Passing on your good looks and good sense

[daughter]

It's been awhile since we've had a parent thread. I don't keep pictures of my children in wallet, but I will talk about my kids at the slightest invitation.

Looking at your kids, how do they favor you? What behaviors or traits are they emulating of you?

My girls crack me up. The eldest frustrates me to no end, but I am also very proud of her. More in a bit.

Tell me about your kids.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Weird Harold]

Looking at your kids, how do they favor you? What behaviors or traits are they emulating of you?

Both of my daughters favor their mother's side of the family for the most part in looks, although there are certain traits and physical characteristics that are obviously from my side. My eldest is beginning to look very much like one of my late aunts.

What is a bit scary though, is that I have a picture of my oldest daughter from when she was four and a picture of my oldest granddaughter at the same age -- The only way I can tell the two pictures apart is that my daughter was allowed to wear hoop earrings at age four, and my granddaughter wasn't!

Both of my daughters and both granddaughters inherited the "climbing gene" that causes grey hair in parents. All of them learned to climb almost before they learned to crawl. Luckily, all but the youngest seem to have outgrown the effects.

Three of the four also inherited the love of reading and word play, and I suspect that without her learning disability the fourth would enjoy reading more as well.

All things considered, I'm exceedingly proud of both daughters and both granddaughters. The fact that my oldest daughter seems to think my parenting was good enough to emulate tends to stroke my ego too.

 

[Skibum]

My two older sons were saddled with my looks, but seem to have their mother's attutude about me. Niether has spoken to me in months.

My youngest looks like his mother, but seems more able to see my point of view.

 

[daughter]

I don't know why

Weird Harold, but I hadn't imagined you old enough to have grand babies. Are their mothers fairly young?

Now I am thinking you are my dad's age. And I'm giggling thinking of some of our few interactions. lol Funny connections running through my head.

Peace,

daughter

 

[lobito]

Don't know who'd want my looks, but for the answer about passing onto MY kids, see previous threads in the last week, that explain my situation.

All I can do at this point is TRY to pass on my good sense to my Wife's Daughter, OUR Daughter. So far so good... I'll let you know in another 13+ years.

Lo

edit - Daughter, thanks for always giving us something to think about, even IF we don't want to at the time. (make sense?)

 

[daughter]

Lawd, work with me

My eldest is short like me. She's my almond child with hazel eyes and reddish brown hair. None of us got my father's eyes. My daughter did. She's bright, stubborn, fiercely independent. Can't imagine where she gets that from. lol She does well in school and works. She's mean as the devil. Pity the fool that crosses her. No exaggeration, my daughter will castrate a male and curse him for having the audacity for even thinkin' about playin' her.

Needless to say, we have issues but we keep trying. We have that classic mother/daughter clash. Lawd, work with me.


Now my youngest. Thema's name means queen, and she is convinced the world is her kingdom. This is my raisin. She's a lovely dark brown child full of chatter and charm. She looks like her dad with lovely round eyes, full thick hair, slim, muscular build. She has my big hands and wide, short feet. I ask her how she knows she is mine and she proudly says, "Mommy I have your hands and feet." My child is among the most popular at school. She's the class entertainer. Outgoing, enthusiastic, and artistic. Where her sister is the academic, this one is a performer. She paints, draws, dances, write stories and acts out plays for me.

Both my children believe that I can make something happen if they want it. They're both talkative and opinionated. They both can be manipulative, and we're currently dealing with the friction of me being less mallable. They can't understand why I've chosen to be more structured and firm. Damn me for being a mom.

My eldest resents it most. She was born to a very young mother. How dare I grow up and be a parent. Funny, I have been told how she brags about me and that she is very protective. But to my face, it is nothing short of a daily battle of the wills, and she hates losing.

My youngest plays the game of guilt and pitting divorced parents against each other. I've had to learn not to give in to her whims. There is value in aging and maturing.

I am proud of my girls. They tickle me as much as they frustrate me. I am glad they are who they are becoming. I'm grateful that apparently they have the resilence to survive me as their mother. They love me despite my shortcomings, and I feel blessed to have them.

Peace,

daughter

p.s. Thanks Lobito. And thank you all for sharing your humor and tolerance. I laugh often on this side of the screen.

 

[lobito]

Re: Lawd, work with me

p.s. Thanks Lobito. And thank you all for sharing your humor and tolerance. I laugh often on this side of the screen.

YW Daughter, glad to see I can still make people laugh today. Wonder if it will work on myself.

 

[plasticman33]

When I married, we brought together her three girls and my daughter. I have been granted the title of dad and my daughter refers to my wife as mom. We have become a united family. Amazingly when I show pictures of the four girls together, I'm always told how much they look like me and that none of them look like their mother. Three of the girls are now married and producing grandchildren. We currently have four, three girls and a boy, to whom I am papa.

