Pain Sluts

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Us Southern guys are born knowing how to apply a leather belt against a bare ass. The first time I spanked a woman's bottom with my belt I knew exactly what I was doing and she enjoyed it.

I watched a vid of a women being spanked with a paddle. Her ass changed to dark red after 6 swats or so, and it looked convincing, from what I observed.

But pain isn't something I'm in to. Spanking is one of those duties like changing a tire or picking up dog shit, necessary but far down the list of circus attractions I came to see.

So, please help me out, for those of you who relish pain, what do you get from it? I have an hypothesis, but I wanna learn if the pain keeps some women in abusive relationships. Is the thrill enough.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

The socio-biological theory is: females come from the factory with pain tolerance as standard equipment, because of pregnancy; until recent times women were pregnant all the time. Women also tolerate many cosmetic applications that are painful or uncomfortable...hello high heels. And they re-frame many painful/uncomfortable activities that produce outcomes they esteem.

 

[49greg]

Got no idea here. The closest I came was a girl I met many years ago who, it turned out when we were in the bedroom, wanted to spank me. Heck, my motto used to be "try anything once". It hurt just like I remembered when my dad would do it when I got caught for something.

I found I am a wimp pain wise and stopped the proceedings. But she was hot and bothered after delivering just a few to my butt. In the end it just wasn't worth it, and eventually we went our separate ways.

So I can't say I know why or how someone would enjoy being spanked, but I have met one girl that certainly enjoyed dishing it out.

 

[Katiecat]

I can't speak as someone who "relishes" pain, but speaking in generalities...

Love, sex, and pain all stimulate the release of endorphins; stress and pain can also stimulate serotonin and melatonin production in the brain. Epinephrine and norepinephrine released while experiencing pain can also cause a pleasurable "rush", like the high that long distance runners feel.

This is why a significant number of us like rough sex at least once in a while, a love bite, a sharp pinch on a nipple, a smack on the ass, fingernails scratched down our back, or our hair pulled during sex. But once those endorphins subside, the fingerprint bruises, scratch marks, rug burns, and sore muscles don't feel as good as they did during the heat of the moment.

As for your suggestion that the pain and thrill is what keeps some women in abusive relationships? I don't agree. Pain that is a sexual thrill is consensual and in a moment of sexual arousal.

Abuse is not a thrill. People who stay in abusive relationships do so for many reasons: fear, belief that the abuse is normal, low self esteem, embarrassment, cultural/religious expectations, reliance on the abusive partner financially, nowhere to go, disability, they have children with the partner, or they even love the abusive partner -- or some combination of those things. They don't stay with an abuser because it is sexually thrilling.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I can't speak as someone who "relishes" pain, but speaking in generalities...

Love, sex, and pain all stimulate the release of endorphins; stress and pain can also stimulate serotonin and melatonin production in the brain. Epinephrine and norepinephrine released while experiencing pain can also cause a pleasurable "rush", like the high that long distance runners feel.

This is why a significant number of us like rough sex at least once in a while, a love bite, a sharp pinch on a nipple, a smack on the ass, fingernails scratched down our back, or our hair pulled during sex. But once those endorphins subside, the fingerprint bruises, scratch marks, rug burns, and sore muscles don't feel as good as they did during the heat of the moment.

As for your suggestion that the pain and thrill is what keeps some women in abusive relationships? I don't agree. Pain that is a sexual thrill is consensual and in a moment of sexual arousal.

Abuse is not a thrill. People who stay in abusive relationships do so for many reasons: fear, belief that the abuse is normal, low self esteem, embarrassment, cultural/religious expectations, reliance on the abusive partner financially, nowhere to go, disability, they have children with the partner, or they even love the abusive partner -- or some combination of those things. They don't stay with an abuser because it is sexually thrilling.

I don't know, so I ask Then I contemplate the info I get, to extract the sense in it. I accept your points AND I suspect some 'victims' get something sensual from what happens with their 'abusive' lovers. Maybe my hunch is nonsense. Prolly. Thank you for your thoughts!