Pain- responses and limits

[Duncan1981]

I have a question gda...What kinda mindset are you in when this happens? I believe sometimes you need to turn the mind off and let the body move the way it needs. This is just the way i think about it and I am waiting for your answer to it.

 

[Aurantica]

I know it maybe simplistic to ask, but what truly turns you on. As someone suggested on this thread, it isn't always the act, but the response to it that turns a person on. It can (or may not) go deeper too. It may be that he truly wants you to be expressive and feel comfortable expressing what you feel and move past the experiences of your childhood that have shaped your reactions. While I certainly dont know what his motivation is, I know that as a Dom if I was able to 'rehabilitate' a sub and have her feel comfortable voicing her discontent where she was previously unable to due to behaviors developed in her childhood, it would give me immense satisfaction!

To suggest what you may do, I'd suggest (and please take it for what its worth) that you try and have him be more intimidating either by inflicting greater pain, having an element of surprise in it, or just scaring you where you don't know whats coming when. The idea is to get you to a point where you truly DO react (in spite of your stoic self). And seeing him react positively to your reaction may likely open the floodgates for you and in the future you may be more open with your whimpers and whines!

I agree.
Also, may I reccomend meditating or doing some sort of self-awareness thing before a session? I know I have learned to literally tune out pain, and sometimes that isnt a good thing. If youre very aware of what's being done to you, it become alot more enjoyable.