How did I get to be this old? Don't feel it, act it or look it, but the fact remains, I'm married to a grandmother.

 

[MidnightAngel]

My poor son was cursed with my family's looks.

His personality is wonderful.....he's very witty and intelligent. But he's also rather quiet and laid-back (he gets that from me. ). He's always concerned about others, and is very sensitive, which I think he gets more from his father. His hair/eye coloring are (unfortunately) from me also. Could he get his father's black hair and pretty blue eyes? Oh No......he had to get brown hair and brown eyes like me!

He's a great kid; always has a smile for everyone. If I'd known he'd grow up to be so cool, I might have had more!

 

[MissTaken]

Well, in some respects, my kidlings are too young to really find how their interests may have been handed down.

My son favors his father, blonde hair, blue eyes, short and stocky, athletic frame. OF course, at six, he wants to be just like his father. I know he will grow out of it, and can't wait!


My daughter resembles me. Fortunately, she took the nice parts, a cute smile and her eyes are like mine. She is four and full of spunk. She also sings all the time and plays at being a teacher, much like her mom did when she was a wee one.

They both love books. Whether a learned trait or something reflecting some genetic quirk, I am pleased. IN fact, my little girl sleeps with her favorite books.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Lawd, work with me

"Mommy I have your hands and feet."

My oldest says the same thing. It doesn't hurt that we look like twins born 23 years apart. My husband found my kindergarten school pic and spent forever trying to figure out where Madison had gotten that outfit.

She is the child that I would have been had I had a sliver of her confidence. She is so sure of herself, of the fact that she's loved, of her brain and her talents, and abilities that she amazes me. I somtimes can't believe I've been allowed to parent this amazing creature. She's mercurial and moody sometimes, but aware of it, and seeks alone time when she knows she needs it.

At 5 years old, she takes shit from no one, not even us. A girl at school was being mean to her, and I was trying to explain that she didn't have to put up with it, that she could remove herself from the situation. She put her hand on my face, looked into my eyes and said "Mommy, some people are just dumbasses, there's nothing we can do about it." Which is exactly what I would have said.

Cady is her father's child. Quick change emotions, and a nasty temper. She gets MAD... stomps through the house, throws her toys, glares like nobody's business. Ten minutes later, she's snuggling on your lap, asking you to play piggies with her toes. She doesn't hold grudges.


Like me, both of them love to read, work puzzles, ride horses and help people (my 5 year old routinely brings me toys she no longer wants to take to the salvation army).

Cady no longer sleeps with stuffed animals... she will only fall asleep clutching a book. She's not two yet.

Before I had children, I think I thought of them as blank slates, just kind of waiting to be filled. I am constantly amazed by what complete people my children have been from the minute they took their first breaths.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: Re: Lawd, work with me

Before I had children, I think I thought of them as blank slates, just kind of waiting to be filled. I am constantly amazed by what complete people my children have been from the minute they took their first breaths.

I completely agree, PCG. I think anybody who has had more than one child knows that they are born with their little personalities completely intact.

Emily is the child who looks most like me. In comparing pictures of when I was her age to her now, it looks like the same child. Other people are starting to notice now too. I took her grocery shopping with me this weekend and 3 people commented that she looks just like me.

Her twin, Olivia, favors my husband's side of the family in looks, as does my son, Zachary.

As far as personalities go, it might be too early to tell. While my son is 5, he is mildly autistic and thus very much his own person.

Olivia (2) is incredibly shy and sensitive and I have no idea where she got those traits. She is serious and smart as a whip. I believe she will be my A student (no pressure though).

Emily (2) is, again, probably most like me. Friendly and outgoing, not afraid of anything or anyone. Nobody will take advantage of this child! Silly and playful, she can charm the pants off of anybody who comes into her field of vision.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Re: Lawd, work with me

Silly and playful, she can charm the pants off of anybody who comes into her field of vision.

yup... that sounds like someone i know

 

[daughter]

Re: Re: Lawd, work with me

Sheput her hand on my face, looked into my eyes and said "Mommy, some people are just dumbasses, there's nothing we can do about it.".

LMAO

Before I had children, I think I thought of them as blank slates, just kind of waiting to be filled. I am constantly amazed by what complete people my children have been from the minute they took their first breaths.

I didn't believe children are blank slates nor do I believe they are complete out the gate. I think we evolve. I believe we impact every person in our life by who we are. To what degree, is relative. As parents, what we do or don't do has an incredible impact on our children. That's an enormous responsibility, and I am sometimes overwhelmed with the notion that I will impact another human being so intimately.

