it, or what?

As for the second question, my first true love was someone who I never had sexual relations with, but someone I wish could have been part of my life. She dumped me for another eighteen year old, and later married him, but years later, I found out that they divorced. Makes me wonder, what if.

Carl.

 

[Bodizefi]

Well there was the girl that I got genital warts from. I definitely could have skipped that one. Girl I dated when I was 17. We went to third base but didn't ever make love. I loved her and wish we had gone all the way for the first time.

 

[Irontoto]

Yes, there are people I wish I hadn't gotten involved with. There was a time in my life when I was meeting men more or less just for sex. I had a few one night stands, some where my "fault" and some weren't.

explain how some were your fault and others weren't.

 

[Randyrandy]

It is water under the bridge. Can't change it and wouldn't want to. Now as to the future maybe you know more and won't make that same mistake twice. I"ve never been with a woman I did not enjoy.... I hope she has the sam to say about me...

 

[Endlessly]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Alot of people thought I would regret losing my virginity to Himself (waaay back in the day, all of what, three months ago?). I don't, because I loved him and still do.

Thanks to him and a very long story I don't want to take up BB to post, I ended up with a 1.8 GPA, a psychotic episode, and being forced to see a psychiatrist by the college in order for me to attend. This was after losing my work study job and my scholarship to go to Israel for the same reason.

I'm not sure if I regret meeting him. Having met him, I cannot regret falling in love with him.. Haven fallen in love with him, it's impossible for me to regret having sex with him. I completely cut him out of my life not too long ago.. Zero contact.. and it hurt, and it was hard, but I don't regret that either.

*shrug* I guess I don't do the whole regret thing well usually.

 

[Siren]

 

[Thephantomprincess]

If i could take it all back...

I can't believe I'm actually admitting to this one.....My friend and I were at the upperclassman bar last semester, and we got offered to go to this afterhours party at this guys house. Of course we accepted, and when we got there, we found out that it was the two of us girls, and like 20 guys.....I ended up having a 3some with some of them, well more like a petting 3some..No oral and no intercourse. The guy I was jerking off decided not to tell me when he was going to cum and shot his load all over my bottom naked half....I was really upset and demanded he give me money to pay for emergenct contraception so I would have no chance of getting pregnant...It took my and my friend an hour to convince him to give me the money.......He was such an asshole about it all <img src=http://geocities.com/r337m0nk3y/dvv/boid.gif>(that's for the guy).......Then we had to walk about 1/2 a mile in the freezing cold wearing going out clothes (no warmth there). I couldn't sleep alone that morning..I was terrified......

I want to take that all back!!!!!!!!!!! <shudders at the memory>

 

[Endlessly]

Siren.. *smiles* Thank you, though I wasn't really expecting that kind of reaction.. Just answering a question as truthfully as I could (because let's face it, we love talking about ourselves. ).

I'm young, right? And I have a hell of a lot to learn, especially when it comes to love and the finer emotions. So this may be wrong. But I seem to have learned tons in the steps of loving.. The last two being that if you call your love selfless, no matter what selfless acts you have committed in the name of love.. If you still want to stand between your beloved and what they think will make them genuinely happy, it's still only selfish desire. Which is why, when Himself told me that he'd been in love with someone else for the last five years and was going to find her, I backed off.

Second.. Only by taking everything I've learned about how to love and applying it to myself will I ever be able to feel truly healthy.. And apply those principles to someone else.

So it's all good, really.

 

[Savage Kitten]

I regret...

some erotic dreams I've had... only for the fact that they sit rotting in my subconscious while I await a fine hunk of meat to cum along and help me make 'em cum true *wink* hehe

 

[Hullo_nurse]

To all the men I've loved before...

loved, as in sex, not love as in LOVE.....

I don't really regret anything I've done. Yeah, I had pleanty of 1 night stands when I was 22 & 23. I guess I would regret them if they had given me some disease, but I was lucky. But I think I learned about my sexual side during those copulations...

