Painful Sex

[LaOrca]

I was hoping that some of the ladies on the forum could help me before I make an appointment with my gyn. Let me start by saying that I'm 31 and have had very limited experience in terms of intercourse. I lost my virginity at 26 and had intercourse with my ex only a handful of times.

Now, I just had my first recent sexual encounter over the weekend with my current partner in about four years. Sex in the past always started off uncomfortable but got better as I went on. However, this past weekend the sex was VERY painful and it didn't get better. We tried different positions and he was gentle but nothing helped. It was like a burning pain and deeper thrusting was sharper. My partner noticed that after pulling out I looked a bit red and irritated. Needless to say, I felt awful and frustrated. However, he is a great guy and very understanding.

We did not use a condom, so it wasn't an allergic reaction. I was also naturally lubricated enough. As for STDs, I've been tested and the results were all negative. I was also just recently at my gyn and my pelvic exam was normal.

So, to make things weirder, I've had residual irritation since Saturday evenings events. The vaginal opening to the taint are the problem areas. My partner said he had no trouble getting inside of me and felt no resistance internally.

Have any other female members had a similar situation? If so, how did you resolve it?

Oh, for the record, I'm on low hormone birth control for heavy menstral cycles. Could this be part of the issue?

I'll be calling my doctor but was just hoping for some input. Thanks in advance.

 

[glynndah]

I was hoping that some of the ladies on the forum could help me before I make an appointment with my gyn. Let me start by saying that I'm 31 and have had very limited experience in terms of intercourse. I lost my virginity at 26 and had intercourse with my ex only a handful of times.

Now, I just had my first recent sexual encounter over the weekend with my current partner in about four years. Sex in the past always started off uncomfortable but got better as I went on. However, this past weekend the sex was VERY painful and it didn't get better. We tried different positions and he was gentle but nothing helped. It was like a burning pain and deeper thrusting was sharper. My partner noticed that after pulling out I looked a bit red and irritated. Needless to say, I felt awful and frustrated. However, he is a great guy and very understanding.

We did not use a condom, so it wasn't an allergic reaction. I was also naturally lubricated enough. As for STDs, I've been tested and the results were all negative. I was also just recently at my gyn and my pelvic exam was normal.

So, to make things weirder, I've had residual irritation since Saturday evenings events. The vaginal opening to the taint are the problem areas. My partner said he had no trouble getting inside of me and felt no resistance internally.

Have any other female members had a similar situation? If so, how did you resolve it?

Oh, for the record, I'm on low hormone birth control for heavy menstral cycles. Could this be part of the issue?

I'll be calling my doctor but was just hoping for some input. Thanks in advance.

It does sound like some sort of allergic reaction. Did either of you change laundry detergent, switch soaps or lotions or anything along those lines? Could it be some sort of vaginal infection that coincidentally manifested itself at the critical time?

Sorry I'm not much help, but they are things to consider.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Any possibility of a yeast infection? They sometimes show up as a side-effect of BC; if you've been taking antibiotics lately that can also do it.

Some info here:

http://www.prevention.com/health-conditions/painful-sexual-intercourse-dyspareunia

 

[VioletteSzabo]

Is it possible that you have endometriosis?

 

[LaOrca]

My mom had a very bad case around my age so it wouldn't surprise me. The only odd part is I don't have extremly painful periods or pelvic pain otherwise. However, I may just not have those particular symptoms.

 

[LadyVer]

This could be due to a lot of reasons like infection, not a lot of sex, the angle of penetration, etc. It's best to see an OBGYN doc and get evaluated.

 

[KiKi71]

Yes..

There is a condition that many women have. Unfortunately I can't remember the name of it right now. My sister is one of those women. There are things that you and your gyno can do. There are several things to try. The most evasive is surgery, but it can be better for you.

 

[albertaboy]

My mom had a very bad case around my age so it wouldn't surprise me. The only odd part is I don't have extremly painful periods or pelvic pain otherwise. However, I may just not have those particular symptoms.

My wife has had fybroids over the years, occasionally painful for her.

The outside irritation seems like something else though, maybe a yeast infection.

Sorry I'm a guy but when you have been married almost 30 years and have a 22 year old daughter...

 

[MaryanneB]

The other thing to consider is this- if you don't get satisfaction from your GYN, get a second opinion. Endometriosis shouldn't show irritation at the entrance to the vault. Off hand I'd say it's a lack of lubrication. It may seem to be enough for you but maybe enough for your vagina. I realize this sounds flippant but try LOTS of good lube and see if that makes a difference. It may be a matter of trying things to see what works.
Seeing your GYN is a good start but, as I said, if you don't get enough satisfaction, get a second opinion. Any doc with a secure attitude in their abilities would be happy with another set of eyes....so to speak. If you have access to a University hospital, you may consider a doc who specializes in sexual problems. There aren't many but well worth the time to look at. Good luck. Let me know how you do.

 

[Everyday_Man]

Sorry I'm a guy but when you have been married almost 30 years and have a 22 year old daughter...

yes? finish the statement after .... please.

If you have access to a University hospital, you may consider a doc who specializes in sexual problems.

'Hey doc, I got a sexual problem.'

'What is it?'

"I ain't getting any!"

ba-dum-t-shhh