P.D.A.

[Lust Engine]

We all see it! Two people holding hands, two people kissing, lovers with their arms around one another and then we see people groping, grabbing and deep deep kissing in public. While some forms of affection are tolerated, certain ones are not.

At what point is PDA (public displays of affection) over the top??

At what point should couples stop & just take it to a hotel room??

 

[spankableBelle]

Not sure you want the 5yr old walking down the sidewalk holding mommy's hand with wide eyed innocence to watch as you and your lover screw against the telephone pole...although, you're not going to be the one that has to explain it, now, are you?

i don't think there's anything wrong with PDA...and there are public places that it does not draw negative attention...

i like holding hands, kissing, groping and in a place that it is not likely to be frowned upon, or in a place where it is very likely looked upon with lusty eyes i would venture farther than the groping...but just like everything, there is a time and place for such displays...Main Street U.S.A in Disney World is not the place, in my opinion for anything more than fun playful touching, kissing, and ass-grabbing...let the kids be innocent for a little while longer, it gets taken away far too quickly these days...and then we end up with 14 year olds on here wondering when girls want to have sex...

that thought was maybe worth 1/2 a cent...

belle


hello Lust E

 

[spankableBelle]

Although, if one can find a cozy little niche in an unsuspecting public place for some yummy sex...well, more power to 'em...woohoo!!!

 

[millieteases]

There are two words that answer this question - Be Discreet.

Expressions of love are appropriate. A kiss, a hug, even a little ass grabbing.

Keep your hands off her breasts and both of you keep your hands off each other's crotches.

Assume you are being watched - by someone you don't want watching you.

Assume the picture might be on the news tonight, or in tomorrow's newspaper, or all over the Internet.

This goes for language too - you never know who's listening when you tell her in specific, obscene detail what you'd like to be doing with her.

 

[scoperella]

agree with all of the above

Hand-holding, go or it. Arms wrapped around each other, great. A kiss or two here or there, great. Making out, groping ... save it for the car or HOME.

Think of it in two ways: imagine your mother and father or son or daughter walked into the restaurant you were groping in, passed you on the street you were grinding on, etc. Would you want them to see that? Now think of the things your 13 or 14 year old child might be doing with his or her boyfriend or girlfriend. If you'd freak out if you knew they were doing it (having breasts felt up, rubbing a cock through pants, really steamy make-out sessions, etc.), then you shouldn't be doing it in public.

Of course there are some exceptions. If you're in a bar, a strip club, a nudist colony, etc. with your significant other ... hey, have at it.

 

[dreamer]

I think we're all pretty much on the same page, but to keep my post total climbing I'll throw out my opinion.

PDA...I'm as guilty as the next guy. Sheesh...maybe more. I think location dictates some level of appropriateness. I imagine screwing on the aisle DURING church would be pretty damn wrong. But a touch here and a kiss there in public? No problem. Some heavy groping and deep frantic kisses? Depends on the location.

I think common sense rules apply. But I'd NEVER give up holding hands or those little spontanious pecks. Regardless of the situation.

 

[pinksateendream]

pecks and hugs

little kisses and hugs and hand holding are awesome.. and the occasional take-your-breath-away lip lock behind a tree is amazing too... i agree that it is all about being discreet... an example

i was in a fast food style restaurant on campus and was standing in line for my food after making my order. the coulple in front of me was showing their tongues to the world as well as letting their hands fly everywhere.. there was crotch grabbing.. the girl said she was all wet...they were not more than 3 feet away from me and to tell you the truth i walked out without my food... lost my apetite... i think that they really went too far.. but then again in clubs i see this sort of thing and it isn't so disturbing...

another example was in a nearby coffee shop... the girl in front of me had her hand down her boyfriends pants and was jerking him off right there in front of anyone... i heard her whisper to her boyfriend "i don't think anyone even notices.." arrrgghhhh

last but not least... man and woman sitting in the front row of class..... long desks stretching from one end of the room to the other... the girl had on a skirt the guys pants were unzipped.. didn't think anyone could see them.. the professor noticed them because he could see underneath the table and got all red and disturbed and cancelled class...

it is all about the time and place i suppose...

 

[peachykeen]

I think a good general rule is, anything you wouldn't do in front of your own parents, you shouldn't do in front of anyone else's.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

mild PDA is fine...

