Parent-child relationships of the BDSM variety: How do they work?

[Mr Blonde]

Just to be fully clear: We are talking about relationships where one partner is the parent and the other is the child. They are not related by blood but consensual participants in an adult relationship.

How do these relationships work? How is it similar or different from Dominant/submissive and Master/slave arrangements? I plead ignorance but would like to hear from people who have experience in such a relationship. How does it work in a practical (real life) sort of way?

 

[ownedsubgal]

Mr. Blonde, i may not be the best one to respond to this topic, but heck i'll give it a try anyway. my Master is also my Daddy, and i am his little girl. but unlike 99% of other Daddy/lil girl unions, ours has nothing to do with D/s, and is not role play or age play in any way, shape or form. no, he is not my blood father, but he is without question my Father, my Dad. it's a bit difficult to explain. the way our relationship naturally progressed, he was always more of a father figure to me than a mere love interest or mate or simply a Master. there was never even a point where i called him by name...when i began calling him anything at all, it was Daddy, and that is what it has always been. i lost my blood father at a young age, a man who meant the world to me, who i was lost for many years without. i NEEDED a father. but i never went searching for one...i didn't realize or understand at that point those needs. when i got to know Daddy, it was as if he were directed to me personally by my beloved long gone father, because he knew, from whatever state of being he exists in now, that his little girl needed a Daddy here on earth to take care of her and love her as he would have continued to do so if life had not had been so cruel.

most of the vanilla world knows of my Master as my Father. my picture is up in his office, and daily co-workers ask him, "so how is your daughter doing?", because he (very embarassingly) talks about me a great deal, bragging and such like any other proud Daddy. He always refers to me as his daughter, or his little girl, his little one. and to me he is always Daddy, Dad, Father. Him being my Master is something altogether separate. and him being the love of my life is something ELSE altogether. so quite a complex relationship, but it is what came natural for us.

 

[rosco rathbone]

That kind of relationship is not as rare as you think, OSG.

It seems to have worked out extraordinarily well for you, though.

 

[ownedsubgal]

That kind of relationship is not as rare as you think, OSG.

It seems to have worked out extraordinarily well for you, though.

yes it has and no our relationship is not so very rare when one considers the general populace of the world...but among those in D/s, we are definitely among the very very few.

 

[rosco rathbone]

yes it has and no our relationship is not so very rare when one considers the general populace of the world...but among those in D/s, we are definitely among the very very few.

THere are many many many people who are doing what we sophisticates would call "D/s"....they just don't know it.

 

[ownedsubgal]

THere are many many many people who are doing what we sophisticates would call "D/s"....they just don't know it.

true also. though there are of course those among us "sophisticates" who would label a relationship of the nature i'm referring to abuse and not D/s...but D/s, is D/s, is D/s.

 

[rosco rathbone]

true also. though there are of course those among us "sophisticates" who would label a relationship of the nature i'm referring to abuse and not D/s...but D/s, is D/s, is D/s.

There are also a lot of knuckle heads and people who are disconnected from the emotional source of all D/s. THey seek the source of the spring but their fear leads them to fail.

 

[Mr Blonde]

ownedsubgal: Thanks for your answer and it helped explain some things. You said the Daddy relationship was formed first, followed by the Master relationship and then a love relationship? And each have a distinct place in your interaction with this man but the father role is the core aspect? Is that correct? I know it is complicated but I want to make sure I understood you correctly. Thank you for taking the time to explain.

 

[ownedsubgal]

ownedsubgal: Thanks for your answer and it helped explain some things. You said the Daddy relationship was formed first, followed by the Master relationship and then a love relationship? And each have a distinct place in your interaction with this man but the father role is the core aspect? Is that correct? I know it is complicated but I want to make sure I understood you correctly. Thank you for taking the time to explain.

Mr. Blonde..yes the Father/daughter relationship came first and most naturally, and of course there was love between us, but more of a parent/child kind of love. but you would be surprised at how very similar a Father/daughter relationship is to a Master/slave relationship...so that is what naturally came with the package, for us. as to actually falling in love romantically, that took time, and it has only gotten more intense as the years have gone by. basically, i fell in love with my Father, who is also my Master.

 

[Mr Blonde]

Thank you for your reply.