There are a few I wouldn't fuck again, but that is more based on satisfaction than anything else. I believe that all things happen in our lives for a reason. If it hadn't of been for one of the 1 nighters I wouldn't have met my husband in a round about way (actually a direct corolation).

For those of you actually intereted: I screwed this guy in my apartment building; his g/f calls me threatening my life; we become best friends; she dares me to call this Chicago Nightline phone service & place an ad; I place a goofy "met to fuck" ad & a more serious ad; hubbie & I answer each others serious ads at the same time on the same day; hubbie & I meet & fall in love & live happily ever after.

 

[Blues]

Regrets....

No regrets from the partners Ive been with.

But I can think of a few I still wish that I had hooked up with a few years back, one in particular. She was and is one of my all time fantasies. I lost touch with her almost 10 years but just located her again a few weeks ago. Im hoping that this is one fantasy we do expierience.

 

[Xander]

Ahh Shit .......

Blast it!!! There are many things that I regret having doing. Regrets about people I've been with. Regrest about the sex, the relationsships and opening up to someone whose only purpose was to bury me to the neck in a big pile of shit.

Oh yeah. I have regrets. But there's not really anything to be done about that, now is there.......

 

[Floating Head]

A few?

Regrets? First response is to say a few.. But then I wouldn't be the person I am now if I had not had those learning experiences. There are people I wish I had not hurt in my learing process, but the best I can do is to remember those times and try not to repeat the same mistakes again.

And there really isn't anything I can do about the past at this time anyways.

FH

 

[Thumper]

My regrets have nothing to do with loves or sex...directly.

I regret I didn't run off to LA as soon as I graduated high school....I regret getting married so young...only because I didn't know what love was...never even had a girlfreind B4 this one...Didn't get love figured out(or who I was) until I was 29 and already entrenched as was the other...whom I think about still on a daily basis after ten years...

Number one on Siren's list.......YES!!!!!

Thump Thump Thump hehehe

 

[Semaer]

Greetings.

I’m quite new to this BB (though I’v been visiting Literotica regularly the last year or so).
This feels like a good topic to spill my guts about love, regrets and missed opportunities.

Maybe a bit lengthy but bear with me


Well really I don’t have that much to spill I’m still young and still a lot to do and people to
meet. The only thing that been following me like a plaque is my broken heart and the constant
promise to myself to never fall in love again.
Anyway. My first sexual partner, well I was deeply in love with her though I doubt she every
really loved me, though afterwards she has confessed that I was a tool to get rid of her ex-
boyfriend and to use me as her sex toy. She was quite experienced in the field of sex. Every
time we met we ended up in the sack. Every day that passed my love grew. After two month
or so finally the ex-boyfriend was totally out of the picture and she was all mine I thought.
More and more I was feeling a bit sexually used but as a guy I can’t really complain I love sex
over anything (almost). But as they say every good thing has an end. This was true in this
case also and then she was out of my life and a few weeks later she had a new boyfriend and
my misery was complete. But do I regret it? Yes and No. I regret getting so emotional with
her but I sure as hell don’t regret sex with her since she taught me so much.

Missed opportunities don’t everybody got those? The one in particular that comes to mind is
a very dear friend of mine, who I have known since kindergarten. Now and then our friend
have tried to set us up pushing for us to take the final step to sort of relationship and during
the years we both had crushes on each other but never at the same time and thus never really
hit it off. Then a 3 years ago she dropped by for a weekend stay at my place and we both got a
bit tipsy from wine and we kissed a bit and played some teasing games but I think I was to
shy to take the final step and think she also was feeling the same way so we just went to bed
and talked all night falling asleep all curled up. The next month she left for college far away
and soon after she got settled down at her new place she found a boyfriend and now days they
leave together and will probably marry. I do wish I hadn’t been that shy that night and taken
the step. Who knows what have come of it.