Pain or Emptiness?

[Moridin187]

Which is better?

To be completely filled with all consuming, heart wrenching, emotional anguish.. Or to be completely empty and devoid of feeling?

 

[Wiggles]

If it was one or the other, I would rather have the pain. I wouldn't want to be a zombie.

But, if I was exposed to the pain too often, I would eventually section off my feelings, and be numb.

 

[MissTaken]

At least when hurting, I am reminded that I am an animate and feeling human being .

The alternative is far worse. Veggie time!

 

[seXieleXie]

pain passes. numbness doesn't... and when it does it usually just gives way to more pain. pain makes the good times seem that much better. pain makes the only slightly bad times seem not so bad after all.

it has a purpose. that which does not kill us only makes us stronger.


*hugs for moridin*

 

[Moridin187]

pain passes. numbness doesn't... and when it does it usually just gives way to more pain. pain makes the good times seem that much better. pain makes the only slightly bad times seem not so bad after all.

it has a purpose. that which does not kill us only makes us stronger.


*hugs for moridin*

Thanks everyone for the input.. hope to see more..
Thanks for the hug leXie, but I'm okay, really.. *twitch*

What brought this up though was a conversation I had with an ex.. She asked me how I felt.. I said that I felt empty.. She said that she was full of pain.. I said I preferred the emptiness.. She said she preferred the pain.. *shrugs slightly* Just wanted to see what the Liters' take on this subject was.

 

[JaymesBlond007]

Would rather have emotion.

Never did mind the pain. It actually has some extremely high motivational power.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Although it can hurt like hell, I chose pain since I think getting through this a.s.a.p. will eventually let you release and let go of it. Emptiness is more physically comfortable, but is sort of a numbing agent. Eventually you wind up facing the pain anyway and it might be harder to work yourself through it by then.

Sometimes this isn't a choice. For example, I'm still numb regarding the 9/11 attack. I think my system was overloaded emotionally. I will not be able to release this anguish until I face up to the pain and loss. Hope I have the guts to do this soon.

 

[IA951]

this is an excellent question.

I've tended to swing between the two.
If I had to make a choice, I would have to choose the void.
I'm no fan of pain and if there is a choice between eternal pain or eternal void, void gets my vote.

 

[Ice Cold]

I'd take the emptiness. I can still function and work and have some semblance of a life than be a wretched mess who can't put complete thought together because of being consumed by the pain.

 

[CelestialBody]

I'm in semi-zombie state

 

[sigh]

i chose pain out of experience with both

when you're numb you might as well be dead...pain is a catalyst for getting rid of the pain

you move forward

you get better

eventually, you smile again

 

[Guest]

 

[cellis]

I choose the pain...

I have this little theory (not new by any means) that one cannot experience true joy without experiencing pain...

And NO is has nothing to do with BDSM!!
(although I just realized it does apply there, too )

 

[Moridin187]

Okay, time to honor my policy of never asking a question without answering it myself...

As some of you may have surmised, I choose emptiness. The pain can and has gotten so bad at times that I literally could not get out of bed. I simply was so consumed with what was going on inside me I went into a sort of catatonic state.. I'd withdraw into it again if I could right now.. But a close friend won't let me, that friend is afraid of losing me, so I stay the way I am for my friend.

I spent four years once in the emptiness.. My friend refers to it as "Moridin mode".. long story.. I didn't ever have to face up to the pain... I just went on from day to day, feeling nothing, caring about nothing... At least that way I can function to an extent.. It's better than breaking down into a psychotic episode in public.. And I'm on the edge of that at times..

 

[Xander]

I'd rather choose pain over emptiness, if I had to choose one.
Unfortunately experience tells me that after pain comes emptiness and numbness.

 

[celiaKitten]

I would choose emptiness.

My experience has been that the numb feeling doesn't last long enough, but the pain lingers and can be re-opened at the smallest thought or trigger.

Definitely emptiness.

 

[bored1]

Pain or Emptiness What a choice.For me pain has led to an emptiness that I sometimes wonder if it will end.While I still function Im devoid of feeling<except for my kids>To find something that would bring a passion to my life would be great.I think lack of caring is a self preservation thing.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Hey, now ... this is my kinda question!

Since life is without purpose or meaning, and since I learned to live with that particular ailment years ago, I'd choose my old friend emptiness.

It beats the sucking chest wound I've been suffering from any day of the week.


~H~