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Well here is my dilema. Lately it seems to me that my fiance is not all that into me anymore. When ever I bring up the topic about sex she is either too tired, too sore (she has some back problems), or she isnt feeling well. We only have sex 2-3 times a month at best. I make sure she cumms before we even begin to have sex I love to go down on her and make her cumm I am a pussy eating fiend I would do it any time she asks, and as for during intercourse she cumms again another 2 or even three times. We have been talking about getting married for some time now we dont have a ton of time to plan a wedding since she was working second shift and me third but now when I bring up the conversation again she just gives me excusees why we can't. Like we dont have the money for it or she is afraid to fly due to the recent events, so I suggested a cruise and we could have the ceremony out on the ocean she told me that it would cost to much then I said how about going to the JP having a party and then with the money that we get we could even just drive some where for a honeymoon her answer to that was I dont want a JP wedding so I suggested we have a small ceremony in a church the answer I got was we dont go to church. I know it seems like I am just rambling on but I really dont have anyone to talk to about this and it is driving me nuts I just dont know what she is thinking or what is the deal with our relationship we have a 17month old daughter and I hope she isnt just staying with me because of her. I am deathly afraid of losing either of them I love her with all my heart and soul but I wish I had some way of knowing what was going on in her head. Thanks for listening to my chaotic ramblings any and all responses are more then welcome.
 
If I were you, and I am speaking from past mistakes, I would sit her down and talk with her. As her pointed questions that she cannot slip out of. i.e." I sense some hesitation on your part, do you really want to get married? Are you happy? I notice we don't make love as often as we used to. It makes me question whether you want ot be with me. Do you? Are you staying with me because our daughter?"

The answers may hurt, but (and this was my mistake), staying with her without your needs being met, staying with her without the love that you need, will mean more hurt, will be more difficult than dealing with the hurt now.

ON the other hand, she may have something weighing on her mind and doesn't realize how you percieve the relationship. Either way, direct speak is the best thing.

I will get down from my soap box and wish you the very best.

I realize I am rambling, but i do have some experience with this...and wish you the best.

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