What's more amazing is how much I grow because of my children. We are their guardians, but our children are also our teachers.

Thanks for sharing.

Peace,

daughter

 

[perks]

my babygirl is 10 months old now<sigh>. She is so curious about the world around her. I am not a kid person, but I am definitely a Maddi person. I think she looks like her dad, and has the color of my eyes. She is very independent, is standing on her own, cruising around the furniture, and starting to say words. She says bye bye dada...lol and mamammamamma. She feeds herself<and smacks you if you try to feed her> She changes so much daily, it's like a whole new baby every day. We just had her Dr. appt. and she is 20 pounds, 29 3/4".

Yeah, I'm proud of my duckling. I'm looking forward to watching her to see how she turns out.

 

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[Weird Harold]

Re: I don't know why

Weird Harold, but I hadn't imagined you old enough to have grand babies. Are their mothers fairly young?

My 50th birthday pictures (July 1999):
http://www.literotica.com/storyxs/amateurpics/har040500/har040500.shtml

Both grandaughters (ages 4.25 and 7.75) are from the eldest daughter (age 30 come august) the younger daughter was 23 last October. The (now) 7yo took the picture of me with Snow White.

 

[CeceliaSkye]

I have two children. Kevin my son is ten years old. My daughter, Katy Rose is four. I think my son probably looks more like me than my daughter. Not a whole lot though. In both my children I see bits and peices of their grandparents. One thing I try to encourage in my children, is their own sense of identity. I don't want them to be carbon copies of their parents. I think the last thing a kid needs to carry around with them is the belief that they are just like Mom or Dad.
Kevin is highly intelligent and an artist is the making. Katy Rose is a little clown, and quite the sociallite. I have alot of fun with my kids, when I remember to not take life so seriously....

 

[SweetCherry]

I have a 5 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. My daughter looks like me while my son more resembles his father. They are the lights of my life and I'd do anything for them.

My daughter is an adventurous and bright child who's not afraid to try anything. At 5, she reads better than her 8 year old cousin, leanring most of it just from memory and such, but she's still my whiz kid. She's not afraid to try new things., She's only in kindergarten, and she's already been in Jr Dance Line and is currently in Elementary Wrestling. Kinda surprising when you consider in the entire school, grades K-6, she's one of only 2 girls who's joined.

My son is a "mama's boy". He loves spending time with me and cuddling with me. He's obsessed with dinosaurs and puppies. He loves to sing me "You are my sunshine" and says he loves me "all the way up to Jupiter". He comes across as a rather hyper child who can be a handful at times. Well, OK maybe he is a handful, but he's also a sensative little boy who loves his mama and his sister. He's very protective of her, to the point of wanting to take on older kids (and grown ups) who he thinks are mistreating her. She was getting shots at the doctors once, and when he heard her scream while playing in the waiting room, he took off down the hal calling her name and saying "I'm coming to protect you!" He also is very sad when she goes to school and leaves him here to play alone.

I've been blessed with the 2 children I've given birth to. I wouldn't trade them for anything. Their humor and love has been a constant part of my life for the past 5 years and I'm very thankful to be so blessed.

 

[morninggirl5]

They aren't my biological children, but can I join the bragfest anyway.

I have a total of 5 kids that I claim as MINE with capital letters and would do anything for. Four of them are my best friends children and I've been there for the three youngest since they were babies. Robbie who will be 9 in 2 months was the first child to call me "Mama." He's simply amazing now, straight A's, loves to read, and plays sports with so much determination that he competes with kids twice his size.

Ty, my nephew is 5 1/2 and so much like me it's scary. He's reading already and loves to play games. He's such a little man, there's absolutely no budging him if he's made up his mind about something. He's scheduled to have his tonsils out and tubes in his ears on Friday and I ache for him already.


At this moment, there are 12 others that are mine. They have unlimited hugs, a smile on their face every morning and their views of the world constantly amaze me. I've lost four so far this year and cried for all them for different reasons.


I'm stopping now. I have a paper to write and I can't let myself get caught up in baby lust.


Daughter, another wonderful thread. Thank you.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

MY little angel jacob ,I'm still not sure who he looks like sometimes I see my self in him then there are times I see NS in him.....

I love watching him sleep .. He sometimes sleeps like his father (basically if a tornado came he would sleep through it) But then he sometimes sleeps like me and is a light sleeper ...He is charming in his own way he squeeks when he is sleeping and when he is awake..

He looks around him in wonder... He knows Ns and I voice and knows who he wants he will put up a fit if he doesn't get the person to hold him...

He Knows US by smell and sound... I can't wait for him to get older to see what else he will be getting into... For only being 22days old he charms me every day that I love him even more