I agree. I own my own business and when my gf shows up I am ware that we have people of all ages there. Sometimes I'm very careful.

however, I think we both want to do the whole public sex thing. But we are both aware that it needs to be TOTALLY discreet and careful.

PowrDragn

 

[pinksateendream]

well i do think it is kind of a turn on for people to see us kissing... just in the right atmosphere.. and as long as we are both comfortable....

 

[CuriouslilQT]

my first time

Since we talking about PDA....I started to remember my first time which was not so long ago. Ha..and you wouldnt want to know where..at a theme park! My boyfriend and I were standing in line to a ride, we both started getting real horny..and I started to slight rub myself on him. Thinking no one noticed...I grabed his crotch. BUT as I turned around some guy was looking at me. Now I dont know if he noticed or not but it sure was embarassing. And even if he didnt..I am sure someone did. I made sure that I didnt do anything like that again.

It was fun though...hehehe...

 

[Native Alien]

personally

i like peachykeen's way of putting it. there is a time and place for everything, and everything should be done in it's time and place.

I don't mind the hand-holding and the little pecks, but i don't like having to try to explain to my five year old nephew the situations that we see in the mall sometimes when some guy and some girl have their tongues down each other's throats and their hands in places that they shouldn't be.

 

[thedirtypoet]

IMHO

I'm a very affectionate person and used to kiss, cuddle etc in all variety of places. It was only after we split up that she bothered to tell me that she thought I was being insecure and possesive so be careful eh? (This werent the reason we split)

On a kinkier note on several occasions we went as far as oral sex, heavy duty fingering in corner of car parks and even a rest stop at side of dual carriageway..... boy did she have massive orgasms!

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: IMHO

I'm a very affectionate person and used to kiss, cuddle etc in all variety of places. It was only after we split up that she bothered to tell me that she thought I was being insecure and possesive so be careful eh? (This werent the reason we split)

On a kinkier note on several occasions we went as far as oral sex, heavy duty fingering in corner of car parks and even a rest stop at side of dual carriageway..... boy did she have massive orgasms!

Do we think that people who are heavy into PDA are less secure in their relationships?? Is it the assumption that if they're somehow seperated, they collapse & become emotional nerds??

As far as your kinkier note, I think we might need to get an Outdoor Sex thread going soon!

 

[thedirtypoet]

Fanks

Fanks Lust Engine.... so nice of you to say so......

If you want to know more then let me know an e-mail address and I'll tell you about what we did in a local car park that was soooo dirty that it even suprised me.....

E

 

[SXCRgirl]

It's all about being appropriate. I love hand holding and unexpected kisses while with my SO. But there are things that I wouldn't feel comfortable doing while OUT there in public. Deep throat kissing and hands under clothes would be ruled out in theme parks where there are a lot of children. However, when a woman is wearing a cropped top and the man casually slides his finger along the waist of her shorts/jeans, that's okay. For as long as it's not vulgar and offensive.

Now, while driving to Vegas around 230 am - that's a different story.

 

[Diablogrl]

I just got back from a cruise where I met someone who was very much into PDAs. Having never dated a guy who was at all into PDAs, I wasn't so sure how to handle him. You see, before, it was always an issue of just getting the guy to hold my hand in public...all of my previous boyfriends felt uncomfortable with such an outward showing of affection.

I think we can all agree there are somethings that are always ok to do...hand holding, light pecks on the cheeks and/or lips when leaving each other's company. As stated above, there are also other things that are permissible depending on the circumstances.

Nonetheless, I was uncomfortable with light kisses on the cheek in public...I wasn't used to them. Now, later on after a heavy round of drinking, we were grinding just outside my cabin door at 2:30am when a couple walked in on us! Talk about being very uncomfortable.

Sometimes, you have to listen to your own internal barometer to know what's ok and what's not.

 

[Lust Engine]

It's all about being appropriate.

For as long as it's not vulgar and offensive.

Now, while driving to Vegas around 230 am - that's a different story.

I guess everyone has to find their own level of "being appropriate" and defining "vulgar and offensive" is always such a trick!

And I know I'm driving on the wrong roads at the wrong time! I'm sure we'd love to know what kind of frivolity you had in mind on the way to Sin City at 2:30 AM!! Woo hoo!